<p>I didn’t tell you to cut ties if your mom doesn’t “meet your demands.”</p>
<p>I told you to call her bluff instead of making very personal decisions - one’s that don’t effect her and only positively effect you - based on HER demands.</p>
<p>In reality, your mom ACTUALLY HAS threatened to cut ties with YOU if you don’t meet HER demands. I guess she is the petulant child in this case. Of course, being as passive and obedient as you typically are, people are going to be running your life for many years.</p>
<p>If you really against confrontation, get a part-time job, get an apartment while still letting your mom pay for the dorm, and live in the apartment but don’t tell your mom. That is kind of a *****bag move on your part but you won’t listen to anybody’s suggestions that involve the smallest bit of confrontation.</p>
<p>Perhaps you could try sleep in a friend’s room when you have an early morning class, at least until you get the problem fixed. It could help in the short term.</p>
<p>Otherwise I agree with making noise in the morning when you’re getting ready for school. Open the blinds or whatever to let in lots and lots of light. Set your alarm to be really loud. You don’t have to be obnoxious about it if you don’t want to, but if it’ll wake him up when he’s sleeping then maybe he’ll get tired earlier and won’t be able to stay up so late?</p>
<p>Finally, you should ask your mom or other parent to call the housing people. You should keep bugging them on your end, but in my school, things get done a lot faster if a parent complains. After all, that’s where the money’s coming from.</p>
<p>Ever thought of just buying him a headset with a longer cord? Or an extension cord? Sure, you shouldn’t be paying for it… but it’s better than not getting any sleep.</p>
<p>maybe i’m just being a dreamer, but you should find a time when he isn’t so into his own little world and tell him that you needed to talk. Then make up some rules that will set up a time when he can go crazy all he likes but leave the night time for some decent quiet time. Hey, u never know how effective simple talking can do</p>
<p>MY SITUATION THIS FALL: My room was completely destroyed when I moved in. Ripped mattress, burned flooring and rips all over the walls. My roommate was ALSO a night owl who would roll in at 1 am every night, plus my suite mates would laugh/yell til that time when I had 8 am classes. My floor mates would run up and down the halls til 12 am, throwing their bodies into the walls. They also slammed the doors, knocked on your doors, etc. My RA and MA told me and I quote:“nothing we can do. They can’t be punished either” So what I did to try to combat the situation, I told the loud people if they don’t shut up I will make so much noise in the mornings that you will feel the same amount of sleep deprivation I did. What did they do? It got worse. SO, I don’t think threatening immature ****<strong><em>s will help your situation.
WHAT I DID TO GET OUT: I wrote EVERY *</em></strong>ty thing that happened to me down to the hour, including all of the public drug use I saw and the scary older guys who knocked on my door asking for a bathroom. My dad and I harassed the crap out of housing, and I got SOME of my money back. The RA STILL is a witch to me because I made her life a living hell and got her in alot of trouble because she was lazy and passive agressive. </p>
<p>You say your parents won’t pay for school? I agree with everyone saying that your parents will hate if you cant even pass classes. My mom wasn’t excited when I moved out but I was very clear and very ANGRY in telling her how sleep deprived and depressed I was due to the situation.
You can’t declare yourself independent? ********. Yes, you would have to be on your own when it comes to insurance and what not, but don’t say you cant. And, you could totally afford community college. Also, I know people who are not independent and FAFSA gives them all the money they need for school.</p>
<p>BASICALLY, you need to know you are an ADULT now and be proactive with YOUR future. No one makes you go to college, its for you now. I was very quiet and passive about things until this year. But I spoke up because you are paying the same amount of money as your immature roommate. It isn’t fair. Get really prepared and take the case to your housing dept. if they ignore you, go to your student life director, if they ignore you take it straight to the top of your university. Make it common knowledge and make them so embarassed/annoyed with you they will give you what you want. And to deal with your roommate til then, give him the same respect he gives you (Dont even try telling him to stop now, its pointless.) in the morning. Turn on all the lights, music, be loud in the morning.</p>
<p>“You can’t declare yourself independent? ********. Yes, you would have to be on your own when it comes to insurance and what not, but don’t say you cant. And, you could totally afford community college. Also, I know people who are not independent and FAFSA gives them all the money they need for school.”</p>
<p>You’re full of crap. You CANNOT declare yourself independent, your parents have to stop declaring you as a dependent-- which they are not going to do, and even then you are STILL a dependent for financial aid purposes unless you are 24, married, a vet, have kids, or sometimes you can appeal it if you have court evidence that you are estranged from your parents. And I don’t even mean like you moved out and you’re on your own, or even that they kicked you out, I mean like they beat you and you were legally emancipated. It is almost impossible to get that exception. None of the above criteria are met by the described situation. </p>
<p>And if FAFSA gives your buddies all the money they need for school, that is either less than $6500 a year, their parents income demonstrates that they have financial need, or they meet one of the above requirements for being considered independent.</p>