<p>It sounds like many of the issues* you raised have nothing to do with where you live, but everything to do with how she’ll cope at school. Whether you are four hours away, or 20 minutes, it is still important for you/her to address these concerns and be sure the school is equipped to help.</p>
<p>*procrastinates, socially awkward, very dependent, has trouble making friends … all of these will not change just because you live closer. Be sure to speak with each school to get a feel for how they’ll help. Does she have a roommate yet?</p>