Since the psychiatrist accurately predicted what would happen to your son, it might be worth a return visit to him to see if he has any further ideas for how to respond or avoid it in the future, though perhaps the doctor already provided those to you initially. Or perhaps he has opinions on whether this issue can be fixed at all.
Many kids need to be taught life lessons as well as (or more than) academics. A few kids don’t need it at all making us falsely think all kids naturally pick it up - or should anyway - but that’s really not true. Not everyone learns everything they need to know in kindergarten. Kids on the spectrum definitely need coaching.
One important thing, at least at the high school level (this applies to most kids, not just spectrum kids)… kids tend to accept the life lessons coaching better from someone outside the immediate family. At this age (for kids) parents know next to nothing. The kids know everything. The only adults who know more than the kids are those they respect - a favorite aunt/uncle, teacher, coach, neighbor, etc. Quite honestly I can teach most high school kids life lessons better than their parents can - even if we’re saying the exact same thing. It’s not any special talent I have. It’s that I’m not their parent. My kids, of course, learned from others too (not me - they wondered what other kids saw in me!).
Parents want to share their wisdom with their kids. That’s nature. We want the best for them (at least good parents do anyway). But at times it helps if we realize the best we can do is let someone else (who shares our values) impart that coaching for our kids. Is there someone like this is your son’s life?
@Corraleno That was one of the best posts I’ve ever read on CC.