<p>I don’t want children. Ever.
Reasons:
I really dislike about 99% of them (my 7 year old cousin is the exception… but I hate her brother, who’s 12. he’s so effing obnoxious)
I think I’d be a terrible parent. I get really moody sometimes and just need to be alone and I would probably b-tch and yell at a kid if they tried to intrude on my silence and relaxation.
I would seriously kill myself if I had to take care of a screaming baby 24/7, jesus christ.
I don’t even like really picking up after myself, I would b-tch and moan the entire time if I had to pick up after someone else all the time too.
I am NOT wiping something else’s ass. Sorry, it’s just not happening.
Also, pregnancy freaks me the f— out. something the size of a watermelon is like, living inside of you… it’s like a parasite. Ugggggh. That thing is NOT coming out of me.
I also want to travel alot for my career and children are not conducive to that.
I’ve never been that girl who had the number of kids they wanted and baby names picked out, anyway. </p>
<p>I’d much rather be a pet-mommy to some kitties. They are cute, and furry, and don’t crap and vomit all over everything. And kitties basically take care of themselves if you don’t take care of them. (not that I would neglect my kitties, but you can leave them home alone for a few days no problem, as long as you leave enough food) And they will go do their own thing and not be constantly whining at you to do something with them (which is also why I couldn’t have a dog). </p>
<p>As for marriage, I dunno. Maybe if it was someone in my field and we could travel and do research together or something. I’ve got at least 6 more years of school ahead of me (master’s and PhD), so I want to finish that and have a job before I think about marriage at all. I’m pretty skeptical of marriage though; I’d be perfectly happy if I didn’t get married. Theoretically, I like relationships, but every one I’d had so far has ended up totally sh-t, so I’d rather not have one at all than deal with that. Marriage is certainly not something I dream about, at any rate.</p>
<p>And if you have marriage and kids, every major decision about your life has to be a family decision. Your health decisions, vacation plans, etc, are stuff that you’d have to sit down and talk to your husband about and budget it and stuff. I want to have lots of friends and spend time with the family I’ve got (parents/cousins/aunts/etc), but when I come home at the end of the day, be able to make my own decisions.</p>
<p>I was skeptical of marriage and didn’t care for kids. Then I met my boyfriend and, well, it changed. (We’ve known each other two years, dated over a year and a half.) Regardless of whether this relationship lasts, I’m now certain that I want a family.</p>
<p>But I’m still terrified of childbirth. :eek:</p>
<p>Excuse me, what gives you the right to tell me I’m immature?
I have two kitties at home that I take care of when I’m there. THEY know how to use the litter box and thus I don’t have to clean up their crap either off them or off the floor. They do occasionally throw up but not nearly as often as a baby spits up on everything. Babies also get sick way more than cats do. I said this is why I also don’t want a dog, because I know dogs are more like children, in that you have to do way more for them (clean up their crap, or take them outside many times a day, can’t leave them at home for very long, etc). Cats are much easier to take care of than a child (or a dog for that matter). </p>
<p>I’m not even going to go into what you said about me. You don’t even know me so you can’t sit here and tell me how I act.
How about YOU grow up and stop insulting people on forums who are just explaining something??</p>
<p>PS Dramakitty, I completely agree with everything you said in your last post. Go kitties!</p>
<p>I definitely want to get married someday, but I never want to have children. I have felt this way for quite some time, and I don’t think anything will change my mind anytime soon. My ideal life would be to travel the world and be spontaneous with my husband for the rest of our days, never feeling tied down or having the added responsibility of raising children.</p>
<p>they don’t pee all over everything to mark their territory if you have them fixed relatively early.
My cats at home aren’t kittens, they are around 4 and 6 and they get along really well. we had one of them a couple years before the other, too.
I have only met one cat that I didn’t like, and that is my friend Jordan’s cat Kiki. She is quite possibly possessed by Satan. She will be intentionally nice to you and act like she wants to be petted and then turn around and claw the crap out of your hand for no reason. The only person she likes is Jordan. Jordan’s other cat Bob is so sweet though, he loves everyone.
Cats have different personalities just like people do, but I have found that most cats, while they can be skittish around people they don’t know, are usually very loving towards their owners. </p>
<p>Also, I wouldn’t think that all of them lose control of their bladders when they’re old. It’s just like how old people are… some need Depends, some don’t.</p>
<p>A quick check-in from the future: I’m almost old enough to be some of your parents! :)</p>
<p>I adore babies, babysat all through high school, but have never wanted to get married or have kids of my own. My own parents have been married for 40 years, there aren’t any tragic marriages in my immediate family, none of that. When I was little, what I wanted was to never have any more homework, to have a job during the day, and to be able to be in plays and choirs at night and on weekends. </p>
<p>Most people outgrow that kind of dream. Not me. I’m now 35, not married, no kids, no pets because my roommate of 4 years (who’s doing the day-job-plus-music thing like me, although he’s a better musician) is allergic. </p>
<p>Some of my friends are single and have cats and roommates. Some of my friends are married and have kids. Some of my friends are on their second marriages and have stepkids who are in high school. Some of my friends are in polyamorous relationships, or group households, or co-parenting situations where multiple grownups are jointly raising their kids. In these social circles, a 35-year-old single person isn’t isolated or left out unless I want to be.</p>
<p>If getting married and having kids is what’s right for you, so be it. But if you’re thinking of doing it because otherwise all your friends will leave you behind, think twice.</p>
<p>I met a 33-year old lady just like you in my theater group. She was SO awesome.</p>
<p>Gstein, what makes you think you have the right to call AUlc immature just because she doesn’t want children? Having children is not for everyone. Do you think that everyone should whether they want to or not? She also is not insulting anyone who has kids by choosing not to have them herself (some people seem to think that way). It’s like being a doctor: I respect doctors and we have a need for good ones, however, I am not into math and science and would not want to handle all the aspects of being a doctor, therefore I’m choosing to be a prosecutor or psychologist instead. That’s just the view some people, possibly myself (I’m still undecided but leaning towards what the person above me says), and doesn’t make them any better or worse than you for the choices you decide to make.</p>
<p>My goodness, have we not accepted the concept that women are allowed to choose to not marry or have children if they prefer?! AULostChick, back under the burqa, and get in the damned kitchen and make me my supper woman! :rolleyes:</p>
<p>Seriously, i’m a more traditional gal - marriage, 2 kids, a puppy, i want it all someday - but I completely understand why so many people don’t. Who are you to call someone immature for not wanting babies? It’s a good thing people are thinking twice about having 'em. We need fewer idiot women like Octomom who go about popping out babies and living on welfare without any skills or talent to support them with. Having a kid should be a big decision, it should require some thought and planning, and those who couldn’t or wouldn’t want to care for a child shouldn’t. Why does it offend you that someone doesn’t want kids? </p>
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