If you visited someone who lives in the same dorm complex as you, can’t you just basically sleep over forever?
Umm… what? I’m not sure what you’re asking here. Are you wanting to unofficially move in with someone in your dorm? My uni has rules against “unauthorized room changes”, which that would be categorized as.
Pretty much. My dorm only checked IDs at the entrance, so anyone already inside was free to go where they pleased. I pretty much slept over at my gf’s dorm in another floor of the same building for almost the entire school year.
And lol at SusieAnne’s comment. Every school has rules against unauthorized room changes. Doesn’t mean everybody is going to follow them.
I mean sure but hopefully the other roommate is okay with it.
Sure everyone might not follow it, but all it takes is one pissed off hallmate complaining to turn it into a big deal. Or, as whenhen mentioned, a PO’d roommate. I’d definitely complain if my roommate had her BF practically living in our room.
Yeahhh, thing is, we’re adults. Seeing as how we attend a university, we aren’t stupid adults either. So when trying to avoid getting caught for something, we tend to do things that decrease that chance, like NOT pissing off the hallmates or the roommate. For example, I had an agreement to never sleep over while my gf’s roommate was sleeping there. Good thing for me, she had her own bf who she stayed with often.
Even if someone complains, it’s never a “big deal”. College students have better things to do than snoop on their hallmates to see if they have a guest with an overextended stay.
It’s not about hallmates “snooping,” it’s about if I feel comfortable on the dorm floor that I’m helping to pay for just as much as my hallmate with a bf. And if I keep leaving the shower with just a fine on and meeting some strange guy, I’m going to complain and make it a big deal. Like it or not, the world doesn’t revolve around one hallmate and his/her SO.
Do you live in a same-sex dorm with 10 people in it? Everywhere else around the country, it’s normal to see “some strange guy” in your hall. My dorm complex housed over 3000 people, I didn’t know anyone who lived 5 rooms past mine on either end, and the bathrooms were 10 rooms away. That’s just residents alone, and each one of them has a right to have guests. I wouldn’t be surprised if I saw everyone from my entire graduating class at least once during my walk from the bathroom.
You want to feel comfortable on your own dorm floor but it bothers you to see someone you’ve never seen before? How long have you been in college? Because there will be some things that will bother you alot more than stuff like that.
You say the world doesn’t revolve around one hallmate and his/her SO, but you write as if it DOES revolve around the hallmate without one. Just because someone has an SO, doesn’t mean they are going to be banging pots in the hall to announce to everyone they are there. People bring other people in their rooms to stay the night, whether they are a SO or not, so get over it.
@OhSorryYo they’re not talking about the random stay-over, they’re talking about a permanent addition to a room. If the person has a roommate already they better make sure they and anyone else living in the room/suite is ok with it. I wouldn’t have been cool with my roommate’s g/f moving-in permanently and there’s nothing wrong with other people not being ok with it. The occasional night or weekend visit? Sure, I’m cool with that. Just try to give me a heads-up, first.
OP asked if a person could technically stay over forever. The answer to that is yes.
The answer to that is NOT ‘yes.’ First, it’s against regulations on most (if not all) campuses. Second, I’d bet that most roommates would not be cool with that and would eventually notify housing. In addition to the loss of privacy and awkwardness of someone of the opposite sex living in your room, you’re taking away space from an already cramped living area.
You are projecting your personal opinion on a hypothetical situation. You BET that MOST roommates? Well see, there’s your problem, because you actually don’t know that, or you just go to a really sheltered university. You stated that it’s against regulations at most campuses? Really? Well I think you are just projecting again, because surprise! My dorm allowed overnight visitors of the opposite sex after a majority vote BY THE RESIDENTS. Wow, big surprise there (not really).
^ Allowing overnight visitors is completely different than allowing a semi-permanent ‘visitor.’
I don’t know many people that’d be against an occasional overnight guest. I don’t know many people that’d be okay with letting someone stay over all of the time.
OP wasn’t asking if her roommate would be okay with it. She asked if it was technically possible to “sleep over forever”, all politics and roommate drama aside, yes you can.
This got kinda hostile pretty quick. I’d also assume most roommates wouldn’t really enjoy an addition like this. And why bother? If you already live in the same complex, how much more contact do you need with that person? Yeesh.
Just wanted to point out that someone can have a single. Everyone doesn’t have a roommate. If you are living by yourself then no one will get mad if you have a permanent “visitor”
Why don’t you just request a dorm with your friend next year? You can ‘sleep over’ all you want without breaking any regulations. 
My school is very strict on guests… but it’s trivial to sneak people in at night. I’ve had friends live in my dorm for months in the couch because none of my suite mates cared.