<p>So there's this girl that I really like, and I think she really likes me. The problem is, she has a boyfriend, and they've been going out for four years. I'm going to UMich next year and she's going to be a senior in high school. She told me she really wants to go to UMich, too. I know she'll get in. She's really smart. Her boyfriend isn't and he's going to a community college. I don't want to wait a year, though. She lives right in my neighborhood and I could walk to her house in five minutes. I really want to see her, but I have no reason to go to her house. Help me!</p>
<p>just move on homie G...i bet u'll find plenty of girls at u Mich...this summer love won't work unless she breaks up IMO</p>
<p>Dont do it. Dont do it. Dont do it. If shes got a boyfriend then wait and go have your year at U Mich.</p>
<p>You'll find the right girl. If it's not within a year, then you can get her when she's in UMich.</p>
<p>If you're not one of those guys who can't stand being friends with a girl in whom you're romantically interested, definitely remain friends with her and even hang out with her (NOTHING sketchy, though, and never try to make a move!) </p>
<p>Girls like guy friends more than boyfriends, anyways -- friendships tend to last longer. xP</p>
<p>^ That's great and all, but once you're "friend-zoned", it's really hard to get out of that state.</p>
<p>Yeah, yeah, Computerized, I know guys think that way. Ladder theory and crap. WE HAVE TWO LADDERS BWAHAHA! </p>
<p>As long as he doesn't become one of those whipped friends who just falls over himself tending to the girl's every need and showering her with sycophantic compliments, I think he'll be fine.</p>
<p>Edit: WOW -- I missed the 'four years' thing. Dang. Don't mess with that. Be her friend and all, but even if she and her bf broke up, would you even want to date a girl rebounding out of a four-year relationship?! Sounds like they're pretty serious about each other.</p>
<p>^ Not true. Not if you truly like each other. </p>
<p>But OP. SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND! They've been going out for four years so they obviously must like each other. You're not going to get her while she has a boyfriend and it's not your place to get in between them. I sound a lot like this girl. My boyfriend never even graduated from high school and I'm aiming for top schools like UMich (although not there and it's a long story). We've been going out for over two years. If ANY guy ever tried to get between me and my boyfriend then I would never talk to them again, even if something were to happen between my boyfriend and I. </p>
<p>Be her friend, but DON'T try anything.</p>
<p>go to her and say that her boyfriend is a retard going to cc and you are going to Umich. Then bring her into her bedroom and seduce her. My advice is to bring some baby oil, it usually does the trick</p>
<p>Go get her son. </p>
<p>Do it, or are you a girl? Are you? I bet you are.</p>
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<p>I agree with roman... but if you could get between them, would it really be worth it? Seriously- if she's willing to give up her boyfriend of four years and immediately fall over you, she'd probably be willing to leave you too. Besides, I highly doubt anything serious could happen while she's rebounding out of a four year relationship anyway.</p>
<p>As others have said, wait the year, or wait to let her end everything with her boyfriend without pressure from you</p>
<p>I'd just forget about her for now- go to UMich and see if you can meet someone there. You really don't want a new long distance relationship for college anyway. If you aren't dating someone in a year, maybe she and her bf will have broken up before college and you can make your move when she comes to UMich.</p>
<p>And if they haven't broken up even in the face of a long distance relationship, then maybe you should just let it be.</p>
<p>move in, b/c if they go to separate colleges, it'll b easier for you since you'll b around her more if you two are at the same college.
so keep moving in and wait it out basically</p>
<p>You see, you dont need a girl's perspective. You need a guys (me). These girls are just going to say "move on there are plenty of other girls meh meh meh". They dont know how hard it is for us guys to stop thinking about a girl we really care about ya'know? I went through the same thing man, I really really liked a girl but found out she had a boyfriend. Waited for her till he broke up, and then we hooked up. Wait till shes at Umich. Chances are she'll break up with him by then.</p>
<p>Hail stoicism.</p>
<p>trust me, DON'T get involved with an unavailable girl!! i've been in a similar situation, but with one of my guy friends who had a girlfriend. it didn't end well..just don't do it! it's not worth it..just wait until shes available ok?</p>
<p>THERE NOT MARRIED DUDE, get some</p>
<p>im being serious, all is fair. If your are friends w her, then just wait untill they fight, and argue the point FOR her bf, and because she always wants to win arguments she will side against him and CA-ching. But keep this in mind, if she did it to him, she can do it to you too.</p>
<p>Bktl:</p>
<p>Two things, and I am going to be harsh. Forgive me.</p>
<p>1) You simply don't sound like you have either the confidence or game to get her. Putting aside the fact that she has a boyfriend -- and I would listen to people on that -- if you did have either of these things you wouldn't be on a board asking what to do. You'd be finding a way to see her, to get to her home.</p>
<p>2) You are going to have to have patience. The best thing you can do now is plant a seed. Be a friend, but keep distance on some level. Do not get too close. Never talk to her about her boyfriend. And never let her talk to you about troubles. Just be someone charming and fun that she likes to hang with. Do not become her brother or best friend.</p>
<p>Since girls are most attracted by guys who have confidence and who are attractive to other women, work on building your confidence with women and on developing some friendships with women who like you and who may be attracted to you.</p>
<p>If you are looking for a way to hang with her, text her and tell her you're bored these days and ask her if she wants to hang some time. If she says, "well, I have a boyfriend," tell her you know it and were just looking to hang, not date. And then if she says yes, do something a bit offbeat that you think she'll like and let it be a surprise. That's how I'd approach it. If you can do all this with confidence and just keep things low key, that would be one way to approach it.</p>
<p>Correct me if I am wrong, though, but you really like her and you'd be too nervous to do this. If this is the case, the best thing you can do is ask out three other girls first you might be a bit interested in and who might be interested in you so that by the time you go out with her, your confidence is higher.</p>
<p>^but...but...but...those other girls :(</p>
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<p>Well, in the end, the important thing for the poster is his confidence. Above all, he's got to respect the other girls. And he shouldn't try to date girls who he knows are in love with him but who he has no interest in. That would be cruel. Also, it wouldn't serve his purpose, since he's trying to prove himself to himself.</p>
<p>No, he's got to choose women who he generally might be interested in and he's got to work it and see what happens. If one falls for him, and he for her, he'll forget about his other crush and all will be fine. If he has a good time with one and she with him, but it's nothing serious, he'll be more confident because he'll know he's got game. Girls like guys that are liked by other women. And not all girls are looking to get married; some just want to have fun.</p>