I cannot believe that someone who considers herself reasonable is expecting a roommate to sleep in an unlocked dorm room until she gets in at 2 am.
Can we assume that your parents are unaware of this whole issue?
Stop armchair diagnosing-- you’re an 18 year old kid who has taken a pych course or two. And do what’s reasonable, and expect your roommate to do the same: LOCK YOUR DOOR.
The way I see it, your roommate should be the one posting here about living with someone with psychological disorders.
That sounds really frustrating and enraging. Maybe sit down with her and break it down for her. If her social skills aren’t the best, maybe she doesn’t realize how it’s adversely affecting you. Then, come with me to Starbucks. I’ll pay
I don't care that "everybody leaves their doors unlocked" and that there's a guard 24x7. When you leave your dorm room, ACT LIKE THE GROWN UP YOU ALREADY ARE AND TAKE YOUR KEYS WITH YOU!
It is REASONABLE for your roommate to: (a) lock the dorm door when she leaves; and (b) assume that you have your keys with you.
You are NOT being reasonable re: your expectations for your dorm room door to be left unlocked at all times. In fact, it is really really dumb. Stupid. Stop acting like a stupid little girl and start making more responsible choices.
If this is your "hill to die on," then maybe you should live in a single. Then go ahead and leave your door unlocked all the live long day.
Perhaps your roommate is slamming doors & turning the light on at 5 am because she's mad that you always leave the door unlocked.
Perhaps you should actually talk to your roommate about your disagreements and try to work out a solution that both of you can live with.
Perhaps you should also go buy yourself a sleep mask over Christmas break so that when your roommate turns on the light next semester at 5:00 am, the light won't wake you up.
If she's loud when you're trying to sleep, sleep with ear plugs.
But above all else, STOP LEAVING THE DOOR UNLOCKED! You are a big part of the problem here.
Stop playing arm chair psychologist and trying to diagnose your roommate. So maybe you took a psychology class this first semester. And you looked up the symptoms of ODD. Big deal. You have no idea what you're talking about. Really. Only a psychiatrist or psychologist really could diagnose your roommate with something like that and he/she is certainly not going to do that based on your anecdotal reports. A PhD psychologist has gone through a 4-year BA/BS program, followed by usually a 4-5 year PhD program, written a huge dissertation, plus gone through hours upon hours of on-the-job practicum/internship training in how to be a psychologist.
And a psychiatrist? 4 yr degree, then 4 yr of med school, then probably a 2 yr fellowship/internship for getting trained in the psychiatry specialty. Plus if the person is board certified in that specialty, there’s the board exams to study for and pass in order to be board certified in psychiatry.
But after sharing a bedroom with this 1 person for a few months and after Googling this one diagnosis, you think that she has this. No. That’s not how it works. Whatever you do, don’t go telling all of your friends and the RA that you think your roommate as ODD.
Ok, so maybe your roommate is being a butthole and a jerk. Rather than jumping off the deep end and labeling your roommate as a psych case, maybe…just maybe…there could be something in your roommate’s environment/living situation that could possibly be contributing to her choices in how she’s acting.
There could be a very reasonable explanation. I can think of a half dozen possibilities right off the bat…none of which involve psychiatric diagnoses.
Maybe sit down with her and break it down for her. If her social skills aren’t the best, maybe she doesn’t realize how it’s adversely affecting you. Then, come with me to Starbucks. I’ll pay