<p>I am a father of a high school senior who is number one in his/her graduating class. His/her competitor has some photographs of him/her on someone else's facebook page smoking at a party, what clearly appears to be an illegal substance in a most uncompromising appearance of inebriation (age 17 or younger in this very recent photo). I personally know who will be interviewing him/her for a very prestigious school, one that my child has already interviewed for, and has a strong (by no means guaranteed) chance of admission, though no one from his/her high school has been admitted to this school in many years. Would it be unethical of me, as a parent, to anonymously provide these photos to either the interviewer, or the admissions office directly? What about sending this to other top notch schools that I presume he/she has applied to (that are also on my childs' list)? The admissions office in question has made it clear on their web site that they do not routinely google or facebook applicants, but that if information becomes available, through whatever means, that may have an impact on character not contained within an application, they want as much information possible to make the wisest decision on who they admit. I don't want to seem like the Texas Cheerleader Mom to enhance my child's chances, as it is unlikely that both students would be offered admission to the same schools, as it would likely be one or the other admitted. While there must be a thousand similar students that I know nothing negative about, am I to immersed in my childs' success at the expense of another student that I should release the information I have to minimize the chance of admission for this other student to enhance my child's potential for admission offers?</p>
<p>When you put “helicopter” in your name, it’s pretty clearly a joke.</p>
<p>Not to mention the obviously wrong action. And it the beginning, it seemed like you were saying the competitor had photos of “your kid.”</p>
<p>Don’t do it</p>
<p>It is the wrong thing to do. Period. End of discussion.</p>
<p>You are a terrible person. Focus on your child not theirs.</p>
<p>That you would even entertain the thought of doing such a immoral thing is a sad testament to the state of college admissions and to the whole ethical climate of our society. Focus on your own child , not what you imagine to be bad behavior of some other student. How do you know that some unsavory photos of your own child don’t exist somewhere? Four years from now, when you are attending your child’s college graduation, do you want the day to be clouded by memories of how you “helped” him win admission to the school? Let your child’s application stand on its own merits. And don’t spoil some other kid’s chances by alerting admission officers to some stupid mistake that in all liklihood is not at all reflective of the kid and his record or potentiall. Don’t do it!!!</p>
<p>There is no dilemma here. What you propose is unethical. Period.</p>
<p>OMG…is this a serious “ethical dilemma”? you are delusional but you definitely represent what is wrong with college admissions…and parents</p>
<p>Unethical, wrong, cruel, immoral? Yes, all of these things.</p>
<p>Do unto others . . . what goes around comes around . . . you reap what you sow . . . You obviously think your child is an angel but no one is without faults. You are on the verge of creating some very, very bad karma for your child.</p>
<p>I don’t know if the original post was a ■■■■■ or not, but in any case: </p>
<p>If someone was engaged in activity that was a hazard to others (such as date rape) or was trying to commit a serious con of a college with false credentials, then it should be reported.</p>
<p>I think if you told a college admissions officer that an applicant has smoked pot, they would just laugh, and go right back to reading their files.</p>
<p>on reconsideration, I do think the OP is a ■■■■■…I didn’t notice originally that this was their first post on CC…</p>
<p>have some decency l! let your kid go to the college he deserves to and let the other do the same. stop interfering.</p>
<p>@Rodney</p>
<p>Well, given the fact that the username is so aptly named “helicopter,” and it’s a first post on CC, it’s all an elaborate ■■■■■ in my opinion.</p>
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Elaborate? Eh. I’ve seen much better.</p>
<p>where is the helicopter ??? I need a ride to the airport …</p>
<p>■■■■■, right?? I sure hope so.</p>
<p>Are you kidding? I would be on the phone to the kid’s parent and let them know so that those pictures can be removed and some creep doesn’t do what you are proposing to do.</p>
<p>the OP is the other kid wondering what he should do. Grow up!</p>
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<p>Wrong, next question. Disqualifying a student from your son/daughters HS will not increase your son/daughter’s chance. If both are initially selected for admission, they won’t turn one away because they are from the same school.</p>
<p>That’s beyond unethical. It’s none of your business at all.</p>