<p>What round is “pref”? Is that right before bid day? At my daughter’s school, each round seems to be spread over 2 days. I’m not sure if that’s the norm out if it’s because there are so many houses.</p>
<p>I think it must hurt more not to get a bid in an inclusive system. </p>
<p>I myself would like to see a system where numbers of slots are calibrated to the numbers of girls who are rushing, and girls who do not voluntarily drop out are guaranteed a bid by a chapter that could not otherwise meet quota.</p>
<p>“Pref” round is the last round right before bid day. Most schools if you go to pref parties and you put all the houses that you visited (some schools that is 2 others it can be 3) than you are guaranteed a bid from one of those houses.</p>
<p>Thanks, ahsmuoh, for the clarification.</p>
<p>@Frazzled2thecore - this is pretty much what “snap” bidding is about. Correct me if I’m wrong, anyone, but if a girl goes through rush, attends preference parties and lists the maximum number of houses whose bids she’ll accept, but doesn’t get a bid from any of these, she is eligible for a snap bid from a house that has not made quota. This means that on the morning of Bid Day, her rush counselor contacts her and tells her that she did not recieve a bid from any of her preferences, but she does have a bid from another sorority. Often, on big campuses, this is one she may have liked early in the week but had to eliminate due to the sheer numbers. If the PNM agrees, she goes to Bid Day and received the snap bid with everyone else, and races to meet her new sisters with everyone else. At my school, the Greek system was small and this really didn’t come into play, but at large schools I understand it works pretty well.</p>
<p>Thanks, I wasn’t sure how that worked. At D’s school, PNM’s are warned that bids are not guaranteed even though the overwhelming majority of girls going through rush are placed.
Although they do publish the percentage of girls going through who are not placed, it isn’t clear how many if any were not invited back for any preference rounds. It is my understanding also that girls must attend every party they are invited to.</p>
<p>I was not Greek and I remember being very nervous when D went through rush. She told me afterwards that she got discouraged when she wasn’t invited back to some groups that she liked, but focused instead on the groups that invited her back and was thus too busy to think much about rejection. My biggest fear was that she would find herself alone in her room in the middle of the week with no invites and wondering what was “wrong” with her, while her friends were still happily going to the parties.</p>
<p>Anyway, best of luck to those whose daughters are rushing this week, and hoping all your daughters are content with the outcome!</p>
<p>Re: Mizzbee post 11, what is so different about indiana and why?</p>
<p>Scrapgal, Snowdog et. al. - any results yet?</p>
<p>@footballmom104 She was only invited back to one house and it was the one she liked the least. Apparently they are not very well liked amongst the sororities and considered last in the rankings that I’ve seen on line. But she is going to continue until the end to see if she makes a connection with the other girls. She already knows 2 girls, one of which is from our church and the other is her cousins roommate. A mother’s gut instinct is usually right and I had the feeling that it was not going to be easy for her.</p>
<p>Scrap girl. I am sorry to hear that your dd didn’t have the results that she was hoping for but I am happy to hear that she is going to go and give it one last chance. Is she is a big enough school for snap bids? It really is rough in these girls.</p>
<p>My dd was invited to 2 pref parties and is there as I type this. All I can hope for is she comes out happy. The right house is the one that a girl feels the most comfortable. I DESPISE made up rankings.</p>
<p>I agree about the “rankings” of frats and sororities. That sort of thing represents all that is negative about sororities and fraternities. She should make up her own mind.</p>
<p>Scrapgirl, sorry to hear your daughter didn’t get the results she was hoping for but, fwiw, my D has friends who were in the same boat and, in the end, pledged the ‘lowest ranking house’ (really, really hate that this type of description exists and that I just perpetuated it) and, within a very short period of time, were incredibly happy and now, a year later, I don’t think they can imagine being in a different house. I love seeing the pictures on fb of these girls who went through such stress and now look so happy with their ‘sisters’.</p>
<p>Much to my surprise, my D rushed last year. She is in a sorority with a great group of very supportive women. She couldn’t be happier and I couldn’t be happier for her. That said, this is not the house that she thought she would end up in. She was fortunate to have choices throughout the process and at the end of the day chose the sorority that she felt was the best fit for her. OP, I’m sorry that your D wasn’t invited back to the house she wanted, but I’m glad she is keeping an open mind. Hope that whatever decision she makes, she has a wonderful year.</p>
<p>There are 16 chapters so I think it is considered a big greek school. I’m not very familiar with this whole rush process but from what I’ve read, I don’t think she would have a very good chance since she currently only knows a handful of girls. </p>
<p>From what she’s told me, it seems that the sorority that called her back was not very good at presenting themselves to the PNM. Again, I am completely clueless as to this process but it seems that they need to have their image and recruitment strategy reassessed… lol. </p>
<p>ahsmuoh: Good luck to you and your daughter. I also just hope that she is happy with her decision.</p>
<p>Frazzled - what you describe is precisely how my alma matter worked. The quota was determined at the very end -if you have 300 girls going through at the very end and there are 10 houses, quota is 30. It was very rare for someone who kept an open mind not to get a spot. However, if you “suicided” (only preffed one place) you ran the risk of being disappointed. I think it’s the only humane way to set quota and a system like Indiana’s where you have too many girls competing for limited spots isn’t very nice.</p>
<p>Oh, and “rankings” for sororities? Silly. What counts is if you like the girls… The end.</p>
<p>The Greek rankings for any campus are even less meaningful than the rankings of colleges… The groups of students in any house changes from year to year.</p>
<p>scrapgal, online rankings at the site I’m familiar with are rife with self-ranking and trash talk. They are in no way reflective of the actual quality of the chapter.</p>
<p>She just called me and is going to continue. If they offer her a bid, she is going to give them a chance. The girl she met today was very nice.</p>
<p>That is great news scrapgirl. I hope it works out for her. My daughter enjoyed her parties and is excited for bid day tomorrow.</p>