Great news! Now, for the love of doG, encourage her to take a semester off!!!
Congrats on an outcome based on what we wish was true all the time but too often isnāt, what is best for the student. So glad you had an admin that was supportive. All the best of luck, and I am sure I speak for most of CC on that.
One more hopefully positive thought, @dixiedandy, is that second chances are real. In my own case, as Iāve told before on CC, I flunked out of college (more from my own personal immaturity and not being ready for college than something like anxiety, but still) after my first year, spent the next year at a community college (amusingly enough getting my associates with honors, since they didnāt transfer in grades with the courses Iād already taken), and then transferred to a state flagship where I got my baccalaureate (even more amusingly, getting that one with Latin honors)āand then I went on from there to get an Ivy League PhD, and Iām now a tenured professor.
F. Scott Fitzgerald once wrote that heād thought there were no second acts in American lives, but later learned that that was wrong. I present myself as proof that Fitzgerald was right about being wrong; Iām offering my sincere hope that your daughter will eventually provide further evidence of that, too.
I read the beginning of the thread and then skipped to near the end so I may not have the whole story.
My 2 cents worth:
As many have said, you are not failures as parents nor is your daughter a failure in college. She, and you, just learned that in college, as in life, it is a team game. Parents are part of the team and the information flow should be total and honest.
I wouldnāt go for community college. It sounds like she was just not really ready for college in some small ways and the same issues will be there in community college unless something changes. She just needs a different game plan when she returns to school.
Finding and making use of a good study group will help her develop good study habits. Many people (and I was one) breeze thru high school and get excellent grades and never develop good study habits. College to me was a real shock and I too ended up on āwarningā (next step, which I didnāt get to, would have been probation) Study groups helped me and I was able to actually help other people in the group which then helped bolster my confidence. So, they worked out well in my case.
My overall college GPA was OK but nothing to brag about because of that poor start. But it was mostly Aās my junior and senior years which definitely helped when looking for employment after college.
It is very encouraging that the college is willing to work with you and your daughter. She should speak out when she needs help, everybody does to some extent. Professors are always willing to help those students who ask for help, they wonāt just coming looking for you.
She should take pride in what she has and is going to accomplish. Good luck to all of you.