<p>general consensus--if a boy walks 15-20 min across campus to randomly show up and knock on your door to hang out, does he like you?</p>
<p>(gah, why do these things always develop right when people are about to leave for the summer????)</p>
<p>not entirely sure, but it certainly would make more sense if that were the case.</p>
<p>I'm trying to think of some sort of scenario in which I'd really go out of my way and hang out with a chick and I'm really only coming up with "friend and I'm in the area" and "I've got that old-fashioned feeling, the one where I'd do anything to bone her" (Dumb and dumber is such a great movie).</p>
<p>okay, slightly more details.... he was in the area for a night lab but still came up to my room to chill before hand... also had never been to my room before... I had the horrible unfortunate luck of still being all yucky from horseback riding today (had an awful ride-fell, etc--so i just crashed in bed until he showed up--stretch pants, giant T-shirt, purple cat socks and all, not my prettiest moment), but it was still fun and luckily not akward.... hmmmmm.... oh boys...... er, boy....</p>
<p>^^^ That's a special feeling</p>
<p>awwww, I like this thread ^_^</p>
<p>I think, well honestly I think it could go both ways. If you likes you as a friend, then he could have just been stopping by as a friend... I dunno how close you two are. But, you can't really tell for sure unless he actually does something (like ask you out :) ), and if hes the shy type and you like him you could always ask him out (honestly though!)</p>
<p>Buttt... yea! gl with whatever happens</p>
<p>i think it just depends. i used to stop in at my best friends house whenever i was in the area (which was pretty much all the time since his house was literally right between my apartment and my college.. and i walked. i passed it every day). For the longest time I actually kept a tub of ice cream in his freezer and i'd stop by and get some of it on my way to class. :) and there was nothing between us... i actually have a boyfriend of almost 6 years..</p>
<p>my friend used to walk up to my house to hang out randomly too. no big deal.</p>
<p>but maybe you and your friend aren't as close, which i'm guessing since he's never been there before... so maybe.</p>
<p>Only one way to find out...</p>
<p>aww, human emotions make me puke.</p>
<p>It doesn't necessarily mean he likes you. </p>
<p>It absolutely does mean that he wants to hook up with you.</p>
<p>seriously now, guys think girls are confusing. I'm thinking that guys are just as bad.</p>
<p>Oh truly guys can be muuuuch more complicated than women. Sure we can be predictable at times... but some of my female friends absolutely hate the fact that "guys are so complicated" Guess that shows you where stereotypes may take ya, ;) nowhere!</p>
<p>guys ARE so confusing... I wonder, as a girl I know I can be confusing, but do boys know they're confusing?</p>
<p>We're not super good friends, but we're kind of. . . friends who met and instantly felt like we were better friends than we were, but its akward cause we don't actually know eachother that well, so we kind of have to go through the basic steps of friendship while feeling like we're better friends.... at least thats how I interpret it.... and I do overinterpret.... oh well..... gah, I heart him....</p>
<p>he was in my dreams two nights in a row, in realistic just hanging out situations, and I almost never dream of people I actually know, let alone two nights in a row.... I wish there were some way to ask him without letting him know I like him, but alas, thats not possible...</p>
<p>My gut feeling as a guy is that your "friend" is looking for a quick score. And that's EXACTLY why its happening with summer around the corner. Instead of dating and having to break up with a girl the timing conveniently does it for him; go out a few times, hopefully hook up, and then "see you in the fall" takes care of it for him. After all, he hasn't even put much into it other than show up at your room (convenient, no?) Has he done other concrete things to show he's thinking with the big head and not the little one, such as, say, asking you on a date?</p>
<p>If you're ok with that, then do it. OTOH maybe you're interested in something a little more permanent/serious, in which case I'd advise against it.</p>
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I wish there were some way to ask him without letting him know I like him
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Oh, but there is! Just ask as a laughing flirty question "why did you wait until NOW to hang out with me!" If you say it in a spur-of-the-moment carefree manner as opposed to a quiet all-serious manner you're still asking but implying much less about yourself; after all it could mean you're really not interested and are just wondering why he seems to be.</p>
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My gut feeling as a guy is that your "friend" is looking for a quick score. And that's EXACTLY why its happening with summer around the corner.
