<p>Since Dec my (to be sophomore) daughter had plans to room in a suite with 3 other girls- 2 of which were close friends. She was going to share a room with a girl she liked, but was not close to in order to be with her close friends. It is now 2 weeks before room choice and the 4th girl has outmaneuvered my daughter behind her back and found a roommate she is closer to. There is nothing wrong with that, but my daughter is left scrambling for a roommate and a suite when almost everyone has chosen. My daughter has spoken and written to all the girls (except the one who did this as she won't talk to her). She told them that the person who made the change should look for a new suite and my daughter should stay. She spoke with the RA who gave her a suggestion, but the girl had a roommate already. My daughter has been crying for a week as she tries to figure out options which is painful enough, but I am trying to see if there is anyway I can help her. Does it make sense for me to call housing to get suggestions on her options? I have been advising my daughter, but to date there is no resolution with only 1 week left. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.</p>
<p>I don’t see a resolution… this happens sometimes when there are an odd number of friends looking for roommates sophomore year. Without all the drama, I was in a similar situation a long time ago with two close friends who were rooming together and no one specific as my roommate (I was assigned a sophomore roommate as an incoming freshman, and she had her own plans), and all dorm choices were doubles. I just planned to room blind, and end up with a freshman roommate. Then my story got worse, I lost out in the dorm lottery and didn’t even get dorm space. I was able to get back into the dorm system over the summer, but ended up all the way across campus in a forced triple with a drug dealer as a roommate (moved back across campus to another dorm after a couple of months). But I never did end up in the same dorm as my friends. I still ate lunch and dinner with them a lot of days, as the meal plan traveled easily, and hung out in their room a lot.</p>
<p>But after the remainder of sophomore year spent with a perfectly fine but not BFF freshman roommate, my friends and I moved out of the dorms anyway and into co-op housing. Again… we were a threesome, and the other friends also moving into the same house were all guys. So I roomed blind again, and got a very good roommate that worked out for the remainder of my college time.</p>
<p>It isn’t ideal, but rooming blind is just something that happens sometimes. Also, sometimes there is “melt” over the summer and some returning sophomores don’t come back. If your D would rather not room with a freshman (I personally think it is much better for freshman to share a room with another freshman, sophs already have a social life on campus), then she can see if she can work with the housing office and let everyone know she is looking for a spot in a sophomore room if something opens up over the summer.</p>
<p>Thank you very much. I think I will suggest going for a single rather than going blind, and tell her to speak to housing about a spot in a sophomore room if something opens up over the summer. At least that way she will be in the same dorm with her friends. </p>