<p>Who ever said I wasn’t attracted to insecure, socially awkward girls?</p>
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<p>A thousand times amen to this! Girls who lack confidence are not only a turn-off, they’re beyond irritating to be around(!)</p>
<p>The most outrageous among this large group of females are the “attractive” ones who think they’re so hip and therefore mandate initiation from the guy in every type of situation. I’m sickened by it; especially in the case that guys are trying to simply befriend them, say at a club meeting or class discussion, this narcissism makes that immeasurably difficult and uncomfortable for the innocent guy. And by innocent I mean that he’s a nice gentleman who genuinely tried to befriend her, with nothing but platonic intentions – she wreaks havoc. </p>
<p>Note that this attitude of not initiating or accepting other guys often has nothing to do with the girl being shy – it’s her glorification of herself. Simply heinous.</p>
<p>I’ve asked a guy out before. Yes, it’s scary as hell, but ya feel pretty empowered (as ra-ra girl power as that sounded :rolleyes: )!
However, I wouldn’t do so again. Asking a girl out on a date shows a measure of confidence that I find much more attractive than any qualities a nice (but much shyer) guy of the same maturity level could offer me.
However, this being said, if I’m not romantically interested in a guy, I find it to not be a problem to bop up to him and ask him what the homework assignments from a course we’re taking together are.
If I am…weeell…I get incredibly cold toward him. Strange happenings, huh.</p>
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<p>I know a ton of girls who truly believe they are unattractive, even though they’re ridiculously pretty.
In their cases, it’s why they wear a bucket of make-up, even though they don’t need it at all.</p>
<p>^^^Depends on what you think is attractive.</p>
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the ones that upload all of their ‘ugly pictures’ to facebook? oh.</p>
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<p>Well, in this case they aren’t really that “attractive” to me. They have self-esteem issues and that lack of confidence makes them someone I wouldn’t want to date.</p>
<p>Physical beauty is a key aspect but obviously not the only factor.</p>
<p>Girls with an acceptable mental state know if they are physically attractive or not.</p>
<p>BTW, there is nothing worse than those raccoons.</p>
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um. no.
I wasn’t talking about those kinds of girls.</p>
<p>^you’re a guy(?) you have not the slightest idea.</p>
<p>I’m a girl, thanks.</p>
<p>And I went to an all-girls high school. In a situation like that girls are actually pretty honest about certain things.
I know very few girls who are not insecure about at least one aspect of their physical appearance.</p>
<p>Sure, there are girls who know how attractive they are. Then there are the girls who will swear up and down that they are not. Not saying they think they’re ugly, but it’s very difficult to judge oneself.</p>
<p>I once had a roommate tell me how lucky I was that I “looked pretty without a lot of makeup” and that she was so jealous she didn’t. I swear hands down that she was really pretty (obviously I’m not a guy, and I’m straight, so I can’t give you that point of view though).</p>
<p>Also, no, she is not the kind of girl who posts “ugly photos”</p>
<p>damn. i lost :(</p>
<p>A key thing to remember is that every girl, every woman, has a deeply embedded insecurity about her appearance. This is more difficult to draw out in some women than others; if they get approached numerous times every time they go out, by pretty attractive/confident guys, it’s going to be harder to make them feel this insecurity.</p>
<p>An extremely physically attractive girl that gets approached by guys all the time is not going to feel insecure about herself around most guys, especially the garden variety clingy shy guys. But you bet your ass if Derek Jeter walked up and started talking to her, she would be freaking out inside regarding everything about her. It’s a matter of displaying enough confidence and value to draw that out and gain the upper hand, where she’s worried about losing your interest instead of the other way around.</p>
<p>Every girl/woman has this, at least any that you would worry about dating (some really just don’t give a ****, see the majority of extreme obesity cases). It’s funny, the other day I went to my doctor with my mom and my mom was like “hey I saw you at the store the other! day!” and the first thing my doctor said was “Oh you did!? Oh my gosh I looked so terrible…” and continued commenting on how bad she looked. A 40-50 year old married doctor with children insecure about her appearance. Just another example.</p>
<p>futurexecutive got owned!!</p>
<p>What ever happened to the “thrill of the chase”? I thought guys liked that sort of thing…</p>
<p>I won’t ever ask out a guy, if nothing else than because I’m completely horrible at reading men’s attraction (or lack thereof) towards me, and I usually end up liking guys who were my good friends first so I don’t want to make it awkward.</p>
<p>I’ll admit it, it’s unlikely that I would. </p>
<p>Unless, of course, it’s James Marsters or Robert Downey Jr. In fact, I wouldn’t even ask them out–I’d just plain tackle them.</p>
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<p>Stop reading cosmo. It is garbage.</p>
<p>I work at a grocery store and at nights nobody is there. So me and some other guys always scan through the cosmo on the shelf for some laughs. It’s hilarious.</p>
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<p>I’ve never heard of that…but I know that some (many?) girls like getting attention from guys, so they will often try to one guy jealous to get the other guy to “fight” for her attention…</p>
<p>In all honesty, if there was a scale of ability to read body language and gauge attraction, females would be around 8-9, while males would be stuck at 2-3. This assumes that 5 is about avg. Females read body language so much more easily, it should be them that’s calling the shots. I’ve heard NUMEROUS times how the girl is not interested but the guy won’t get the hints. Or how about, the girl trying to get the guys attention, she does everything, even falling on his lap, and the guy MIGHT get the idea that she’s into him! Bottom line: Its takes a guy HUGE amounts of extremely obvious, subtle body language before a guy will know that she’s interested. That’s probably why trying to get a date can be so freakin’ hard. </p>
<p>Also, some girls are just too nice. If you aren’t interested, just say that you aren’t interested! Don’t do the sugar coating nonsense, that will just give him mixed messages…if life were only easier.</p>
<p>I guess I always just assumed that the “thrill of the chase” was in fact the thrill of BEING chased. Metaphorically, of course.</p>
<p>Asking girls out = confidence = the number 1 trait that is attractive to girls</p>