<p>It is getting close to hearing about Early Decisions. Students are stressing out. They seem to put so much importance on their first choice.</p>
<p>Any advice from parents who have been through the ED process with students who have received rejections, deferrals and acceptances?</p>
<p>it’s not the end of the world. whatever happens… just remember that.</p>
<p>If your child gets good news, remember some of his/her classmates may be receiving bad news. So party hearty at home, but try to keep it a little more low key at school, for the sake of friends who are embarrassed and disappointed.</p>
<p>I am a parent whose older kid was deferred at ED. Everyone thought D1 would be admitted at ED, which made it a lot worse. She was ultimately rejected by her ED and many of her top choices at RD. I still remember how tough it was to pick up the pieces, which included watching her hyper ventilate into a brown bag because she couldn’t breath after seeing multiple rejections within minutes when decisions came out.</p>
<p>Now it is 5 years later. D1 graduated from her waitlisted school with honor, has her dream job, and had 4 very best years of her life. D1 told us that she ended up where she was meant to be. </p>
<p>We are now waiting to hear from D2’s ED. I have to keep on reminding myself that it will also work out for the best for D2, no matter what. I told D1 not to let the college process define her high school experience, and I am now saying the same thing to D2.</p>
<p>Just because it is the second time around, it doesn’t make it easier. I want to wish everyone best of luck.</p>
<p>From day one, we have advised our son that his ED choice is no sure thing. He has the ECs and the scores and grades, but at top colleges it’s a numbers game, and top schools turn away tousands of qualified kids every year.</p>
<p>We think he knows that he can be happy at any and all his choices.</p>
<p>Good luck to all.</p>
<p>Our older D’s experience is very similar to oldfort’s, except that D is now a junior in college at her waitlisted school. For ED she was deferred, and then ultimately rejected. Got 5 rejections in one day in the spring, which happened to also be her birthday. It was pretty discouraging.</p>
<p>Now we are waiting with S for news on his ED school. He is very aware of his sister’s experience, and while he has a clear favorite, he would be very happy attending several other schools on his list. We have also hopefully learned through D’s experience and he has applied to a less reachy list of schools.</p>
<p>My oldest didn’t apply ED, but he did apply to two schools EA (one of which he thought was his first choice) and was deferred to the regular round for both and then ultimately rejected. He ended up at a school that was a perfect fit (probably better for him than the 2 EA schools) and now has a fabulous job in his field.</p>
<p>I got in early and it made the rest of my senior year amazing.</p>
<p>I applied EDII to Swarthmore and was rejected. I still think I would have loved to go there, but I wasn’t able to do so, and that’s okay. I fared well in the regular round, and I have opportunities where I am now that I would not have had there. In any case, one can thrive at a number of schools, and in a couple of years, the admissions madness will be nothing but a distant memory ;)</p>
<p>I’m waiting for the Columbia ED results, and it was nice to hear some comforting stories! Thanks for sharing.</p>
<p>I may be turning the thread a tiny bit but am just curios: What percentage of kids in your/your children’s classes applied ED/REA/SCEA?</p>
<p>High percentage of kids from private schools and top public schools apply to ED for 2 reasons, 1) Parents and GCs are more savvy, 2) they don’t need FA.</p>
<p>D1, now a sophmore,was deferred ED,and got in RD… D2 currently a HS senior, applied to a school with rolling admission (Pitt)and was accepted…likley her 2nd or 3rd choice, but having an acceptance already makes the waiting for RD news much easier</p>
<p>Waiting on ED decision - think I’m more excited than S! He’s anxious & I’m trying not to remind him how many days left…D will be home from finishing 1st semester of freshman year & she’s anxious, too! I don’t think there are many boys from his class - all boys private - doing ED/SCEA/EA, which seems surprising. What makes it worse is website hasn’t given indication of when decisions will be received. Ugh…</p>
<p>Also waiting for a December 15 ED decision and we don’t know exact mail date either. In addition, they use snail mail and either admit or deny - no deferral. It is a reach for him but he is SO hopeful which really makes me even more stressed! His brother was admitted to the same school ED 3 years ago, so a denial will be especially difficult! ~SIGH!~</p>
<p>Dwhite - Do you mind if I ask if you’re talking about Vanderbilt?</p>
<p>We weren’t fortunate enough to apply ED, just can’t afford it with three boys. My son has worked so hard striving to better himself year after year for this very moment. Many of his friends have applied ED to Harvard, Princeton and MIT and there is no doubt he was envious. He applied EA to 10 schools as a mechanical engineering major. Well, the responses have begun coming in, some already have awarded him good money providing him options. It has been a tremendous life learning adventure for him! He spent the time researching to incredible depths all these schools and he has found they are all fantastic schools with pros and cons and if he could have done ED he would have done a disservice to himself. The peer pressure these kids experience is a challenge and I am so happy for him that he realizes his hard work did pay off as he had hoped, he just traveled a different route.</p>
<p>Waiting for a Dec. 15 ED for D2. If the news is bad, there will be tears and drama, but I’m trying to prepare her for the blow by focusing on the other possibilities. She already has two rolling acceptances at good schools where she would be happy. And one very strong RD favorite. I talk with her a lot about the favorable aspects of those three colleges. Also trying to point out a couple of the negative aspects of her ED school. It is not easy being seventeen, is it?</p>
<p>boymom - Yes, it is. Are you waiting on Vandy too?? Good luck - hope we can celebrate here together!!</p>
<p>Dwhite - Us, too! Wish I knew whether to expect it on 15th or getting mailed out on 15th…
Good news is, everyone gets a small envelope so no way to know when mailman drops it off. One week is going to go SO slow! Good luck to you & would love to celebrate! If he doesn’t get in, just glad we don’t have to go the waitlisted route - did that with D & it’s pure stress!</p>