<p>OP - I would advise the area chess club.</p>
<p>OrangeBlossom why did you send your son a to small “****ty” school and not a huge fun school then?</p>
<p>Chess club are you insane?</p>
<p>The society and its underpinning philosophy is itself insane, thus to be denounced as insane is an honour.</p>
<p>This story really struck me, because I went through the exact same thing my first year in college. My parents also got a divorce, and it affected me terribly. I became extremely emotionally-unstable and everything. Do NOT be ashamed of yourself and NEVER blame yourself. I’ve been there too. I cloistered myself when I was depressed, and soon everyone had friends but me. I was so unhappy, and didn’t even know the first step to take. The great news is, I recovered, and so can YOU. I actually became very popular in a short time after I got myself together. I’ll offer you a few ideas that I used for myself. </p>
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<li><p>Sounds corny, but remember this simple rule: everyone on your campus is a person who wants to connect with at least a few other people. People are social creatures, and they like getting along with others. Don’t be too afraid to step in and introduce yourself…odds are that some people in the group will be really friendly and start talking to you! </p></li>
<li><p>Join clubs, volunteer, and participate in school events. There are always cool people if you try to be active in the school. Don’t be afraid! You will definitely be welcomed. If you have any unique skills, offer the to your campus. I have a friend who is great with music, and became a popular DJ on campus. You never know what you can do!</p></li>
<li><p>Be calm, and confident without being snobbish. Practice looking friendly and engaging when meeting new people. A lot can be determined by looking at your body language and behavior. I know it can be hard especially if you have recently been depressed. But you can do it!! As soon as you make one friend, you make more and more in a big network.</p></li>
<li><p>Try campus parties. You don’t have to get wasted from alcohol or do anything stupid to have fun at a party, plus you meet tons of people. Just relax and observe everyone else for a little bit, and people will come up to talk to you. Just be brave and try something new. Before you know it, you’ll have way more friends than you know what to do with. Trust me!</p></li>
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<p>It sounds like a lot of your emotional problems have made it hard for you to get out and try things, and I can only imagine that it’d be equally hard for your self esteem which is crucial in college. Id honestly suggest meeting with your counselor to talk things through- sounds like your family changed right when you were going thru a big transition. So check in with your student health center, and don’t give up.</p>
<p>hey im having the same problems. what worked for u</p>
<p>I can relate. I’ve been pretty much alone for the 4 years i was in college (I’m INFJ) By the time of my graduation all my close friends has either changed majors or moved and being the only Asian in most of my classes didn’t help either. </p>
<p>My advice to you is, try to occupy yourself with a hobby, i mainly focused on Gym/jogged/running you’ll be surprsed how good it makes you feel. I also put the rest of my attention more on my acadamics. That is what college is to GET A GOOD EDUCATION. </p>
<p>And do not worry, many of us graduate have been there so you’re not alone. This is a life experiment, a way to help you be INDEPENDENT in your future. </p>
<p>Best of luck to you.</p>
<p>Grow a pair. Everyone’s lonely.</p>