<p>I have a few friends (who I graduated HS with) who opted not to go to college. I was visiting them and over heard one of them say something slick about me going to college. In so many words saying I'm an 'elitist' now. I don't think I act any different since being a college student. Maybe I'm a bit more mature and I use a few bigger words, but I'm still me. I would very much like to confront the both of them about this, but I think that would only make the situation worse. I almost feel like either they are jealous because they are both in dead end jobs with no end in sight .. or maybe I really did change? I have come to the conclusion that I did change, but for the better. Have I outgrown my friends? Any thoughts?</p>
<p>Friends grow apart, it’s natural.</p>
<p>I don’t think college changed me. I think I changed some, not a lot, of myself to adapt to my surroundings. But there are some people that college change. One of my friends changed drastically over the course of his first year of college…I miss the old version of him. But he was happier (at least I think he is); maybe college serves as an outlet for some people.
You may have outgrown your friends; plus they have not experienced college. Also, everybody ends up changing in some way. At least that’s what I think.</p>
<p>Sounds you think very highly about yourself but are still insecure.
If your old, dead end friends are jealous then you need to be more gracious and deferential about your perceived “elitist” lifestyle.
Real friends always find ways to connect.
If the old gang and you are not “feeling it anymore” then move on.</p>
<p>I have become more isolated, and I choose not to talk to anyone. It’s probably a combination of things: the state of the country, the fact that I’m surrounded by morons, and that I’m focused on academics.</p>
<p>It sounds like a little bit of both. They may be jealous, and you may be full of yourself.</p>
<p>Seriously, DUMP THEM</p>
<p>When you hang around with people with corrupting mindsets, they will infect you and you will be corrupted. </p>
<p>Never limit yourself to accommodate the insecurities of others. Your goal should be your own personal excellence – and as such you should not curtail the development of your skills, self-confidence or courage for anyone.</p>
<p>If you are hanging around someone who is threatened by excellence, you are hanging around the wrong person. If you are learning from someone who is threatened by excellence, you are learning the wrong lessons. </p>
<p>Move your life into a newer, better direction.</p>
<p>I’ve gotten much more stuck up to people I don’t know and don’t wish to know.</p>
<p>But to answer the OP’s question, the most beautiful form of communication out there is knowing how to relate to many a wide variety or people. Whether it’s speaking the same language of a different culture or even dummying down to people who aren’t as fluent in the english language as you are. (i.e, coming back home from college to your friends who are still on the street and still speaking slang)</p>
<p>Once you’re able to master this, I think you’re good to go.</p>
<p>They’re losers. Forget them.</p>
<p>Sometimes we grow out of our friends. Our interests don’t connect anymore, we’re just in different places in our lives, we realize how much they suck when we’re not around them all the time, etc.</p>
<p>Anyway, perhaps your friends don’t appreciate your attitude. You call their jobs “dead-end” and say they’re “jealous” of you. You may think you haven’t changed, but your friends see a difference. Were you talking about how much they’re wasting their lives on their dead-end jobs? I know I wouldn’t talk to my friends at UC Berkeley for two years until they stopped insinuating community college was a fate worse than death and I’m wasting my life.</p>
<p>Of you could do what House suggested and talk down to the rabble. They’ll love that.</p>
<p>friends who do not see each other for a long time, drift apart. Perfectly normal.</p>
<p>most of my friends who’re in college and come home to visit during vacations have stayed pretty much the same; we still have a lot of fun hanging out, talking, relaxing. sure, there are a few more differences but we’re all essentially the same people.</p>