<p>Honestly, I agree with so many of you that Miami sounds like a great school, on paper in fact it sounds perfect: size is great, weather is perfect (we live in northeast), division 1, ranked high on UNWR etc…I don’t have a problem with the school at all, I have a problem with my kid’s reasons for wanting to go. I know he is going to party at any school he attends but it was the the total lack of interest he had in actually exploring the school and wanting to attend because of the tailgating. no matter what schools we offer to drive him to he keeps saying I want to go to Miami because my friends say it will be a blast. Believe me, I didn’t want to call the admissions department and ask them to reject my son but it wouldn’t be fair to another kid that wants to go for all the right reasons if my son gets instead. Thanks to all those parents who reminded me to trust the system and keep my relationship honest. Unfortunately, I have been called Marie Barrone before.</p>
<p>That’s interesting - do you have Everybody Loves Raymond in Italy?</p>
<p>She doesn’t live in Italy :rolleyes:!</p>
<p>The way you describe your son tells me he won’t have a chance of being admitted, anyway. What is his GPA and ACT score? Maybe you don’t have to worry.</p>
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<p>What do you mean? She said she’s Italian. Maybe you’re right though - maybe she moved to the US and that’s why she seems to see the college application process differently?</p>
<p>In many applications, the student can log into application status and see what scores the school has. He’ll see that his SAT scores were not sent/received.</p>
<p>I don’t think the schools can accommodate any requests to cancel/reject an applicant by phone as they can’t verify who the caller is. It would have to be done in writing and no doubt they would e mail/mail a notification to your son.</p>
<p>I don’t live in Italy, I’m Italian by birth and if you know any Italians well, then you know Italian mothers are notorious for being over protective of their sons. I feel so much better after all your advice. I will sit back and let the process happen. My daughter went through this a few years ago and it was easy and even fun. Thanks for setting me straight and I agree now that I’m sure admissions wouldn’t reject him just on a phone call.</p>
<p>I’ve read several threads on CC by students who contacted/planned to contact schools to withdraw applications or ask to be rejected. In those cases their parents had made them apply to schools that they absolutely didn’t want to attend.</p>
<p>No, I absolutely would not sabotage a child’s application. It’s too bad that some children feel that they have to sabotage their own.</p>
<p>maybe it has been said, but why don’t you just let him go if he wants to - as long as he gets the grades by semester’s end, what’s wrong with a good party school?</p>
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<p>I was hoping that my Marie Barone comparison was an original!!! LOL 
DRATS! </p>
<p>I am glad that you are thick skinned and able to take the advice that is given and not shrink away. Many posters feel that there is “meaness” on this thread but I don’t see it as such. When a person comes to a forum and asks complete strangers for advice, they should expect to get the TRUTH. Not a sugar coated answer that friends/families will typically give. As they(f&f) don’t want to hurt your feelings OR they feel the same that you do. I have been taken down a peg or two here on CC and haven’t always heard what I wanted to hear… but I heard what I NEEDED to hear/have learned alot from their advice… thats why I keep coming back to CC. There is no spoon feeding with juice box chasers here, no siree Bob… only the truth (in most cases) when you really need advice. I hope you come back often! Good luck with your son.</p>
<p>Some families do very well with written contracts, laying out the expectations, duties and responsibilities of the parties–parents and student. This way, both parties have to think about it, discuss it and commit the agreement to paper. If you’re having any misgivings already, please seriously think about it, as I mentioned in the post on the 1st page.</p>
<p>Wish my S hadn’t been so inconsistent in his applications–he could have had more options to choose among. Oh well, it worked out very well for him & us, even though he went to a school VERY famous for its partying.</p>
<p>Have you ever read that book called “Crazy U” about one parents experience in the college admissions process. Very funny. When the GC asked the kid (in front of his parents) what he was looking for in a school, he replied: “I want to go to a big school where I can drink beer and paint my face for football games”. Of course, Dad wanted to curl up and die, right there. In the end, it all worked out and they both got what they wanted. Maybe oneeyedfinch needs a little light reading to get herself through this process.</p>
<p>I thoroughly enjoyed Crazy U :)</p>
<p>I agree, CrazyU should be required reading for parents of seniors or even juniors. His analysis of the history of the SAT grew a little long, but it was very informative overall.</p>
<p>to controlling and wrong (IMO)</p>
<p>This thread prompted a funny memory. At orientation, a college speaker gave a “Letting Go” presentation to the parents. She had six grown children and was an excellent speaker. She warned that the pre-college summer can be tough. Students start “soiling the nest” in prep of independence. She joked that she had called the college in July about one daughter and asked, “Can you take her NOW?”</p>
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<p>Why are you going through people’s old posts?</p>
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<p>My parents really wanted my sister to go to the Ivy League. She wanted our state flagship so they compromised that she would apply to 3 schools, Harvard, Yale, and the flagship.</p>
<p>She scheduled interviews with Harvard and Yale, and when asked "why do you want to attend . . . " told them “I don’t, I hate your school, please reject me”. They complied and she went to the flagship.</p>
<p>I can imagine someone rejected by Harvard and Yale telling a similar story.</p>
<p>To all the ■■■■■ advice givers. Thank you. I didn’t even know anything about this ■■■■■ behavior. My daughter had this account a few years ago and barely used it. I asked my best friend, who is on CC all the time, this question about calling a school’s admission’s department and she naturally said to take it to the experts: CC’s Parent Thread. I pulled up my daughter’s username, completely innocently to ask the question immediately. Whoever looked up my daughters prior posts clearly saw one or two regarding her college experience and they let the ■■■■■ name calling begin. I promise to get my own account if I dare to ask another question. I can’t believe how helpful this process has been. On so many levels.</p>