<p>Hi All.
Son #2 is going to kill me for posting about this, but I know there is a lot of expertise on cc and I need help or any advice anyone can give.</p>
<p>Here's the setup: Son #2 is a junior in a new school in new country this year -- an American-curriculum school overseas. Very demanding, high-powered students, parents, and teachers. S#2 has always been a good student, and very involved and popular. Crazy about theater and vocal music, loves film clubs, school newspaper, literature and creative writing. Considered ''very gifted'' by voice teacher at old school. Not "Type A ambitious'', rather casual about skills, but always at the top of his class (but doesn't tell anyone).</p>
<p>Cue ominous music: S#2 falls in with a group of great kids who sit around discussing Christopher Guest films, the Coen Bros., swap poetry books, and go to plays together. Gradually becomes close to one wonderful young lady. They fall in love. Madly in love. They are inseparable. The phone bills are enormous. May I state that she is great, if I could have chosen one girl for him it would be this girl, but does he have to spend weeks in antique booksellers hunting for her Christmas present? Does he have to be in public transport for 2 hours on a weekend to hang out with her for 3 hours? Every weekend? Does this have to be his junior year, 11th grade (no do-overs)?</p>
<p>Here's the hand-wringing part: S#2's grades are still good. But. He has dropped most of his EC's, even ones he was passionate about before. Stays lukewarmly in a couple of clubs, but only if The Girlfriend is going. Doesn't sing any more or take voice lessons. Is involved in theater but is content with a minor role (whereas previously he was the biggest ham). Standardized tests slipped this year -- he did better on the PSAT last year (??!!) and was shruggish about SAT, which he took last Sat. Colleges that he was interested in previously no longer interest him. "Too big", he says (note: The Girlfriend is only interested and will only apply to small colleges). That's fine! But we are poor and he needs to get good financial aid, which seems to come with a "prestigious college" packet, and that's the hard truth of it.</p>
<p>And: The school thinks of them as a big joke. No one knows who he is (The Girlfriend has been around for years so she is an established entity), except as ''the guy who walks around with his girlfriend like this <em>entwine fingers</em>". In fact, I sat down with his designated college counselor today, and she did not know who he was until I described him that way!! And she had a good old laugh about them. Son#2 and The Girlfriend have been much discussed in the high school offices, as became clear to this dismayed mom.</p>
<p>There's nothing I can do about this, right? Nothing at all? Besides start knitting booties?</p>
<p>Help, please! SOS!
AnudduhMom Montagu
ps., The Girlfriend's mom, Mrs. Capulet, is worried too.</p>