<p>Yeah, there are a lot of people in at summer session and I thought, “Why go in the summer??” but now I understand because all of my friends are gone…to summer session; I’m waiting for Fall. Ah well, c’est la vie. The quiet before the storm. Enjoy it. 
Back to the topic - yeah, I feel a * lot * more comfortable about the dating scene. Sounds about as normal as I could expect it to be which is a good thing! lol.</p>
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<p>Disagree. I met my first boyfriend in November, 5 months after graduating high school. I have no regrets, whatsoever, and we have been together now for almost 8 months. HE asked ME to be his girlfriend, so there are some college guys out there looking for a serious relationship.</p>
<p>A monogamous relationship is MUCH better (and safer) than college “hookups.”</p>
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<p>Only you can let yourself be tied down. Having a partner in college has only enhanced my life. As a shy person, my bf is one of the few people I feel safe connecting with on a friendly, romantic, and intimate level. We both push each other to do well, and just last quarter, we both got 4.0s.</p>
<p>And btw, not everyone is looking for the stereotypical “carefree” college experience which is typically consumed with one-night stands and partying. Kind of empty if you ask me…</p>
<p>"Yes. Dating as a coordinated one-on-one social outing with the function of assessing your date’s viability as a potential partner is effectively non-existent in college. "</p>
<p>That is so not true.</p>
<p>I guess it might vary by school…? For example, at a place like Vanderbilt, I’d expect it to be more traditional or “old school”. Florida is such a toss-up because it’s sort of Southern but…not quite.</p>
<p>@Vertigo220h Why go to school during the summer? Because some of us can’t rely on our parents supporting us for our annual vacation.</p>
<p>To each his own on the monogamous relationships, I personally don’t like them as they’ve only gotten in the way with what I want to do. Call me selfish.</p>
<p>Vanderbilt is supposedly conservative, but probably the most sexually liberal place I’ve ever been. I’m actually in the minority for having neither a one night stand nor sex, ever. Parties are legendary there.</p>
<p>[No</a> hooking up, no sex for some coeds - CNN.com](<a href=“http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/04/19/college.anti.hookup.culture/index.html]No”>No hooking up, no sex for some coeds - CNN.com)
^People made so much fun of this/her it’s not even funny.</p>
<p>srsly, probably the only schools where there isn’t a big hook-up culture are the service academies, places like Brigham-Young or Bob Jones, and full-on commuter schools.</p>
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Whysosnarky? heh.
And…vacation? * College * will be the vacation for me!<br>
In a way that doesn’t surprise me. Hopefully Florida will strike a happy medium.</p>
<p>I’m just wondering, what are some good ideas for something to do in your dorm room if both of you don’t want to go out?</p>
<p>I’d probably start sexing her up. </p>
<p>Seriously I’d watch a movie together.</p>
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<p>I hope this post isn’t a joke.</p>
<p>I had some pretty good serious suggestions besides what you are thinking but wasn’t sure if they were making a joke or not.</p>
<p>I realized it didn’t sound right after I posted haha. I was wondering if there was something else besides listening to music or watching a movie together in the room as friends.</p>
<p>Well, we are very frugal, so we only go out two or three times a year. Maybe a couple times a season we’ll go to some sort of free event or park or something, but most of the time we are in the dorms. We have a kitchenette in the building and cook and bake a lot. We watch movies, play video games, board games, card games, etc and so forth. We used to read together a lot. I am sure that sounds really boring, but really the dorm is only a place you are going to be hanging out in if you are looking for some downtime-- ie watching a movie. If you want anything particularly exciting by normal people standards you are probably going to have to go out.</p>
<p>College relationships are straining. In my situation, I have things I want to do and don’t want to be tied down to someone. I don’t consider myself interested in settling down or giving up my personal freedoms to the clutches of women yet. Already had one try to control or manipulate me into ALWAYS being around them, but I resisted that.</p>
<p>I’m happier single atm. =D</p>
<p>It’s going to take a seriously amazing girl to come along for me to change my mind.</p>
<p>Or you could just wear the pants in the relationship and tell her we are dating but only hang out a few times a week. </p>
<p>You don’t have to be attached at the hip.</p>
<p>Clingy people suck. When my fiance and I started dating we only saw each other once every other week, which totally worked for me at the time. lol. That is one of the reasons I’ve always said that going to two different schools (though ideally still nearby) is a really great arrangement for this stage of life. It forces you to maintain some independence.</p>
<p>Now, I know this thread is…a year old. But I’d like to update it with my college experiences on the battlefield of dating.
I did the random hook-up thing, I drank…a lot (I ended up doing a summer session – much easier/less serious than in Fall and Spring), I partied. I had the carefree experience. But after a straight month and a half of that something was missing…so I started requesting dates with some of the guys I hooked up with (and by hooked up I mean…making out). The majority said no (as I had expected), and I believe I was snubbed a total of 6/8 times. To this I said to myself, “Onto the next one.” and I felt no shame in requesting that I see these individuals in the daylight should we ever hook up again.
Then, I was introduced to a guy whom I attempted to hook up with a girl friend of mine. He expressed interest in me (drunkenly, nonetheless --this is not fairytale – it is indeed college), and I told him that if he were genuinely interested in getting to know me as a person he was welcome to take me out on a lunch date the next day. Turns out that he ends up taking me up on the offer (to my surprise), and so we go out the next day. I ended up having a great conversation with him and we get along very well. I find him attractive, and he asks me to hang out…we end up watching our favorite sitcom, talking, and, inevitably, hooking up (no complaints from me here, haha). He then asks to see me again, and at this point I’m a bit suspicious, because this is definitely turning into more of a not-casual-hook-up situation.
In the mean time, I go out another date (dinner date) and get to know another guy via texting.
As of yet, Guy 1 and I have a dinner date for next week; I couldn’t be happier I’ve taken the traditional route in getting to know him.
So, ladies and gentlemen, dating does exist in college. 100%. You just have to ask for it, and not be afraid to be turned down. The majority don’t do it, yes, but it does definitely exist in the traditional sense.</p>
<p>I’m so happy for you, Vertigo! Hope everything turns out well for you!</p>