<p>So my boyfriend and I have broken up. I'm distraught, he is not. I'm like a waterfall and he's just like whatever...Have any of you been through this? He was my first boyfriend and we had been going out for a little more than a year, so I'm just..ksdjfkj i dont know....MAD/SAD/TIRED/ETC. </p>
<p>If you've been through this, what did you do to make yourself feel better? I know yada yada yada there are more fish in the sea, its just I hate this feeling. Make it go away....! :(</p>
<p>that really sux. i'm sorry. i hope u feel better. i can't say that i have been in that situation. i guess make yourself busy i guess. hang out with friends. go shopping. i dunno what to tell you. i hope you feel better though. </p>
<p>XOXO</p>
<p>First, don't take it personally that your ex doesn't appear distraught - boys are trained at an early age (unfortunately) not to show their emotions, so just because he doesn't show it, doesn't mean he's not feeling sad, too. In fact, I'll bet he is, even if it was his idea. You will get over him, though, it will just take a little time.
It will take a while to begin to see yourself as a separate, independent being again. The best way to speed up this process is to do a lot of things with girlfriends - go out to movies, dinner, etc., surround yourself with good friends. Make some new friends, too.
Stay away from favorite haunts you shared with b/f for a while. Hang out with your family - maybe help plan a vacation? Dig into new or old favorite intellectual or artistic pursuits. Put b/f momentos in a box out of sight. Rearrange (or redecorate) your bedroom. Get in shape and buy a new bathing suit.
Accept that you will feel bad for a while...don't fight it too much - you're mourning. But it will pass, you know.</p>
<p>Excercise always helps make you feel better. Going to the gym often will release good enorfins and make you feel better.</p>
<p>thanks for your advice everyone...im starting to feel better after reading this and talking to my friends...oh well i guess it would have happened eventually since we are going to different colleges, but I didn't want it to end so ...ugly. :(</p>
<p>yeah. seriously, it takes time. after a while, someone will mention him and you won't cringe or want to break into years when you hear it. That's when you realise, sometime over the last (however long), he's disappeared from your immediate thoughts. Just, don't worry - eat comfort foods. Going to the gym does sometimes help, especially if you're upset - just tunnel it all into running or biking or ellipticalling. Talking about it helps and so does writing. When you feel like you've talked it to death with your friends, you can always continue writing it all down.
I hope some of this helps. Sorry.</p>
<p>One thing to be aware of- boys will often get a new girlfriends right away because they don't want to be alone. It has nothing to do with you, just them.</p>
<p>Whenever you think about him, do ten jumping jack!! Its distracting and healthy.</p>
<p>Another thing to do, is have a kind of ritual, pack his gifts away, right him a letter and burn it, get some closure as there are probably things you want to say, but can't. If you can't talk to him, talk to your dog. Seriouslly. Or your teddy bear. Get the words and questions out of your system. Then it will be easier to move on.</p>
<p>being single is sooo fun!!!! i've broke up with my first boyfriend before, and it sucked like hell...but life goes on! :) Just remember that you are in control and that your life doesn't really revolve around boys.</p>
<p>go out with other guys and make him jealous.. that's what i did when i was really angry.. it was quite stress reliving to see him sneak a look at me and a hot guy lol</p>
<p>yeah but don't worry. as you said, it was bound to happen.. atleast now you dont have to worry about it.</p>
<p>oh and if you like shopping, go and moan to your mom. My mum got soo tired of me going on and on about matt that she just said that she'll take me on a shopping spree. it was very nice.</p>
<p>and don't over eat.. you might regret it later on. me- just binge eating for like 1 week and took 2 months to get back to shape!</p>
<p>Wallowing in some good mellow music helps.</p>
<p>Staying busy with friends and family is probably the key.</p>
<p>There are actually 10-step programs online to "getting over a relationship." They're helpful to just read through. One thing that I found somewhat encouraging from reading those things is that everyday you get through is one day closer to when you'll be over this.</p>
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Revenge is sweet, but don't "fix" a guy problem with another guy.</p>
<p>umm
well it happens, on both ends. i've been on both ends. my first ex decided to date someone else less than a week after, so i guess that ****ed me off.</p>
<p>as long as he doesnt start hitting on sum girl.. eh. </p>
<p>anyways sorry to hear about it. =</p>
<p>Yea that's happened to me...my ex broke up with me and started going out with a friend of mine shortly after. It really bothered me for months, and there isn't much you can do to make him care, but try to find other things/people that you're interested in. I think the best way for me to get over him was finding someone else.</p>
<p>thanks you guys. im feeling better after reading these posts...plus i went with my ex to our coffeehouse hangout today and talked about our relationship. i think i justed needed to hear some things from him and get what i had to say out. were friends now...but its hard cuz i keep having urges to give him a kiss or hold hands...lol - it's not that i want to get back together, it's just habit i guess. eh...ill get over it. :)</p>
<p>Don't go out with someone just for a rebound...</p>
<p>yeah i probably wont...i just became too dependent from being in a relationship for more than a year so its kinda hard...and im about 99% sure hes not going to go out with someone for a while.</p>
<p>DO NOT THINK ABOUT HIM!!!!!!!! blech phooey blah if you think abut him, you won't get over him, so think other things whenever his face pops into your head</p>
<p>He may very well go out with someone...his friends will pressure him-its a guy thing</p>
<p>you are free now to flirt, have fun and get ready for college</p>
<p>Don't play sad songs, play fun ones that make you dance and move</p>
<p>lol hmm i probably should change that "im so lonely" song to a happy one on my myspace page. as for him hooking up with someone right away and being pressured by friends...he wont :)</p>
<p>i'm sorry. guys suck. eat lots of ice cream.</p>
<p>being single is way more fun anyway.</p>
<p>Thanks a lot:p</p>