<p>^the number 1 trait is being really good looking</p>
<p>Ever see an average looking guy with a great looking girl? I do all the time…</p>
<p>ever see a really good looking guy with a lot of great looking girls? cause I see that all the time too</p>
<p>Obviously. I never said that good looks aren’t important. But the fact that average looking men date above average looking women proves the point that looks aren’t the most important factor.</p>
<p>Good looks are pretty much a huge factor when it comes to hitting on random strangers - what else do they have to go by in the first few seconds?</p>
<p>They are not the only factor by any means. But if you are pretty f’kin awesome, but look like an average male, you are going to at least need to convey that, and to do that you at least need the time of day. (Or, simply get to know girls/ befriend them, which would also give you an ‘audition’ so to speak).</p>
<p>Right now I so much prefer the whole make friends/ acquaintances and then have things gravitate from there, than the random bar/ club scene, which is not always fun and can get old.</p>
<p>The reason you probably see good looking men with many good looking girls is because good looking men are more likely to be naturally more confident. Makes sense right?</p>
<p>No, there are other factors, looks aren’t a beat all kinda thing. It’s more of a…well if guy A and guy B are exactly the same personality wise but guy A is really hot while guy B isn’t, then I go with A no questions asked. </p>
<p>I just get sick of this whole “oh, yeah, it’s aaaaaall about confidence” crap. No, it’s about personality and looks and luck, confidence is a small part of personality and I’ve had confident guys hit on me that lack every other personality skills and good looks and I’m sorry but it isn’t nearly enough. Screw confidence, that gets annoying and it’s an act half the time.</p>
<p>If you want a girl try looking in the mirror, fixing yourself up, and being more personable. Confidence should come from actually being able to do something, to be someone (even if it’s just to look good). Confidence shouldn’t just come for its own sake.</p>
<p>I thought the number one trait was money</p>
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<p>Wow, not to discount you or anything, but any guy wanting a girl with that kind of mindset has got to feel immense apprehension and regret. Hopefully he’ll be wise and pursue someone else with more dignity.</p>
<p>Confidence isn’t the end-all be-all like people say. Yeah, it’s nice, but I (personally) care about compatibility more. Someone who can make me laugh will rank much higher in my book than someone who just seems confident.</p>
<p>It’s necessary to be a confident guy when you approach/are around girls, but I would say that some guys come off with too much confidence, appearing arrogant, and essentially lack a personality. Confidence is easier to acquire than an interesting persona. “Tool” comes to mind when I think of guys who are like that. Be balanced–have confidence, have a good personality, and be approachable. I’m a straight guy, but I would say that being personable is most attractive to women. Instead of just forcing confidence on the girls you meet, be an individual of higher value–be a well-dressed, interesting individual with excellent hygiene :)</p>
<p>^YES. I believe in confidence after you have something confident to be about. I hate the fake kind guys pull out after probably reading some player handbook.</p>
<p>@Oliver, it’s not that I don’t have dignity or want a weak guy. I just don’t believe in guys with a ton of over confidence in themselves when there’s no reason for them to have it (aka: d**chebags)</p>