Group of classmates give me dirty looks and talk about me. Should I talk to my dean?

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<p>Hey PMVD, I read somewhere that you have autism or autism-like characteristics? I do as well according to one psychiatrist and this test I took, but I’ve put a lot of effort into learning social cues intellectually rather than intuitively and it’s paid off. It also helps that I’m majoring in the social sciences, where I get to study human behavior. A safe approach I’ve learned is not to make assumptions (generally) about how people see you. </p>

<p>There are some helpful posters on this thread and some not-so helpful ones. Ignore the latter like nysmile (what kind of parent are you??? like seriously) and focus on the former. Boysx3 has some good constructive advice. Best of luck to you.</p>

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<p>liontreelion, I am not sure, but if I recall corectly, nysmile is a psychology student. If that’s the case, I hope s/he is never granted a license to practice psychology. S/he is obviously not fit to aid anyone.</p>

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<p>“liontreelion, I am not sure, but if I recall corectly, nysmile is a psychology student. If that’s the case, I hope s/he is never granted a license to practice psychology. S/he is obviously not fit to aid anyone.”</p>

<p>Ouch, no wonder no one likes you.</p>

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<p>First of all, buddy, chill out!
Just to let you know, if I introduced myself to someone and that person were to give me the cold shoulder, I wouldn’t really like that person.
Use your reasoning skills, buddy! That is if you have any…</p>

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<p>Ever think about the notion that maybe, just maybe, you deserve the scorn?</p>

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<p>MIT parties have an IQ test at the door.</p>

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<p>Have you talked to your parents? I mean, not only about this, but any of the other stuff you have posted about. I mean if your parents are paying for your college then I can asume that they love you in some way or form. If thats the case talk to them about it. Heck about everything. Parents are usually a reliable source to dump your emotional woes on. lol thats part of their job. Best part is even though they might not have experienced exactly what your going through they can draw from some prior experience similar to what your going through. BUt if you can’t do that, like the others really and truly seek counseling. Also since you do have other posts like this, stop posting. What you are doing (Or what it appears your doing) is searching for attention and victimizing yourself for sympathy. You will never be satisfied and you will not find that attention you want. Besides no one likes a victim. (That should have been made evident by the way some people are posting. ) Also join a church or on campus a Christian group. There is a strong community that will embrace you no matter your aliment and by just attending you may not know it you will be fed. Personaly I know that for me my faith in Jesus Christ has kept me going when I was low and I know he can help you if he hasn’t already. (Lol I sound like a tv evanglist) But really look into it.
All and All dude best of luck and keep it going. This one problem you had with those guys is only the tip of the iceburg. Talk to your parents or counselor Stop Posting if you are doing it for attention, and look into joining a church. Thats my advice</p>

<p>P.S. This one problem you had with these guys can be adressed easily. With that, Just confront them (not with a gun or any type of weapon lol) but sincerely ask them what there problem is. You guys are in college. Yall should have some type of maturity.
The other stuff I wrote is adressing the other problems. Its More of a holistic solution to well everything.</p>

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<p>Oh shoot… I just looked at the date of his last post… lol It was like I was talking to an empty attrium</p>

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<p>bump this is hilarious!</p>

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<p>if everyone who ‘got dirty looks and gets talked about’ goes to the dean. well, the line would wrap around campus. bottom line, just deal with it.</p>

<p>and remember. bad publicity is better than no publicity.</p>

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<p>Hi,</p>

<p>This has happened to me NUMEROUS times in the past in medical school.</p>

<p>Basically, this group of people are jealous of you. Are you a handsome guy? Smart? Funny? Witty? Successful? Hard working?</p>

<p>I happen to be a very beautiful woman who is very quiet and shy. Other girls come up and start fights with me all the time.</p>

<p>If you are studying hard in the library, and minding your own business, these people (who are extremely immature) think that you are ignoring them, and that you think you are too good for them.</p>

<p>So they have decided to bully you.</p>

<p>In the past, this happened to me, and finally the ringleader of the group started screaming obscenities at me one day. Do not let it get to this level.</p>

<p>What you do is, go the the guy you first talked to the library, and get him alone, without his friends. Talk to him and say you’re sorry about your first meeting, you had a lot on your mind and you didn’t mean to ignore him. Ask him, maybe you and him can hang and get a coffee together sometime?</p>

<p>If he blows you off, then go to the other guys that are ignoring you in the group. Approach each one of them individually. Say hi and make small talk, say you should hang together sometime.</p>

<p>If all of these people blow you off, then you’ve done all you can do.</p>

<p>YOU HAVE TO DO THIS.</p>

<p>Otherwise one day this will blow up into a screaming fight. Don’t think it can’t happen to you. It will, and it will happen over and over. You cannot ignore a huge group of people who are giving you dirty looks.</p>

<p>Your gut instinct is telling you to avoid these people, which is correct - but not in this context. If you go to school, work, or live with these people, you cannot avoid them.</p>

<p>Yes, this really happens. It happened to me, and the gang of people all ganged up on me and screamed obscenities at me. For no reason at all. Eventually I had to go to the Dean. Don’t let it get to that level.</p>

<p>Hope this helps.</p>

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<p>i didn’t even read your whole statement, but it was very rude to not introduce yourself properly to the other guy</p>

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<p>I agree with you when you think they’re talking behind your back. While I think it’s kinda lame for that one guy to have told his friends that you brushed him off because that’s such a little thing, he has reason. However, “should I talk to my dean?” Hell no!
You are an adult whether you f***ing like it or not and so you can either do one of two things:

  1. Confront him/them about it. Trying to gauge your personality from a post is unfair, but I’m guessing it would be easier to talk to just him. Do it in person: no facebook chat arguing for you.
  2. IGNORE THEM. If you don’t have stones to talk to them, don’t complain about them to anyone, including your RA, roommate, or dean.</p>
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<p>Why do people feel it’s necessary to dredge up 4-year-old threads? How do they even find these anyhow? :rolleyes:</p>

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<p>i love this subsection
one year ago and these threads continue</p>