<p>I remember that article. Personally, I would not be inclined to cut slack to someone who viewed me as a failure because I "only" got into JHU.</p>
<p>Nor can I admire someone who apparently views a child simply or primarily as a vehicle for his own dreams--and structures the child's life acordingly.</p>
<p>In that situation, I don't see them as "dreams for you [the child]": I see them as dreams for himself.</p>
<p>In fact, I felt that one point of that article was that the parents were the true "failures", by sending the child to Groton. Instead of standing out at home in some way, the child became--in the eyes of AdComs--a standard overachiever.</p>