<p>She’s 18 or 19, and she’s dating another person around the same age who is working at a minimum wage job? Who should she be dating, Doogie Howser? How many 18-year-olds have anything other than a low-wage job? It sounds like the only problem with this young man is that he doesn’t go to the expensive dream school, and thus doesn’t have an express ticket to Top One Percent Land. How many people marry the first person they date? I would stay out of it.</p>
<p>Omigosh. She’s actually dating a person from the LOWER CLASSES who will likely never be more than a DISHWASHER? And after you are paying all that money to send her to an EXPENSIVE dream school?</p>
<p>I would immediately hit the panic button and insist that she be tested for HIV, TB, and head lice. You just can’t tell what she might have become infected with, spending all that time down there on the steerage deck.</p>
<p>As the person who would have been the dishwasher at age 18, (though I was a CC student as well) with an expensive college only in my wildest dreams, I don’t appreciate the assertion that this young man is less of a human being. Do you know the story behind this young man, his dreams, what attracts your D to him? You may have real reasons to object to the relationship, but socioeconomic status should be the least of it. </p>
<p>At my Ds LAC, I’ve gotten the impression that employees have tuition benefits, and some later graduate. </p>
<p>Will say as well, the female heavy demographic at many LAC makes it not easy for young women to find boyfriends.</p>
<p>I bet it’s an episode of “Undercover Boss”, the dishwasher is really the son of the dean of said expensive dream school, and for being nice to him she will later be awarded free tuition during the “big reveal” scene. Problem solved.</p>
<p>Well, I had a BA, MA and an MD degree from a top private fancy U when I started dating a guy who lived in a trailer, had dropped out of HS and was routinely getting his utilities shut off due to non payment of bills. Didn’t go over well with my Asian mother :D.</p>
<p>Been married going on 20 years and have a kid in a top private fancy U majoring in something I never could have done, and doing very well. Turns out our genes were complementary ;). Yes, there’s been some culture clash but we’re still chugging. BTW, my mother loves him now.</p>
<p>Did you really send her cross country to get her MRS degree?</p>
<p>OP, I think she digs the fact that it annoys you. </p>
<p>Come to think of it, I dig the fact that it annoys you. </p>
<p>At least her house will have clean dishes.</p>
<p>Hey, she’s dating a dishwasher, at least she’s not dating a toaster-oven or a microwave. </p>
<p>I definitely think dating a major appliance is a step up.</p>
<p>I don’t blame you for wanting more for your dd. I have personally seen women who need to save men and it doesn’t always work out. My neices are like that and have horrible men in their lives. Of course they complain after the guy is gone. My nieces are late 20’s and early 30’s and are still single but now with kids.</p>
<p>If they are both adults, she has made a better choice than some whose boyfriends haven’t graduated high school.</p>
<p>EK, where is that CC like button when you need it?</p>
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Hilarious! Ditto for me.</p>
<p>You are lucky she told you! Tell her to be safe, and if she’s sexually active that she is being safe and smart. </p>
<p>What I told my daughter when she told me she wanted to move in with her college boyfriend, fine, but she needed to be sure her grades stayed strong etc. Itnwasnt about the boy, it was about the distraction. So far so good…less distractions in fact, they leave parties early, etc</p>
<p>Don’t ask to many questions, let it come out naturally. We parents have a way of interrogating.</p>
<p>Condolences to the OP… :(</p>
<p>“we parents have a way of interogating”???</p>
<p>LOL</p>
<p>Is waterboarding legal in NY?</p>
<p>My father didn’t like my high school boyfriend because his parents were blue-collar workers. Oh, and he was bi-racial and Catholic. Three big strikes. My dad complained that I was “throwing [my] life away on a lower-middle-class bum.” It didn’t make me think any less of my boyfriend or his parents, but it did make me think less of my father. Be careful!</p>
<p>Maybe she’s dating the dishwasher to make the busboy jealous.</p>
<p>Doug, LMAO!</p>
<p>*It didn’t make me think any less of my boyfriend or his parents, but it did make me think less of my father. *</p>
<p>good point.</p>
<p>“Dating is not marrying.” But if they marry, at least she won’t have to wash the dishes.</p>
<p>My husband married a dishwasher (and slide projectionist and tutor and house-cleaner) he met at his college! (wink)</p>