<p>Enginox, that pegs him more likely as an engineer, except CivE, than a CS major. Based on his name I would guess MechE.</p>
<p>"Enginox, that pegs him more likely as an engineer, except CivE, than a CS major. Based on his name I would guess MechE. "</p>
<p>i’m in electrical engineering focusing on energy systems in grad school. </p>
<p>“$80/month for a dating site? That is ridiculous. I’m pretty sure most of the pay sites are more around $15/mo. Also, there are free dating sites that you could try.”</p>
<p>i’ve tried the free ones but i didn’t really get many responses. The next step up costs $80 / month. I realize I shouldn’t be making a math problem out of this but the way i see it, this is my only other alternative. I’ve tried volunteering and joined a couple sports clubs but did not get anywhere. However, I will admit that I’m getting more comfortable talking to women. </p>
<p>I think I will talk to the girl I’m “dating”, hopefully it’ll go well.</p>
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<p>My thoughts EXACTLY.</p>
<p>Hang in there thermo. Your world and dating opportunities will improve exponentially after you finish school and enter the real world with an engineering job. </p>
<p>In the meantime, always remember that the guy pays. Even if the girl offered, it always made me uncomfortable.</p>
<p>FWIW, if you can snag a girl spending $100 per month on 5 dates, you should write a book.</p>
<p>“In the meantime, always remember that the guy pays. Even if the girl offered, it always made me uncomfortable.”</p>
<p>how long did you keep paying for? I have a decent funding package in grad school so I guess I could pay for her but I’m more against the fact that she never offers. If she offered and I insisted on paying that would be a different story.</p>
<p>See bonehead’s earlier post:</p>
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<p>[Online</a> Dating Services - Match.com Review](<a href=“http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/datingservicereviews/matchcomreview.html]Online”>http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/datingservicereviews/matchcomreview.html) - $10 to $20 per month. I have no idea how accurate this site is about pricing, but I see no reason for it to be inaccurate. What were you using that was $80 per month?</p>
<p>I find that it is harder to meet people while working. At least for me, working X hours per week presents significantly fewer opportunities to meet people than going to school X hours per week. Also, a lot of the people I am surrounded by are now quite often older and married, rather than around my age and single.</p>
<p>I’m an engineering girl dating my engineering bf for 3 years.<br>
When I start dating someone, usually they pay for the dates a while. Then eventually we split some things. Usually guys won’t let me pay even I offer.</p>
<p>In general, I think the guy should pay for more stuff then the girl does, though the girl should pay for stuff as well.<br>
I consider myself a cheap date though. Dinner is rarely more than 20-25 and we usually rent movies more than watch in theaters. I know we don’t have a ton of money since we can’t work too much while in school and financing school is a pain itself. </p>
<p>I think $20 a date isn’t too bad, especially if you like the girl. Are you tight on money? In the long run, if she cares, she will definately want to help you out.</p>
<p>i’m a girl and i honestly hate when guys pay for everything (although i do like the gesture, it just gets really old). if i am going on a first date with someone i especially hate it and will get the cheapest thing off the menu because it makes me feel guilty. i’m a girl in engineering though, something about being paid for makes me feel inferior to men which is something i don’t like feeling…</p>
<p>maybe look for signs that your girl is uncomfortable too? i know a lot of girls who feel the same way. like sometimes i take out my wallet because i really do intend to pay… if she seems uncomfortable at all, maybe say that you offer the gesture to be nice but if she would want to split it another time?</p>
<p>my 2 cents.</p>
<p>okay, I’m sort of old fashioned and for meals I sort of never had an issue with a guy not paying or not wanting to </p>
<p>but like, then we go to a movie and I will usually try to pay, or I’ll buy him something later in if I really like him and see something he’d like (like a shirt or hat or something)</p>
<p>I also hate fancy restaurants and expensive things so I guess guys find me a “cheap date” or whatever so they don’t mind paying. But $20 a meal sounds like a lot, if it’s more than $7 I’ll try to insist on paying. Especially if this is an often thing.</p>
<p>Have you taken her to more casual cheaper restaurants? Have you said, “damn, I don’t have as much money, is it okay if we split/stay home and watch TV/go walk around downtown?” and seen her response?</p>
<p>I feel like she doesn’t say anything because you offer it up so eagerly. I mean, it’s free meals so why not?</p>
<p>$20 per person sounds about right to me if you’re going to a real restaurant (real as in not fast food). Of course, it also depends on where you are and the cost of living in that area.</p>
<p>^mm, true, my neighborhood isn’t really much, I can get a full lunch at a mexican restaurant for $3</p>
<p>I just checked the menu of one of my favorite restaurants and saw that I can get a side of guacamole for $3. Definitely varies a lot.</p>
<p>Of course, Mexican food is just about the cheapest food you can get save maybe Chinese. It is made super fast too.</p>
<p>Just call your current GF expenses as prepaid tuition. :)</p>
<p>^haha, seriously? I just go across the street from work and pick up 4 asada tacos with avocado slices for $3, even though the tacos are little corn ones it still fills you up after 3 of them</p>
<p>or you can chalk up today’s expenses against the expected duties of a wife. :)</p>
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<p>Yes, though it’s a sit-down restaurant with waiters and everything. My favorite Mexican restaurant is actually much cheaper ($1.09 for a hardshell taco with ground beef), but it’s not somewhere I’d take a date unless we just happen to be passing by and craving a snack.</p>
<p>^yeah, I might be insulted if a guy just took me there. But for dates I’d just like to go hang out with the guy, movie, play at a uni, hangout with friends, some party, club, wherever. Just something fun and laid back. A nice little chinese place is perfectly fine to eat at.</p>
<p>Don’t pay. Why are you paying? What is she doing for you in return? Spending time with you? This is a thing about girls that really gets to me. The girls that expect you to pay for everything and don’t even think to thank you when you do, because they expect it. If I take a girl out and pay (I usually will the first time just because it makes things smoother) and she doesn’t thank me or show some sort of appreciation, then I will not take her out again. Usually eventually they will offer to take you out and then you can thank them and hopefully they get the hint. </p>
<p>The guys that buy girls dinner constantly and pay for all the dates and buy the girls they don’t even know drinks at the bar, I don’t get it, its counterproductive or at least not doing anything good for you in the long run. If deep down you actually want to spend money on her and treat your girl, then that’s a different story, no problem with that.</p>
<p>I think its rooted at a deep level of how the guy thinks of himself. If you’re confident and know you have options, know you don’t need this girl, then you will not pay her to spend time with you. Like I said, what is she doing to earn your time?</p>