<p>My daughter hates where she is going to college. SHe was all excited before. But this has been a very rough time for her--no one to talk, is not making friends, lonely.</p>
<p>She is thinking about coming back home for school. Just need parents who have the same experience to bounce ideas off of thanks.</p>
<p>Send her to Tri-C or a local community college for a semester or two. Once my fiancee was put in the nursing home, I was bored out of my mind at Kent for the last two semesters. I couldn't wait to get back to Cleveland! Some people just can't leave the old neighborhood.</p>
<p>joev was that response directed to my post?!!?</p>
<p>I was mainly talking about myself, I knew basically noone in city of Kent except my fiancee, but after her MS got worse, I couldn't wait to get back to Cleveland because I had no friends down there. Similar situation your daughter is in being lonely away from the old neighborhood I assumed.</p>
<p>I would like for her to at least stay until her freshman year is up.</p>
<p>That would be recommendable, that would give you guys the summer to mull over the situtation. Wouldn't be as cold then either. :-)</p>
<p>Your daughter needs to change things. She needs to get involved. This could be joing a club, doing volunteer work, getting a part time job, doing research. If she does this semester what she did last, things won't get better.</p>
<p>whatever she decides to do, tell her to not simply withdraw because it may be hard to get back in...you don't want to go through the process all over again. if things don't get better this semester, she should consider taking a leave of absence.</p>
<p>Transfer is not a dirty word. Your daughter may enjoy taking on the search for a new and better match. It would give her something to do in her spare time. How are her classes going? Sometimes the classes are not going well and that contributes to the disatisfaction.
It's wise I think to give moral support. But there comes a point it's not what they want, they have to make a change.</p>
<p>well, class this past quarter were okay--2 bs 1 a and a c in chemistry (wake up call for her). She says her work load does not allow for a job or clubs. I wish, besides me, she could talk to someone who understand what she is going through and help her work through it. I know that if she just gets someone (decent and trustworthy) to talk to she would feel alot better!</p>
<p>If her workload doesn't allow for a part time job or a club, her workload is too big.
At my daughter's school, she was told she has time to partake in two activities unless she joined a sorority or was a varsity athlete. Then, it was only one.
Why can't she talk to someone?</p>
<p>Was she always a super student? Is she going through shock with the new grading and amount of work? So many kids don't like that first year.</p>
<p>No one to talk to? Does she live alone? There must be other kids in her dorm, in her classes, and where she works. Is there a boyfriend back home that she is pining for or some other reason why she chooses not to talk to those around her? </p>
<p>If your daughter is religiously inclined at all, joining a local church congregation is a good option. You can always find people to talk to if you are involved with a church.</p>
<p>O, she could talk to someone if she would TALK TO SOMEONE! I have suggested talking to her RA about how she feels, her advisor, she is just to shy to do it. I dont feel like I am letting her find her way if I talk to them for her and Im not going too. Ive given the your not #1 in your graduating class speech, I given the well come back home and get a job speech, I given the suck it up speech, I given the write how you feel in your journal speech, the find something in common with your suitemate speech, say hello to everyone you come in contact with speech. Ive been reading over similar posts with the same situation and they say just finish out this year and see what happens. I would at least like for her to do that.</p>
<p>Is this the first time she is away from home?</p>
<p>O, she has been to florida in a computer compettion, chicago for computer competition, she lived in CA for 8 weeks in during a NASA internship program--we are from OH, she has lived with different people-but like I mentioned to her-those were controlled environments--you were all working toward the same thing. College is so different give it a chance!!!</p>
<p>Seems like maybe everything is overwhelming and that it will take some time for her to mature. It's so great you are on her side. It's so important for her to have your support.</p>
<p>She has always been a great student--she worked hard for it--Im not the smartest person she knows--I have encouraged her to contact the local churches and maybe she will do that too--and I understand that it will take some time--I just want her to stick it out--give it time and not allow the school that still needs to be done to suffer which will really cause a problem for her. A full ride to college is what she got. She had to turn money away and delay money. We didn't have ANY money for college for her, but it came through. I just need help so that I can continue to help her. I have a wonderful husband who wants the same for her. I know it rough. I just need a soundboard after begin her soundboard!!!</p>
<p>I am bothered to see all this advice flying around but noone (including you) knows what is going on with your daughter. I can imagine a situation where "suck it up and finish the school year" would be the correct advice, but I can also imagine situations that could be corrected via intervention. Just as an example, I am just making this up, a freshman could be totally miserable if her roommante has a boyfriend who sleeps over all the time and she gets kicked out of her room regularly. Kids are sometimes embarassed to complain about something like that, but it sure could make her miserable. And thirdly, there could be things going on where the correct advice would be to leave school immediately. But if you don't know, then you don't know..... you know?</p>
<p>BTW, is she at THE Ohio State U? That would make you a buckeyemom. We have a friend who just happens to be an unhappy freshman at tOSU. I believe he plans to finish out the year and transfer to a much smaller college near his home.</p>
<p>Coureur; I head something about having former Jeopardy champs come back to face Ken Jennings. Are you going to be there?
buckeyemom; computer major! Wow, great for a girl!</p>