<p>PackMom–I can’t wear stylish but unsupporting shoes, either (for more than a short time). I’ve found Dansko clogs have saved the day – stylish, a little heel, dark colored – still good for the feet!</p>
<p>My mom has bought clothes for herself that are, er, too young sometimes IMO. She has once shown me shirts she bought that said “COME AND GET IT” in big orange letters or “Heartbreaker”, and I was like “DO NOT wear that in public!” </p>
<p>I am always very careful in buying clothes with sayings because my mind is not dirty enough to interpret the sexual meaning of some phrases. Examples include me buying a shirt that said “Fast girls finish first” with a picture of a motorcycle. I wore it in school and a friend said to me “Um, do you know what a fast girl is?”. Another time I bought a sweatshirt that said “Wild in the Streets” and I was told by someone it could be easily read as “Wild in the Sheets.”</p>
<p>My teen D’s certainly do not approve of me wearing any tops with sayings.</p>
<p>Today my friend and I went shopping. We were trying to find some everyday, “lab-appropriate” work clothes for her. What a hard task it turned out to be! The stores are full of really depressing, shapeless, dark clothes that even a 70+ old grandma would have a problem with. So we ended up buying underwear for my H and her BF - LOL. My biggest victory today was stopping my friend from buying pants with elastic waistband (she is only 45!).</p>
<p>^ You must be shopping at the wrong places… whenever I go to the mall the clothes being sold look the complete opposite.</p>
<p>Agree on the sayings. The only shirts I have w/sayings are a few Aero t-shirts for the gym.</p>
<p>What sort of a lab? Dh wears cargo pants and t-shirts or polo shirts in the summer and flannel or other button shirts in the winter. He puts on a jacket to give a lecture. Women wear the equivalent - jeans or regular pants with knit tops.</p>
<p>mathmom, it is a biochemistry lab, and people dress similarly to what you describe. We were looking for knit tops that are not bulky (can be worn both under a labcoat and in the office areas) yet look attarctive and fit her well. The colors and the styles that we saw were just too depressing… My friend is also very conservative when it comes to clothes and would not wear layers. I ended up dragging her away from the “senior citizen” section at Macy’s :eek:</p>
<p>I absolutely agree about sayings on t-shirts etc. I can’t stand huge logos either.</p>
<p>BB, tell your friend to look at Kohl’s. I have knit long sleeve shirts from Kohl’s in a variety of colors for work. They have round necks that are lower than a t-shirt neck (but not too low for work) so look feminine. They are not heavy. I wear them under sweaters when it’s really cold. They fit fairly close to the body, not tight but close enough to not look baggy,frumpy.</p>
<p>As far as I’m concerned if a shirt says Phillies or Eagles on it, it’s okay in my book 
At least on game day. What’s the big deal with wearing sneakers once in a while? I generally don’t wear them in town but if I’m doing yard work and realize I need a gallon of milk, I’m not going to change. I certainly don’t look at anyone else’s shoes when I’m at the grocery store. This dressing youthful is getting a little too much…</p>
<p>Phillies or Eagles shirts are required in MY life! I wear my race shirts, too. In fact, I finished a marathon Saturday after falling twice- a face plant in the dirt at mile 14 and a hard fall at mile 17 where I bruised/cracked some ribs-(I’m a spaz on uneven surfaces) in large part because I was hell-bent to get the “finisher” tech shirt. I’ll wear it with pride!</p>
<p>How about the LL Bean tshirts? They come in lots of colors and a fair number of different styles. <a href=“http://www.llbean.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/CategoryDisplay?categoryId=504209&nav=pp-bc&storeId=1&catalogId=1&langId=-1[/url]”>http://www.llbean.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/CategoryDisplay?categoryId=504209&nav=pp-bc&storeId=1&catalogId=1&langId=-1</a></p>
<p>I wear sneakers and Merrels all the time and am not interested in hearing that I shouldn’t.</p>
<p>The forbidden “sayings” aren’t of sports teams, or school booster clubs or the like…they’re “Cupcake” or “I Need More Cowbell” or probably anything Disney or Sponge Bob.</p>
<p>I was going to comment that it always helps to have a youthful haircut. Of course, then I got mine cut on Saturday and the lady gave me the “mom version” of the picture I showed her. </p>
<p>And while long hair can still be flattering, when you’re growng it out, please still get a trim into some shape. There is a mom I see about once a week who has just stopped getting cuts and has stopped coloring. I know her husband still has the same job so I don’t think it’s a financial thing, but in 6 months she’s gone from looking nice to screaming “I don’t care about how I look.” Longish scraggly gray hair with no discernable style is just not flattering.</p>
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And while long hair can still be flattering, when you’re growng it out, please still get a trim into some shape. There is a mom I see about once a week who has just stopped getting cuts and has stopped coloring. I know her husband still has the same job so I don’t think it’s a financial thing, but in 6 months she’s gone from looking nice to screaming “I don’t care about how I look.” Longish scraggly gray hair with no discernable style is just not flattering.
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<p>I have a friend in her mid-fifties who has been growing out her hair; she’s now wearing it in the style she wore in college - almost waist length with bangs. This hairstyle is per her husband’s request - he wanted her to wear her hair long again. (My husband jokingly asked if I would do the same for him - the answer: not in this lifetime.) Though she has almost no gray, she does wear matronly clothes and with the long hair looks absolutely awful. She’s one of my closest friends and I’ve vacillated between saying something and keeping my mouth shut. Mouth shut is winning so far. She looks so bad with the teen hair, even her husband has to notice. Not quite sure what’s going on there - and none of my business. :)</p>
<p>On the flip side, I have another friend in her early fifties who always looks great. She is one of those people who manages to find that balance between looking age appropriate and wearing non-matronly clothes, shoes, and accessories.</p>
<p>Ignatius, I guess the closest acceptable thing to “commenting” on the bad hair would be to find a celebrity picture, or other nice picture of someone with a flattering long haircut and say, “Oh, now that your hair is long, you could wear it like __ does. Isn’t that cute? I could never wear mine like that but you totally could.”</p>
<p>I do love LLBean for my “comfort” wear - fleece especially. This “t-shirt” is really cute and a good price! I might have to indulge…
[Velvet-Trimmed</a> Tee, Scoopneck: Long-Sleeve at L.L.Bean](<a href=“http://www.llbean.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/CategoryDisplay?page=velvet-trimmed-tee&categoryId=61684&storeId=1&catalogId=1&langId=-1&parentCategory=504213&cat4=504209&shop_method=pp&feat=504209-sub2&np=Y]Velvet-Trimmed”>http://www.llbean.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/CategoryDisplay?page=velvet-trimmed-tee&categoryId=61684&storeId=1&catalogId=1&langId=-1&parentCategory=504213&cat4=504209&shop_method=pp&feat=504209-sub2&np=Y)</p>
<p>I have a friend who recently got a boob job done, is in great shape because that’s all she does :). She looks great. She always wears nice clothes (more low cut now) and shoes. I am very jealous. I just don’t have as much as she does to get a facial or to work out. Her husband is younger, but she looks much better than her husband (he is probably all stressed out trying to support her, good looks doesn’t come cheap).</p>
<p>they are sold out already in most sizes abasket :(</p>
<p>Of course. Darn it.</p>
<p>Score! I was able to get a green one (sweet pea) - will look great with jeans or khakis…</p>