Frats/Sororities

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<p>Way off base but I'll reply to you anyways. Eating really doesn't matter to the sisters, I refrained because I didn't want a blob of chocolate hanging from my front teeth. (Which makes a bit of a dodgy first impression no matter how friendly the person you meeting is). And I wasn't sure how I would juggle eating and talking. Spray food onto furniture and people anyone? :p</p>

<p>Shoes -- the comfy shoes that people wore walking from house to house were left outside the house's lawn before girls went in. You slip on your heels before you go in, and then just carry them when you walk from house to house. </p>

<p>I definitely recommend you bring the coat for round robins because you'll be entirely miserable at the end of your first hour, and both days are long days. Do the whole hand shaking, introduction, coat checking spiel I mentioned for the first two days, maybe you'll figure out a smooth and natural way to handle it all. I never really did. :p</p>

<p>Definitely long and stressful, just take a look at the schedule. I absolutely HATED round robins, so if you do, don't stress. My cheeks were aching from smiling, my feet were dying, and if I had to go into the whole where I'm from topics again, I would scream. It's really because everyone's so nervous and tense on their first days because no one has any idea what to expect (unless you've rushed before)and the sisters are looking at the hordes of girls in their houses and going holy.. crap. How do I find this year's pledge class from all these faces? But the rounds afterwards get a lot better because you're going back to houses you more or less feel comfortable at, and it's the sisters' turn to show you what they're about.</p>

<p>Tips - I shoved a paperback into my pocket for the waiting time between houses. 15 minutes doesn't sound like a long time but repeat that 14 times and it'll definitely be a boring wait. During lunch time you get to go into warming houses -- frat houses that are opened to rush and have food and drink on the table. My advice would be, stuff yourself, sit down and try to take a nap. I did the two former and kind of wished I did the nap part too. Try not to go to the restroom while you're in a house, there's certainly no rule against it but you'll lose time talking to the sisters and getting a general feeling about the house. </p>

<p>Don't stress too much about the name cards you have to make! (You drop them off at each house to show you were there). Some girls had theirs professionally done and calligraphied. Way overdone in my opinion, but it's what some people like, and it does look professional. I just printed a page of my name, hometown, and year off the computer and tore them into little bits. Jagged edges and all. :p</p>

<p>Recs are certainly not needed (again, me as an example), but they help.</p>

<p>Untilted - lol.</p>

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<p>Right... like they serve only chocolates during rush....</p>

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<p>Melli - question for ya - my D is a very cute, all-around type of girl, outgoing, but not "perky cute" if you know what I mean - down to earth and friendly. She mingles with every type pretty well - very sporty, in good shape, (will do crew at UVA - not a rower, but a cox, also wants to do gymnastics), but does like to be feminine. She is very much a leader (captain of 2 teams in HS). Thoughts on a sorority where she would best fit?....assuming she gives it a try, or decides she has time.</p>

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<p>At rush, the girls have to go to all of the houses so your daughter can figure out which sorority she fits in with the best. Going for a specific sorority before rush starts can make the process even more difficult unless she wants to go to a sorority that bypasses rush and going almost immediately to pledging like the Sigmas, Zetas, Kappas, or even the Deltas who are so notorious in their pledge process their national board banned them from getting new pledges/sorors until 2009.</p>

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<p>mckin43, you daughter will find out which house fits her the best herself. It will happen naturally. </p>

<p>To predict which house your D will end up, it's crucial to assess her "hotness" first, since a girl's "hotness" is very much correlated with her choice of sorority. Haha, just kidding.</p>

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<p>You know, I wouldn't be surprised about the hotness and sorority choice correlation. I have seen/known/liked various girls in various sororities. I have "friends" in this or that sorority, "friends I notice" in this or that other sorority, and "FILFs" in THAT sorority.</p>

<p>It could just be my own taste or something else, but it's an interesting observation.</p>

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<p>Thanks for the input - having been thru rush at UGA MANY years ago, I just recall it was easy to see immediately where I fit or didnt....I just dont picture her with her nose in the air and I know various sor. have that rep. Just wondering if there are specific sor. that have a fair share of the athletes.</p>

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<p>and the hotness remark - I know that really is a factor for most....she's very cute ....hot?....yes I think so but she does not strive to be that, if u know what I mean.</p>

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<p>I really can't pinpoint specific ones since it seems like she'd fit at any sorority that doesn't look for 'old money'. I'd do some horn tooting here and say mine! But seriously, someone like her will have a huge pool to choose from. =)</p>

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<p>girl or guy, everyone should at least try rush. there are some really fun and rewarding opportunities in greek life, and if you find a house or two that give you that good vibe, take advantage of the opportunity!</p>

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<p>thats a fairly large assumption to make, I am willing the bet there are a huge number of people that would not at all benefit from being in a frat. I am assuming you are in one, but not everyone has the same mindset as you. If your on the fence about rushing, you probably should, but to say EVERYONE should is a bit rash.</p>

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<p>I'm not a member of an IFC fraternity, nor are there many that I would join if I wanted. </p>

<p>Thing about greek life is that it has the potential to be anything you want it to be. You can be fully invested, find all your best friends there and have that be the center of your college experience. It can be another item on the list of activities vying for time from a very invlolved person, something you can always go to and find friends/things to do.</p>

<p>No, not everyone who rushes will decide they like it. But I don't think one would be making a very well informed decision if they haven't at least been through rush. </p>

<p>To me, there is more to a fraternity than booze and parties.</p>

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<p>"To me, there is more to a fraternity than booze and parties."</p>

<p>+1</p>

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<p>"I am willing the bet there are a huge number of people that would not at all benefit from being in a frat"</p>

<p>Not a huge number. Maybe a couple. Most people will benefit from it if they choose the right places.</p>

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<p>Wazhoom I agree with your attitude. I also agree that everyone should try rush just to see what the whole deal is. If you count yourself out from day one by saying 'oh, I'm not a Greek person' yet see some of your closest friends rushing and enjoying it, there will always be the doubt of 'what if..'. </p>

<p>Ehiunno - probably a huge amount of people wouldn't benefit from being in a solely party frat/srat, but there are still plenty good ones out there. =)</p>

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<p>melli, since you're so encouraging on greek life, why don't you give us some pointers about certain sororities to enlighten us? I'll name a variety in order of popularity, as is observed on campus:</p>

<p>Kappa Kappa Gamma
Kappa Alpha Theta
Delta Delta Delta
Kappa Delta
Pi Beta Phi
Alpha Delta Pi</p>

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<p>From an account of an asian girl in a white sorority at UVA:</p>

<p>"...it has slowly occurred to me that most of pictures are now with white people, except the few regular asian faces. and for some odd reason, i feel a sense of accomplishment and achievement." </p>

<p>Hmm, an interesting quote indeed. I wonder if the fact that being in a white sorority is the backbone of her support system and social standing. What will happen after the 4 years of being together with all those white girls?</p>

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<p>wait so if youre asian that means you prob wont get into a frat or sor unless u dress and act like them?</p>

<p>then again doesnt that mean thats not the right frat or soro for you in the first place?</p>

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<p>There is a fraternity or sorority for every person who really wants to be in one without changing how you look or act. Tenniscraze is taking out-of-context quotes and his unknown hatred of Greeks to turn people away from rush. Just ignore his posts pertaining to Greeks.</p>

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<p>I can't help but think that people change the way they act and behave after joining frats/sororities. It's called fitting in with the group.</p>

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<p>You're a complete naif if you think this is limited to greek organizations or that greek organizations represent the most extreme form of it.</p>