@collegegal123 please don’t feel embarassed about going to counselling. Sometimes people think it will just get better but it doesn’t just happen, much better to be proactive and go sooner rather than later.
If the counselling center is closed on weekends or if they say it will be a while before they can give you an appointment, look at these sites which are helpful online tools.
https://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome
http://www.biteback.org.au/
Again thank you all for trying to help me through this. I am going home this weekend to relieve some of the sadness that I am feeling. I think I am going to go check out the counseling center once I get back. I know college is what you make of it, so I am going to try to put more effort. I am just hoping that all of this bad stuff that is happening to me starts to change into good things!
@collegegal122 Have a great weekend at home with good hugs from the folks. Please talk to them about how you feel. When I went to school it was to go to school to get a job, now it is presented as what is supposed to be this amazing 4 years of your life - it is not that for a great many people. Life is not like “High School Musical” for the majority of people. Expectations are set way too high with all those glossy brochures coming home of perfect looking college students all with smiling faces having fun fun fun. It is hard and it is work, but socially it can be bumpy. I had been such a “big thing” in HS, that when I went to college, I felt like a nobody and frankly didn’t want to start the building process all over socially. So I made some friends and found my group eventually, but really focused on it getting me to a job. Are you happy with your major? Probably just scratching the surface of that so maybe you don’t know yet - is there some volunteering within your major you could ask about? Have you ever wanted to learn guitar or something else you could work on out side of academics that you would enjoy? It is hard when people say just join a club, but it would be good if you can put yourself out there within groups of people. Starbucks is a great step. Please never ever feel ashamed of seeing a counselor - if you had a best friend you could talk to them about this, but since you don’t, think of the counselor as your friend to confide in - they are wonderfully compassionate people, and chose that field because they have big hearts and want to help students like you. Like a cold or flu, your spirit is a little under the weather, time to get a check up. Please be open to counseling, every college kid I know that did it for anxiety or depression or whatever was so glad they did.
You are not alone in your struggles, soon you will be able to look back on this as a tough phase you worked through. Thanks for reaching out to us, it is a start! Best to you!
Things can turn around, I promise. But you are right it takes effort, and if you are down it is hard to put out the effort, which makes you more down, and so on, in a cycle. Getting counseling help (an possibly medication) can really really really help. Hoping you have a good time at home and find the energy to do what you deserve!