To Parents/Students:
Is it just me, or does the whole music process just stress you out? Maybe everyone else is blissfully sailing along with their lessons/teachers/programs whatever, but for some reason my mental health seems to be super fragile.
So, do you/your kids experience stress? Please discuss how you cope with the process.
I wil apologize in advance for the length and unnecessary details below. I don’t want anyone to think I am using CC for a personal diary, but I am trying to sort out my thoughts.
Long paragraphs follow:
I have feelings of inferiority. I am always comparing myself to other people, thinking “(insert player here) was THIS much better than me at this age, after X years, I bet everyone else can play this piece, etc…” I experience periods of calm, but these feelings can be easily triggered by one comment by the teacher, reading players’ biographies, youtube videos in which prodigies/teenagers can be seen in the “Suggested Videos thumbnail.” And, worst of all: FROM THE TOP. Yes, this is why I avoid the radio like the plague noon on Sundays. (Lol.)
Furthermore, I started late (I think) at age almost 15, have now been playing 2 years. In my casual web browsing I often google stuff like “players who started late” etc. trying to find people I can relate to, but few are to be found. The few players who did start ‘late’ seem to make extraordinary progress in a short time, practicing large amounts, so I naturally feel a desperate urge- (perhaps I could make crazy progress too-!) - which results in overpracticing and frustration.
Anyway I just spent way too long on frustrated non-practice of a 3-octave scale… A famous player stated he began these when he was 10, but I can only struggle through a C-major scale and none of the rest. x_x I had the grand idea that I would learn every scale over the summer, thus ‘making up for lost time’ but apparently this is not going to happen.
Of course, I, too, wish I could go on From the Top, showcases, play my favorite pieces and everything, but then I hit a dead end. Something doesn’t work out, someone says something, or I record myself and find myself worse than expected. I avoid Youtube, the internet, players’ bios, maybe to deny reality, and pretend I am better than I actually am.
The benefits of camps, competitions, etc. are that you can see how you fare in comparison to the rest of the world, but what if you’re not good enough for any of those things in the first place? x_x