<p>i dont think its a good idea to choose a college because your b/f / g/f is going. i mean what if you break up.. and then you hate the college? then that really sucks.</p>
<p>But if she likes the school and her bf just happens to go there, then she shouldn't rule it out automatically.</p>
<p>I started dating a guy in the spring of senior year in high school. On our third date we discovered we would be attending the same LAC. We started school together. We did everything together. We were in most of the same activities, although we were in different majors. We had a couple of classes together. All of the friends were "our" friends. He tried to convince me to elope during the winter of freshman year. We broke up in the spring for various reasons. He got the friends. I essentially started social life all over again sophmore year. We remained friends and he transferred schools at the end of sophmore year.</p>
<p>I don't know if there is really a moral to the story. If I had had a choice, I would have chosen to go to a different school than him. I was too dependant on him for a lot of things which kept me from growing as much as I should have freshman year. I didn't try new things that he wasn't interested in. I was an 18 year old girl who loved the idea of being in love. I ended up marrying a guy I met freshman year. We started dating our sophmore year and guy#1 actually came to the wedding. It was not a messy breakup and it was not the reason he transferred, but I think that we both missed out on a lot freshman year because we were too focused on each other rather than really experiencing college life the way it should be experienced. </p>
<p>We grow so much intellectually and emotionally between the ages of 18 and 25 that it can be difficult to maintain a relationship over a long period of time. That does not mean that a high school relationship is not serious or important, just that things will change. If my kids were in this position, based on my own experience, I would highly recommend they attend different schools.</p>
<p>"We grow so much intellectually and emotionally between the ages of 18 and 25 that it can be difficult to maintain a relationship over a long period of time. That does not mean that a high school relationship is not serious or important, just that things will change. If my kids were in this position, based on my own experience, I would highly recommend they attend different schools."</p>
<p>Well said, I Concur.</p>
<p>Always a bad idea. That would be a pretty bonehead thing to do.</p>