<p>Hey guys, I want to read your thoughts on college and love. I assume if you're on this forum , it's because you're dedicated to succeed in life and you're focused on your academics. So, since we all know if you want to do good in college, you have to ( well almost) sacrifice time, friends and fun, when do you think you'll start having a love life? Me personally, I would be glad to meet someone in Grad School, not only because it'll show that that person is smart, it will also make for a better match. So right now, I'm not stressing out on having a partner, I just look forward to finish undergrad with good grades and head for a PhD program.</p>
<p>There’s no reason you can’t have both. There’s certainly such a thing as spending too much time with a significant other, if it starts impacting your grades and preventing you from studying when you need to.</p>
<p>If the significant other is also a dedicated student though, they’ll likely understand that sometimes you simply can’t spend time together because of deadlines/exams to prepare for and such.</p>
<p>I met my partner in undergrad. Dated starting sophomore year. Lived together junior year onward. Engaged between senior year and grad school. Getting married in spring of 2015 after I graduate with my masters. </p>
<p>Wasn’t something I planned. Definitely didn’t stress me out- if anything, he’s been a lifesaver and has been supportive every step of the way.</p>
<p>College (undergraduate) is an important time to socialize (I mean socialize not party), make friends, meet potential partners, learn to live with people, etc. Do not shortchange yourself during this time. It is definitely possible to be successful in college and still acquire life-long friends.</p>
<p>Thanks for your responses guys! @comfortablycurt , You are certainly right, I just think with school, activities, internships, exam , it’s a little bit hard to balance both out. Some people do it with no problem but throw work in the mix ( for those of us who work while going to school) and you have a not-so-great mix for love and college.
@romanigysyeyes, congratulations to you!! I’m happy you got to meet someone , I wish you the best.
@kiddie , you are talking about friends and I agree with you on that point. Matterfact, I know some people who were able to launch successful businesses with their college friends , so definitely yes to socializing.
As to justify my wish to meet someone in grad school, I just think that it’s a more mature version of college. I expect anyone going to grad school to know what they want and I think having a partner who knows what they want is a great score.</p>
<p>Ricle, I worked full time during undergrad (and did an internship one semester). It is certainly, certainly possible. The key is to find someone that compliments your life rather than burdens it.</p>
<p>Having a fellow PhD candidate as a life partner can be challenging… finding positions in the same city when you graduate can be tough if you both plan to stay in the academic world.</p>
<p>@Romani, my hats to you. I’m pretty sure you were focused to accomplish all these things. If you don’t mind, I have a question. How did you manage work and internship? Did you put work on hold to finish your internship or did you just quit. That’s something I’m wondering because I eventually want to get an internship.
@intparent , I never thought about it that way but now that you mentionned it, I see how difficult it can be.</p>
<p>My internship was only 15-20 hours/week. I reduced one of my jobs to only ~15-20 hours/week during that time and the other one I worked on weekends. </p>
<p>I didn’t sleep a lot and it was by far my hardest semester of college. I got through it because my then-bf did our laundry, cooked, cleaned, etc.</p>
<p>If you have a significant other in college who has similar motivation and goals to you, this can be a boon to your college success, not detrimental. They can be a study partner, a cheering section, a sounding board for your frustration. Keep an open mind. Yeah, there can be some really immature college guys/girls, but there are also some really great ones. (Totally unbiased, but I think my boyfriend is one of them.) It’s about balance, and I think it’s totally possible to balance these things if you have an understanding partner.</p>
<p>I’m asexual and I don’t want a love life. But if I did, I wouldn’t want to for several years after college, because I wouldn’t want to risk getting tied down with children in my 20s.</p>
<p>There are plenty of ways to avoid that risk and you can get pregnant without a SO. Just sayin</p>
<p>Love in college? I can’t even get into conversations with people, and not for lack of trying clubs/classes/random people, no one talks.</p>