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<p>Nice to see that someone else notices the obvious truth. Guys are very transparent and straightforward. </p>
<p>The reason some girls have trouble interpreting their actions is because they attach an unnecessary amount of significance to a lot of trivial and irrelevant details like intonation, eye contact, etc. (Which are all important elements of girls communicating with one another)</p>
<p>Yes, equine99, your guy friend wants to have sex with you.</p>
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The reason some girls have trouble interpreting their actions is because they attach an unnecessary amount of significance to a lot of trivial and irrelevant details like intonation, eye contact, etc. (Which are all important elements of girls communicating with one another)
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So true! Sometimes you see this from the reverse angle; a girl is doing everything to show a guy she's interested. She smiles a lot and laughs, acts like his jokes are hilarious, feigns an interest in movies/songs that he likes, etc. Every girl around is rolling her eyes wondering "could she be MORE obvious?" and yet the guy misses it <em>completely</em>.</p>
<p>I don't think these things are unimportant, its just that guys haven't learned them yet. Every girl can draw a complete social map of girls in their HS, who is friends with who and so on. During those years of endless talk and practice on each other, guys were playing sports or slugging each other. Different training, to say the least ...</p>
<p>nay i contest! hehe, with actual reason. First, we didn't meet until february. . . oh what the heck, I'll just repost the email he sent me... names have been changed to protect the innocent:</p>
<p>hey this is not how i would like to talk to you, but i need to get something out of my head right now. ive been thinking alot and tonight i was talking to someone and i realized that i have completely forgotten to talk to you in the past weeks. basically im going to come straight out and tell you a few things. when i first met you i thought you were a really different person, someone that was willing to be themself no matter what. there were a few things that annoyed me about you and so i tended to shy away. but then i thought to myself and forced myself to talk to you and i realized that you are a really cool cat, (ps that has nothing to do with you being a potter, but that didnt hurt either). so you probably noticed that i was talking to you a little more because finding someone thats cool in my book is very hard to do. around this time dana and sarah stopped sitting near us in astro for various reasons, yet i continued to. then the **** hit the fan with dana and i, and im so annoyed with her right now that i cant even sit near her, so i moved to the back of the room. i basically spent 200 words right here to say that it has nothing to do with you and that id like to be friends with you... so whatev and ill see you on monday (but from the back of the room). why is it that everyone that im friends with has such a problem with weed? i wish i could be more open wiht them but im almost positive that i would lose even more friends if i told them. im sure that you feel the same way but im beginning to ramble. bye. call/text if you wanna hang out some time</p>
<p>so there was a chunk of time when we kind of stopped being friends, and I didn't know why, then he sent this email, and it was awesome to know that it wasn't something I'd done. So we've only recently been friends again. That email is about a lil over 2 weeks old.</p>
<p>PLus he's never tried anything. </p>
<p>Also, blah, I don't know if I'm all that attractive. I mean, all of my friends tell me I'm pretty, but you can never actually trust your friends over these things. I'm not anything anyone would call skinny. I mean, I still fit in one chair/airplane seat etc (lol), but I am by no means a small girl. if anyone im's me I'll send you a pic of me for a true outsider who's not afraid of hurting my feelings opinion, but I guess that is what makes it so hard for me to believe that he might actually like me "like that".</p>
<p>I refer you to the Billy Crystal classic, "When Harry Met Sally"
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Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.</p>
<p>Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?</p>
<p>Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
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Just joking, kinda. Bottom line, though, my advice is still take things slow.</p>
<p>lol I like that quote! but does it apply to fat chicks??? I'm "pretty," but I'm also big. I don't plan on jumping him anytimesoon, I just like to have things figured out inside my head...</p>
<p>badgolfer- </p>
<p>Yeah, you're absolutely correct in post #13. It took me a long, long time before I figured that out. </p>
<p>equine-</p>
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Also, blah, I don't know if I'm all that attractive. I mean, all of my friends tell me I'm pretty, but you can never actually trust your friends over these things. I'm not anything anyone would call skinny. I mean, I still fit in one chair/airplane seat etc (lol), but I am by no means a small girl. if anyone im's me I'll send you a pic of me for a true outsider who's not afraid of hurting my feelings opinion, but I guess that is what makes it so hard for me to believe that he might actually like me "like that".
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<p>Somehow, it's very refreshing to read this after the thread where "GnrGurl" and some Puerto Rican girl were wondering why guys never approached them, despite their family telling them that they were both visually stunning. (Both girls were absolutely convinced that it was the guys' fault, and that they were both gorgeous)</p>
<p>But, at any rate, it doesn't matter whether you're attractive or not, equine; the guy clearly likes you. One doesn't necessarily have to be pretty or anorexic to attract male attention.</p>
<p>okay. Thats the news I was hoping to hear, I guess i'm just bad at taking good news. . . <em>sigh</em></p>