<p>Last summer my mom purchased a new house in an agreement with myself that I would live with her and commute to school for two years. I made a grave mistake. I am miserable here. I have no friends in this neighborhood (no people my age), I HATE driving 20 minutes (quickly becomes an hour in houston traffic) to get to school, and most of all I hate the totalitarian policies my mom has implemented (curfew, no sleeping over, etc).</p>
<p>However, through hard work and dedication, I was able to obtain the necessary capital in order to move out for the fall 2011 semester and live on campus debt free. The problem is, leaving will most likely destroy my relationship with my mom.</p>
<p>My question:</p>
<p>Should I stomach another year at the expense of my mental well being, or should I fly like a free bird?</p>
<p>Help me people.</p>
<p>If you feel like you’re really sacrificing your mental well being by staying with your mother, then move out. </p>
<p>I’m sure you’ll be able to patch up your relationship later. Once she’s cooled down, she’ll see that you made the right decision for yourself.</p>
<p>Assuming that you can not only live on campus for 2011-2012 but also for the duration of the time that you are in school (don’t want to go crawling back home), I’d move out. Your mom will get over it, trust me. My mom did, lol. She didn’t want me to live on campus for college either; my college was only 20 minutes from home. But I got a scholarship so…out I went. She got over it and later said that living on campus really helped me grow up and become self-sufficient.</p>
<p>I always thought it was kind of ridiculous when parents put curfews on grown college kids…my sister’s turning 21 this year and my father wants to put an 11 pm curfew on her…she’s an adult.</p>
<p>If you can support living on campus for the rest of your college time then do it. Like stated above your mom will get over it and it will hopefully work out for the best.</p>
<p>Are you dependent on her for money? If so, realize she doesn’t have to pay for you if she doesn’t want to do so. A lot of kids are so danged cocky until it comes to paying for things. </p>
<p>My son did not pick a great school where he was accepted because finances dictated he would have to commute. Fine with us but he had to find an affordable alternative because we had so much to give for this, and that is it. And we are not in an emotional battle with him about having to live at home so that won’t be an issue. But I know parents who have said, live at home or you are on your own, which means they won’t give a dime, or even fill out FAFSA and other forms. It’s easy to move out until one realizes the extend one is dependent on the parent. Many a kid has found out that parents were supporting them far more than they thought.</p>
<p>I’m with everyone else. If you can continue to afford it after next year, move out. Mom will get over it eventually.
My D could’ve commuted to school but I really wanted her to live on her own and make friends. Hopefully your mom will see the light when she sees how responsible you are (so you better be responsible…)</p>
<p>Thanks for all the responses. I do realize that I have to move on and I hope she will be able to understand.</p>