<p>You have another inconsistency in your post - </p>
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Which implies more than one score - there can’t be a ‘worse’ without a ‘better’…
…then you say you don’t have another to send. </p>
<p>Which one is it?</p>
<p>You don’t need all the intrigue anyway - honesty and being forthright will take care of this situation. Just tell him you won’t pay for this school and that’s that. He won’t be going. He might not be happy with you but you’ll have achieved your goal in preventing him from going there. Of course, that means he’ll just party and chase girls wherever he does end up.</p>
<p>Don’t forget he’s a 17 y/o boy fantasizing a bit about college. He’ll be out of the house, out from under the parents’ thumbs, in a different social environment, free at last, free at last. These are fairly normal feelings he’s having. </p>
<p>If you’re not a ■■■■■ (I’m not convinced) - just assume your S might get wind of these posts you made here and be prepared to explain why you already sabotaged him with the ACT score, depending on which statement you made is correct, and were considering doing even more sabotage by contacting the school.</p>
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NewHaven: UofMiami is private and is indeed pretty expensive. Their COA is indicated as $58,782.</p>
<p>@Glad thanks for the clarification! I am with you guys, this thread stinks to high tide! I think someone might be pulling all of our legs on this one LOL Do kids really apply EA to schools that they have no info about? I believe thats what she said in her 2nd or 3rd post.</p>
<p>OP, my younger daughter goes to Miami. While there is definitely a different fit for different kids, you really don’t need to fear the atmosphere at Miami. Kids party at every school. My older D is at an Ivy league school, and I can tell you that it is every bit the party school that Miami is. Both schools have a work hard, party hard reputation. I can tell you that I have been truly impressed with Miami. D has had great advising, approachable professors who truly care, and she has found a wonderful group of friends. There are temptations at every school. You should talk to your son about your concerns, and hopefully you can work this out together. In terms of ACT scores, definitely send the higher ones. Obvious reason is the ethics involved. Secondary reason, Miami gives a lot of merit scholarships. If your S does not get into his ED school, and he does get into Miami, it could turn out o be a good option. Don’t form an opinion until you visit. Something like 90% of kids at Miami were in the top 10% of their class. Look at their admission statistics and demographics of the freshman class. You will be surprised. My D turned down many top ranked schools for Miami (she did get a full ride merit scholarship), but we let her make her own decision, and she hasn’t regretted it once. She loves the U. No school is the right fit for everyone, but I do feel your reasons for not wanting him to go to Miami are not very relative to the actual environment there.</p>
<p>OP - You are not be the first parent to start a thread to help think things through while dealing college app season nervous energy I hope things work out well for your family.</p>
<p>To answer the better or worse ACTs. My son did have OK SAT scores which werent sent but the first ACT was sent and he just took his second ACT a few weeks ago so those scores haven’t come in. OMG, I can’t believe how every sentence is picked apart. I only said that I sent his lower ACT score because he had better SAT scores but didn’t send them. I adore my son and dont want to see him unhappy so I let him apply to miami thinking it would just fade away. I apologize for not being clear, this is the first time I have been on College confidential. My best friend is on a parent thread all time and she suggested I ask my question because she found the advice by other parents so very helpful. I did as well but didn’t expect all the meanness too. Again, I don’t understand this whole ■■■■■ thing.</p>
<p>My daughter (a senior at Miami) had me send her sweatshirts and warm clothing because they BLAST the air conditioning in all the buildings and she was freezing to death!</p>
<p>Seriously, anyone who wants to go to Miami to “party” will flunk out/transfer after 1 year. The school is very hard to get into and the student body is made up of lots of kids on academic scholarships who are much more interested in keeping up their grades than partying!</p>
<p>Oneeyedfinch-
If you agreed to have your son apply to UM then you should let him do so with the best grades, etc. In the end, it will be a family decision where he attends, if you are paying (and even if not.)</p>
<p>Agreed with SVMMOM- My son graduated form UM and was top scholar (valedictorian with high stats in HS) and applied as a safety after getting a postcard form UM in the mail with the merit scholarship amts. Decided to attend and loved it, did well. and is succeeding in grad school now. </p>
<p>Didn’t read all the responses, but as a parent, I’d be more concerned about your sons interest in partying and bikinis vs school. All schools are party schools and your son will party anywhere he goes if that’s what he wants. You need to focus on your expectations of your son no matter where he attends. If it’s just the bikini clad girls and the partying at UM that you are against, don’t be so negative on the school. It really is a great place to get an education (and for you to visit!!!). (you know your son best… some just say things to get a rise out of you.) Go and visit.</p>
<p>One of the most accurate predictors of academic success is support at home. Therefore, if a parent calls a school to get them rejected, then they may have just given their kid a hook.</p>
<p>Visit. Maybe your mind will be changed…or his. If the ED school comes through, it’s a no- brainer. He must attend that school, unless the FA is not sufficient. FWIW we are not applying ED anywhere, just EA, and my impression is that you don’t do both. ED means you’re only applying to one school until otherwise rejected in mid December.</p>
<p>Bottom line: take giant step back and toss your assumptions out the window. Don’t betray his trust like this. It’s a major violation.</p>
<p>…but if he’s one of the 50-60% or so high school seniors who will be 18 by decision day on April 1 then it’s OK for him to decide where to attend college for the next four years? </p>
<p>He’d be able to join the military and vote and sign contracts and smoke and stuff…may as well be able to choose a school for himself.</p>
<p>The only real veto power parents have on the college choice their kids makes is financial. Most of us parents are consulted and have input beyond that, but most parents I know also left the final choice to their kids, after taking finances into account.</p>
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<p>You can apply to more schools than the ED school; you just agree to accept the ED school offer if it is made. But there’s no reason not to also apply to EA schools, if the ED school doesn’t work out one of the EA schools might. EA doesn’t come with “have to accept” strings.</p>
<p>Momsquad-- So sorry to see your post saying that the big California beach school with the party reputation has lived up to its reputation and that your daughter has not found her intellectual peers there. I’m pretty sure I know the school you are referring to, and my daughter has been a bit beguiled by the natural beauty of the area and currently has the school pretty high up on her list. She was extremely concerned by the party reputation but I’ve tried to assure her that she’d be able to find other brainy earnest intellectually minded kids at a school that big and that the partying is probably similar to that found on other campuses. But alas! Your post concerns me. Don’t mean to hi-jack the thread but would you mind elaborating, either here or in a pm?</p>
LOL Do kids really apply EA to schools that they have no info about? I believe thats what she said in her 2nd or 3rd post.</p>