<p>Oh no, I didn't mind it at all. I'm just... bewildered. I minded it once when I had to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night.</p>
<p>i think the man should sleep in the king-sized bed. i love really soft matress.
as for the girl, i think she should just take a hike and learn some manners.</p>
<p>If you get along well enough with your roomie, it goes unsaid that the roomie will go sleep smewhere else while your bf is visiting, no?</p>
<p>i got ****-blocked last night by one of my roomate's guests. kinda disappointed.</p>
<p>I too laughed at the idea of the boyfriend sleeping on the floor.</p>
<p>Yes, and it is pretty *<strong><em>ing annoying, especially if they're drunk and puke all of your *</em></strong>ing bathroom and stink up the room and are generally, just sick and disgusting. :rolleyes:</p>
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<p>couple times a semester? yea. Not during the week when your roomie has classes the next day. And not like a weekly thing.</p>
<p>And if you're not having sex, the roomie should be able to stay.</p>
<p>sex isn't the only problem.
my roommate has a friend who's roommate's bf stays over... like... ALL the time. so my roomie's friend actually stays in OUR room sometimes to get away.
her own roomie will sometimes sneak her bf into the room, and she'll wake up at 3am from his (LOUD) snoring, and go sleep in her lounge. basically talking to her does nothing, the bf still comes over (even though he has his own apartment... i mean you'd think she'd go stay with HIM...)
so. snoring bf's, inconsiderate roommates... yah sex can actually be the least of the problems xD</p>
<p>Since I live in an apt myself, I go to UMich AA a lot to hang with friends. Sometimes I sleep in a friend's room, which mostly are females</p>
<p>Generally I just take one of the beds, and she sleeps with her bf, (friend's roommate sleeps in bf's room all the time)</p>
<p>My other friend's room, I sleep on their couch, while she and her roommate gets beds. </p>
<p>The first friend, changes in her closet so it's not too big if I'm there. The second friend, meh she and her roommate just change in front of me. It's not too big of a deal, we're in college!!! :O</p>
<p>My roomie had her boyfriend stay over a lot this semester. I try to be understanding about it, but I get the feeling that she (and everyone else who wants to sleep with their significant other) does NOT understand how inconvenient it can be for the roommate in my position. </p>
<p>When he stays over, I have to change in the bathroom or someone elses room. I can't be in a towel in my room. I can't do my homework in my room. We don't really get along that well, so whenever he's around, the weekend is full of awkward conversation. They don't do anything in the room when I'm there (thank GOD!) but it is really weird to have this huge, hulking stranger around when I'm asleep. </p>
<p>It is VERY important to set rules about guests early in the semester. I didn't, and she started abusing the fact that I'm easygoing about her friends coming. Last time her boyfriend came, she didn't tell me in advance, and they just showed up in the room with his stuff for three days! NOT okay. It turned into a big fight. I ended up sleeping in someone else's room. </p>
<p>The important thing for people who want their bf/gf sleeping over to remember is that you have to remember that the room is only half yours, and when you have someone there, it affects the entire space that both of you are paying for. My roomie saw no problem with the fact that I was essentially kicked out of my room for entire weekends at a time. She saw me as a completely selfish person for objecting to him coming one weekend. </p>
<p>My advice is to set groundrules early on and try to remember the other person's feelings. Three nights is really pushing it--and completely moving in is TOTALLY wrong in my opinion.</p>
<p>related question: At most universities, can you sign up for a roommate with similar values? I mean ... is there a matching opportunity at all. In the case of my friend's daughter, she's a very religious girl ... and this whole situation was more than "just find a way to compromise with your roommate." It was totally against everything she believes, which made the whole situation much worse for her. Do colleges take these kinds of things into consideration, allowing kids to "match," so to speak when it comes to roommate assignments?</p>
<p>Zebes</p>
<p>i think some do, but for the most part its pretty random. Besides, why surround yourself with people who think just like you, it can be fun experimenting and trying out new ideas.</p>
<p>Reading this thread reminds me what an amazing situation I have.</p>
<p>My boyfriend and I sleep together basically every night (by which I mean sleep in the same bed, not have sex!). Both my roommate and his are our really good friends, so it’s really fun, and they don’t mind (in fact, the only complaint we get is “you guys are spending too much time in the other room. I miss you!”). It was a little awkward at the beginning, but now it’s fine. And now that both of our roommates have SOs, it REALLY works out for them, because they can request that we go to the other room if they want the night alone (and though sometimes we sleep in the room when his roommate’s girlfriend is over as well…it’s like a giant sleepover, because we’re all friends. Fun times). </p>
<p>Of course, it helps that we try to limit the number of times we ask our roommates to give us a room to ourselves, and we certainly never kick them out for more than a few hours at a time (and we try to do it at times they’d be out of the room anyway).</p>
<p>My girlfriend and I spend the night at each other's double rooms quite often, but we only do so when the roomate will be out. Good thing we're set to be roomates ourselves next year.</p>
<p>I love my situation. I have a bf with a 4-bedroom suite that only two people live in. We share a twin-size bed a lot of the time. (5 or so nights a week). I don't sleep on the floor. That would be ridiculous. My roommate who is my best friend has a boyfriend who stays in our room a lot. It's not really akward. Our twins are pushed together like a big bed so when we're all in teh same room during the day or one of the few nights i'm there it's basically all three of us in the same bed. Haha. We're really good friends though. And when my roommate leaves we hang out like we've always done. Sometimes it gets akward, because they're really touchy feely and i just go down to the frat that i'm a sweetheart too or my bfs room. It all works out in the end though.</p>
<p>Oh and i forgot to mention my suitemate. She got a boyfriend at the beginning of last semester and so did her roommate. Her roommate ended up living with her boyfriend (an ra) and never came back because suitemate 1's boyfriend was always over. Now suitemate 2 moved out and suitemate 1s boyfriend is moved in with EVERYTHING he owns over here. We share a bathroom and it's not really a big deal, I've never gotten irritated. Just when they de cided to take showers at 2 am or have sex 20x a day or listen to Trape din a Closet over and over and over while I'm sleeping or talk really loudly about horses having feelings. Haha So sometimes I want ot shoot them, but it's not that bad.</p>
<p>on the count of 20X a day.</p>
<p>Hey, if its 20x a day I really cant wait for college!!lol</p>
<p>My next door neighbors do it all the time (they even have a extra inflatable bed) and my roommate had 2 for students who were visiting the school..</p>
<p>THEN she left me with them and went off to the library for 4-5hours. =_= I was pretty ****ed off because i was tired and I didn't ask for this. Good thing the kids were nice.</p>
<p>Eh she made it up with cookies anyhow haha.</p>
<p>We used to have our guy friends over for the night every now and then, no biggie</p>
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<p>I wish there was a part that i could answer about sexphiling. I really don't wanna get stuck with a sexphiling roommate next semester, sigh. =_=</p>
<p>Do you people see what is driving that sort of extreme behavior? If the school would legally sanction opposite sex rooms, then it would lose its novelty.</p>
<p>Skirting around rules and laws can cause people to do things they normally wouldn't. Just ask any phsychologist.</p>