I’m a junior in college, and so far this year, I’ve been feeling a bit lonely this year. I only have one roommate And she has been gone a lot cause she has a boyfriend. My other close friend doesn’t live with me and we haven’t really been seeing too much of each other. I don’t wanna be clingy, but I just miss company. I don’t want to spend the whole year feeling sorry for myself and feeling alone, so does anyone have any tips/ stories to share?
Join a club!
Invite old or new friends to coffee, lunch, an activity on campus. Call someone, join a new club.
I’m in the same situation. I feel awful. I transferred to a new school by my parents by choice (I really really love it here and my school) and I have to live with them for the semester til my boyfriend gets here. It’s so hard when you’re out of the loop of everything going on and the isolation is the worst feeling. I was on vacation and missed the first two days of recruitment so I didn’t even get to rush. I’m gonna try to go to meetings for my major and try to find my fit. Hang in there, I hope it gets better for us.
I’m the same way. I have friends but the problem is my friends have friends. So, I still end up alone on the weekends almost wishing I could go home because at least there my parents are happy to see me and I don’t feel pressured to have plans every night. I joined a club but still I don’t feel like I’ve really found my place. I’ve recently been applying for jobs hoping that maybe I’ll strike up a close friendship with a coworker. If that doesn’t work I honestly don’t know what else I could do
Ugh, I’m so sorry. This is my second weekend of sitting around not doing anything and waiting on people to possibly text me back maybe we could all hang out together! Haha
Also I totally get the not wanting to be clingy thing. It’s really hard when you’re not completely familiar with people yet and you don’t wanna be annoying and blow up their phones. I’m so used to my friends that I’ve had for years where I can call them a few times without it being weird or just go over on a short notice.
You need to try to get over the feeling of pressure to have plans with others every weekend night. If it happens, great, but if not, there are other ways to spend the weekend. There is nothing wrong with studying in a more leisurely way that weekend time might allow, getting a little extra sleep, doing your laundry, reading for pleasure, or watching TV as weekend activities. You could also be brave and invite other people who are alone on your floor or in your dorm to come to your room and play UNO or any other card or board games.
Join a competitive drinking team. You’ll have a great time…just maybe not remember it. LOL
I try to talk to whoever I can in class. Math class, no one talks to each other because most people dislike math. :))
Also make sure you understand how your friends like to work…some people want to have weekend plans made by Tuesday so if you ask on Thurs they already have plans.