<p>LilSal: in case you're still looking for ideas, here are a couple.</p>
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<li><p>Cheers may be right in that your S hasn't yet found "his people". Most schools nowadays aren't so homogeneous as to be composed only of "spoiled rich white kids" or the like. But he may not yet have found a different type of group where he would feel more comfortable.<br>
Perhaps (of course, perhaps not) he'd be willing to talk about that.</p></li>
<li><p>He could try doing some things that the other kids don't do to connect with other types of people. Serious community service off-campus might be one</p></li>
<li><p>Don't know anything about these overseas service programs, but recently saw something else along those lines. There is an organization - but I forget its name - that runs study abroad programs in underdeveloped and developing countries in which the student studies at the major university of that country, in a program that includes components specific to that country or region (history, economics, language, etc.) and spends some time in rural areas of that country. Perhaps someone else remembers the name. That could be something to shoot for without straining the budget with extra expenses.</p></li>
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