<p>If it was up to me, which it most decidedly is not, my kids would have passed up Greek life. One did pass it up, at a school where it’s a low-key presence, because she didn’t want to part with the money for dues. However, she dated a guy in a frat for 3 years, got to know the other brothers well as a little sister (don’t know whether that was an official title or not:)), and remains friendly with many of them 5 years after graduation. She enjoyed her unique perspective on Greek life and has no regrets about not rushing. At her school, there’s an inclusive social scene and friendships are not limited to Greek/non-Greek.</p>
<p>The middle d thought hard about Greek life during her first semester at a school where frats/sororities are a real presence, decided to participate, and eventually wound up on Panhellenic Council with some heavy-duty responsibilities. She thrived on it and had many opportunities for travel, public speaking, and meaningful fundraising for her house’s philanthropy. It undeniably gave her a polish and social confidence she didn’t have before. Sure, she could have developed those in other ways, and probably would have - but Greek life is where she did.</p>
<p>The youngest, at d1’s school, was influenced (not to say hypnotized) by d2’s positive attitude and has been very happy in Greek life since freshman year. She’s had some emotional challenges over the past few years and her sorority responsibilities, and sisters, have given her much comfort and support.</p>
<p>I don’t know if anyone’s mentioned it yet, but I think a sorority’s greatest advantage is the big sister/little sister relationship. It basically meant that an older student made it her job to welcome, mentor, encourage, and kind of adopt my kids during freshman year. Of course relationships like this occur elsewhere, but Greek life made it happen for my kids at a time they really needed it.</p>
<p>So why would I rather my kids had passed up Greek life? I’m just not happy about the selection process and never will be, however similar it may be to real-life friend-making, as some will say. But I can see the benefits of Greek life, in sororities especially.</p>