<p>Ahh, the joys of high school romance.
But seriously. He was my first real boyfriend, & we dated for 8 months.
& I liked him for half a year before we dated.
Then he broke up with me & has never spoken to me since.
Advice? It's already been a month since it happened & I would LOVE to speed up the moving on process.
Thanks! :)</p>
<p>Get back in the game! Easiest way over someone is finding someone new.</p>
<p>^Yes that. But also, it’s okay to think about him. But don’t re-read your old texts and such, it will only make it worse. Don’t re-live your old memories. Don’t like constantly check his Facebook for updates on whether he has a new girlfriend. Find someone new and think about all the tons of better guys out there.</p>
<p>I told my best friend i loved her 9 months ago, I’m still not completely over it.
But “speeding” up the process isn’t going to get you anywhere. You have to deal with your feelings for him before starting a new relationship or else the new one will end the same way</p>
<p>Well, I went to a pretty ghetto-hood high school, and when I girl wanted to get back at a guy she’d get pregnant by his best friend…or better yet, brother.</p>
<p>^ I wouldn’t recommend that…</p>
<p>Just hang in there it happens, some things just aren’t meant to be. Best of luck! Everything happens for a reason.</p>
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<p>I hate this phrase. No it doesn’t. Please explain the reason for starving babies, rape, infanticide, etc. I would hate it if my little sister was murdered and someone was like “oh, it happened for a reason.” ok. </p>
<p>Anyway, give yourself time. It’s gonna take a few months. I actually wouldn’t recommend jumping right into something new, Give yourself time to sort yourself out. Take care of yourself. Let yourself cry. Then delete him from your life and do your best not to look back.</p>
<p>^ lol i find you voicing your annoyance with that phrase amusing :p.</p>
<p>‘everything happens for a reason’ is less harsh than ‘it happened for a reason’, though i understand that is the implication…</p>
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<p>I know. You should. There was no reason for me to do it, but that phrase annoys me so goddamn much.</p>
<p>Everything takes times. You can’t rush feelings. Take the time that you guys have apart and develop yourself, look into yourself, and find out a little more. Cut those romantic feeling with him because you guys are obviously broken up and being friends with someone isn’t easy when one likes the other.</p>
<p>Thanks everyone!
I’m not going I get pregnant…hah.
But I guess I can’t ‘speed up’ the process…sigh.
Has this ever happened to you? How long did it take to get over them?</p>
<p>This crap happened to me too. My last bf was in freshman year. We dated for five months. And I still haven’t gotten over it yet. And I’m entering junior year…</p>
<p>Took me ~3 years and a looot of space.</p>
<p>buy phantom of the opera, a 2 gallon tub of ice cream, and an Adele CD. that should help.</p>
<p>I’m going through the same thing.
I’ve been with my first love for a year and a half now and he’s going to college.
He just moved down there last week and I will visit him a few times (he’s in Washington I’m in Cali), but I still have my senior year to go.
We want to stay together but we know we should break up during the school year because it’s “for the best”, but he wants to reconnect after college with me and get married someday.
Though my scenario is completely different, it does not make it any less difficult. I’ve been in a bad break up before and I managed to get over it quickly after wallowing it in nonstop for a few days, and then after it was out of my system I busied myself with things I loved. Remember that if you two were meant to be he wouldn’t have left you in such a childish way. First loves are the hardest to get over, buy its worth moving on because the next person you love is always better.</p>
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<p>Give it a few weeks, and you’ll be fine. You’ve just got to ride this one out.</p>
<p>Just tell yourself if its meant to be it will be, and if it is meant to work out in the future it will. Also, think of it this way…you’re one heart break closer to your happily ever after (:</p>
<p>My best advice is to act like you’re the happiest person around when in public. He’ll think you’ve completely moved on and everyone will think you’re incredibly happy. If you manage to convince others you’re happy, you end up convincing yourself! :)</p>
<p>But in private, cry. Write. Paint. Do whatever you need to do to get the feelings out. That’s how I dealt with my first heartbreak :)</p>
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