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<blockquote> <blockquote> <blockquote> <p>Unless there is a situation which involves intervention to prevent the loss of life, we must "let go" of them. <<<<</p> </blockquote> </blockquote> </blockquote>
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<p>I don't think that it has to be "that" extreme in order to rationalize saying "something" if an adult child (or even a friend) is about to make a really dumb mistake that will have drastic results. </p>
<p>It almost seems as if some here think that adult children don't need advice but I'm sure these same people think nothing of offering advice to their friends. </p>
<p>My parents still will kindly offer advice to me and I don't mind at all. Their wisdom and experience has kept me from making some expensive mistakes. (H and I are late 40s and my parents are 78 & 86). They treat me with respect and dignity so I know that their advice does not come from the perspective that they think that I am stupid -- I know that they have seen/experienced things that I haven't -- and I don't mind learning from them or their mistakes. When my H and I were shopping for our first home, my parents were able to offer insights that we didn't have. We didn't have children yet so my mom was able to "see" that some homes were more "kid friendly" than others. My dad was able to "see" which homes would be "high maintenance" (My H is NOT the "handy" type!) Frankly, I would have been annoyed with them if they had remained quiet and let us just blindly buy a home and later learn that they knew about the home's shortcomings but hadn't pointed them out to us.</p>
<p>(Now, don't misunderstand me... I am talking about "adult to adult advice/discussions". I am NOT talking about "do as I tell you, I am the parent" kind of advice - which really are "orders". And, I'm not talking about giving criticisms AFTER some choice has already been implemented. such as: I told you not to buy THAT house/car, etc.)</p>