<p>As this thread has progressed over the last 24 hours, I have prayed and hoped and shed tears. I am so glad to see so many of our students are safe and heartbroken to learn of the deaths. I pray that the staff and families of those UA staff are safe and that the Sharpes, Batsons, Morgans, etc. are all safe and sound.</p>
<p>Several years ago we were directly hit by Hurricane Rita. Houses were ripped apart all around us and right next door. The debris piles from our yard alone was 9-12 feet high, 80 feet long and 12-14 feet wide. The tornado went through our back yard and ripped homes and buildings around our home completely apart or did devastating damage. When my husband and I came back early the next day to go to work in the response effort, we found seniors wandering in the streets dazed and shocked. Some were pinned in their homes. A brief few years later Hurricane Ike hit and a 16 foot wall of water moved upriver from our home…just three blocks away. The levee held and the inland county was devastated.</p>
<p>Some of our new UA family and students are feeling this hollow sense of shock, horror, gratitude and disbelief. They continue to move forward, to help others and to do whatever is necessary to recover. It is a willingness to roll up your sleeves, a selflessness to give to others and a spirit and determination that exemplifies the character of those recovering from the trauma. And recover they - and we - will.</p>
<p>We also learned some horrific lessons in the aftermath. I truly do not want to alarm anyone but please please know that your loved ones who return home could very well have post traumatic stress disorder. It will vary in different levels and manifests itself at different levels. It may be something that your family can handle and discuss and move through together, it may require counseling from professonals or clergy. Please know that going home away from Tuscaloosa will not stop the grief process or the shock or the guilt or the gratitude…whatever they are experiencing. </p>
<p>In moving forward after the first hurricane we lost a loving seventh grader from our church family who committed suicide. Others followed. Some adults and students needed long term counseling. I am only posting this to sincerely ask you to have an open discussion with your loved ones and children. Three months from now, still have this discussion and have it again when they return to campus in the Fall. In time the surreal aspect of this does fall away and the grief process begins. It can bring those of us who are professionals to our knees as well. Those who care for others need to debrief and discuss. It sounds like many of you have tremendous heroes in your kids. Those kids who volunteered in the immediate aftermath and saw and heard things that will stay with them always. God Bless them for their courage and compassion. Let’s support them when the reality sinks in over time.</p>
<p>I really hope that I haven’t unduly alarmed you or offended you. Living through this with a pre-teen and now a child who proudly joins UA in the Fall has given me great insight. Living with it in a professional capacity adds to the insight. Living it as the daughter of a senior citizen powerhouse mom who had a stroke after the shock of the second hurricane adds to the package. </p>
<p>For all of us it is about not just living through a massive tragedy but thriving after it. That path will have stumbling blocks. Please let your babies and friends know that it is normal, that there is help and encourage them to find it. If they have never dealt with anything of this magnitude, destruction and loss of life, they need our support.</p>
<p>You have all been so gracious in sharing your knowledge, experiences and passion for UA with my family. It has been said before that we all have a connection on here and I feel it and am thankful for it. I hope that this heartfelt message just prompts your discussions with your loved ones and also your observations of their behavior and thoughts. If there is anything I can do please do not hesitate to contact me. The UA family, Tuscaloosa residents, Alabama and the South remains in my prayers. </p>
<p>As incident command continues to process the event, secure the town and restore emergency services across the South, we will see the eyes of the world turn to the next press event. Please be very vigilent as to what we can do or donate. Those of you in the vicinity please let us know how we can best contribute. If they continue with the June Bama Bound events, we will be in town and hope to contribute then if not before. Your guidance would be appreciated.</p>