<p>Hey guys can you help me with something
yea so i basically became a hermit since i started HS but people still like me
However I haven't said more than 10 words in the face of a girl since 5th grade.lol ima junior right now
I was planning to ask this senior to semi-formal
anyone got any ideas to win her heart? </p>
<p>thanks</p>
<p>Girls like it when you're [genuinely] sweet. ;) And be yourself.</p>
<p>You remind me of me when I was a freshman... I had girls after me, but I had bad social skills.</p>
<p>Don't listen to that "be yourself" stuff. That's a typical response that a girl gives to a guy, telling him what he wants to hear. If you have no confidence, and aren't very social, then don't be yourself. Try to act confident, and don't say/do anything stupid!! Most girls like the cocky-funny type. Not cocky, cocky-funny, there's a difference. Joke around; and if she's like any highschool girl that I know, it will work (assuming that she is interested in you).</p>
<p>I meant don't try to be someone you're not. It's good to fake things like self-confidence to help yourself in situations like this, but don't dress up like a punk (if you're not) and shove Ramones CDs in her face just to impress the girl. That's what I meant.</p>
<p>It's both funny and ironic that this post is right next to one about the <strong>Intel Science Nerd Contest</strong>. Anyways...</p>
<p>Girls like a guy who is funny, friendly, self-confident and relaxed. These are character traits that a number of people have due to their upbringing or social "scene", but they can be just as easily developed by a hermit.</p>
<p>Try this:</p>
<p>Each and every day, instead of beating yourself up about stuff you're not good at, tell yourself something positive you did each day. Take baby steps. Talk to a new girl in the hallway each day. If there's a girl next to your locker, that's a good place to start. It doesn't have to be anything dramatic; just small talk will do. Smile at her, ask her what's up, hername, what class she's going to, etc. Say nice to meet you, and leave. She doesn't have to be beautiful. Just get comfortable talking to women. Breaking the ice is the first and biggest hurdle you'll face. If you can get past that, you will eventually have the confidence to ask a girl to a dance or even on a date.</p>
<p>Just a note from my experience: Girls are a self-conscious breed, and are typically not too confident in their bodies or appearances. Most are FLATTERED when guys compliment them. But their idea of compliment is different from that of most men... don't say they have a nice a**. Say they have beautiful eyes, or a perfect smile, or something in that vein. </p>
<p>Good luck.</p>
<p>i have to second the cocky-funny thing</p>
<p>look. if you find you can't talk to girls, theres only ONE mental hurdle that you need to get past.</p>
<p>Your crush, or every single girl for that matter, is NOT some kind of celestial creature. She is a homosapian like every other person in your life. [PARDON THE LANGUAGE] she sweats, farts, digs nose, gets happy, sad, scared, ****ed off [/LANGUAGE] just like everyone else, including yourself. You just don't see it. </p>
<p>Accept the fact that girls ARE like everyone else, like your guy friends, and you'll have no problem talking to them.</p>
<p>And NEVER be discouraged if you get rejected. Just move on while getting a good feeling knowing that you just did something that millions and millions of your guy peers haven't had the courage to do.</p>
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Your crush, or every single girl for that matter, is NOT some kind of celestial creature. She is a homosapian like every other person in your life. [PARDON THE LANGUAGE] she sweats, farts, digs nose, gets happy, sad, scared, ****ed off [/LANGUAGE] just like everyone else, including yourself. You just don't see it.
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<p>Lies. She does none of the above. She doesn't even need to breathe. In fact, I'll let you in on this little secret. If you crouch down and look at her shoes, you'll notice she floats 1-inch above the ground.</p>
<p>Take this advice... If you're a nerd like most of the people on CC keep working on yourself and make lots of money... the social skills will develop with time... by making lots of money you will attract a semi-hot wife/girlfriend (no matter what women tell you a man's resources is about 30-40% of his attractivness it's just a biological fact that a female will be attracted to a male that has the most resources to care for his future offspring)... and you won't even be thinking about this high school social structure that goes on around you...</p>
<p>If you want play now... just work on your looks... yes it is possible to work on them... and be as arrogant as possible (the dumb ones eat that up)... the rest works itself out</p>
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semi-hot wife/girlfriend
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perhaps a mistress or two.</p>
<p>btw - girls don't poop. add that to the list.</p>
<p>ya how i really wonder how you would make a lot of money without any social skills</p>
<p>Engineer comes to mind. Positions with mind. Many positions with economics involving analyzing numbers. Analyst. Those are just a few, there are quite numerous and out there.</p>
<p>become a doctor... it's the easiest way</p>
<p>...be confident about yourself, start developing a funny personality (don't try to be funny..it should come naturally)...hang around lively people who enjoy themselves...its contagious. You'll be more happy about yourself and won't even notice it. About becoming more funny? </p>
<p>Be cocky / funny...girls love it...don't be an ******* - what I mean is...bust their chops, but also make sure they know your kidding around. Dont be so serious about life...become laid back and relax. When you talk to people, talk with confidence.</p>
<p>Be cocky? Ew, I hate cocky guys.</p>
<p>KissMeKate...read my post. I said cocky/funny...not just cocky and not just funny. Meaning you be cocky, while not being serious. Its hard to explain, but when you saw it you'd know what I'm talking about.</p>
<p>about the whole cocky thing... you can get away with being an arrogant ******* too (trust me that's how I roll lol)... it's just that girls fall into one of two categories... they either love you or hate you... nothing in the in-between...</p>
<p>Don't stalk her all the time. That's my advice.</p>
<p>wat guy isnt cocky?</p>
<p>if u dont get the joke, just ignore it</p>
<p>the thing is u cant really put urself above the girl, but they like it alot of u put them above everyone else</p>