Difficulty adjusting as a transfer student?

<p>Hi. I transferred to Bing from Cortland state last year and I have found it increasingly difficult to adjust everything here. At Cortland, I made a lot of friends and became actively involved within the campus community. However, I felt that I could be doing so much more at a bigger, more reputable university. Against my better judgment, I made the impulsive decision to transfer here and I have been miserable ever since to say the least.</p>

<p>I sort of expected to pick up where I left off so to speak. Since there was so much diversity within the campus, I expected to make many lifelong friends and become even more involved on campus. I guess looks can be deceiving. I haven't been able to find a good group of friends to hang out with and most of them are just mere acquaintances. Even people from my hometown don't talk to me either. The clubs and organizations seem to be very picky. And everything that I am interested in is very competitive to get into (e.g. Harpur's Ferry). I have been turned down for every job that I have applied for as well.</p>

<p>So many students transfer here and whether they live on campus or off-campus seem to be having the time of their lives. The downtown scene loses it's novelty after some time and everyone just seems to keep to themselves. </p>

<p>I really miss Cortland and I guess I took everything for granted. I would transfer back, but I am a junior and already well into my major here. I don't want to graduate here with regrets and most importantly I don't want to graduate here without having made any friends. I'm a very sociable guy and I love being around people. It was so easy as a freshman in Cortland and I guess this sort of change just isn't working for me. In hindsight, I should not have
transferred but I am not a quitter but it's hard when every attempt I have made to assimilate on campus has failed me. I hope that eventually it will get better. I guess I will not give up hope.</p>

<p>Btw- don't be discouraged about transferring here. If you are interested in a specific program here, then definitely apply. It is a great school, but it's really hard going from a small close-knit community campus to a big campus here.</p>

<p>If you’re Jewish, definitely come to Chabad or Hillel! If not, still come to Hillel! It’s a really fun way to meet people. Where do you live on campus?</p>