<p>I'm not 100% suprised, but I was pretty sure they weren't gay. Has this ever happened to anyone else? Now I have no problems with gay people which is probably why they told me but I think the biggest problem for me will be not telling anyone. I don't really like when gay people hide in the closet(and we don't live in a conservative area) but it is going to be senior year. I don't know just anyone else have this experience?</p>
<p>You need to have your gaydar fixed.</p>
<p>Lol well they it's not like he acts feminine or has shown interest in any guys before. He's had gfs and so on so I don't think "gaydar" is a problem.</p>
<p>It may help if you have a small conversation...it happened with my friend, only she wasn't really hiding, I had known for a few months when she said, "btw, you know I'm bi, right?"</p>
<p>The most important thing to do is to accept that they're still them, the same person you've grown up. As long as they don't hit on you, it's perfectly fine.</p>
<p>And don't get upset at them for not coming out sooner. It's perfectly understandable why they may be shy/uncomfortable over their sexuality, feeling different or frightened that they'll lose their friends or be made fun of.</p>
<p>One of my friends came out to me, even though I sort of already knew. The best thing you can do is continue acting as if he hadn't. </p>
<p>I know that sounds weird, but it shows your friend that you don't really care about his sexual orientation, and that it won't affect your friendship. Just be sensitive to things like gay rights, and don't use the word 'gay' as a synonym for stupid, and you should be fine.</p>
<p>lol, when i saw the title of the thread, it reminded me of Family Guy when Stewie said "Oh you're not coming out of the closet are you? why do they always have to come out to me?"</p>
<p>I agree; just act like nothing has happened and be supportive. :)</p>
<p>I had an ex that told me he was bi. It was..uh yeah. I told him it doesn't change him and he's still is who he is. Tell him thanks for confiding in you and that you appreciate it. Sometimes its just hard for people to reveal stuff.</p>
<p>you pretty much just have to act like it didn't happen.
you can't let it change how you act around him, or it'll make it a lot harder for him to come out to others.</p>
<p>Prove to your friend that he chose well in telling you by still being there for him and by NOT TELLING ANYONE. Seriously, you might not "like it" that he's still closeted, but a) you probably have no real idea what it might be like for him if he were outed, b) it's not your information to share, and c) did I mention you clearly have NO CONCEPT of how it might affect him to be outed before he's ready?</p>
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<p>why the "ulgh!"?</p>