<p>This guy really believes he has done nothing wrong since “he’s not hurting anyone” so I’m sure he’ll be doing it again. Yes, he’ll probably tell the next victim to keep it quiet to parents but I’m sure he’ll be back!</p>
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<p>I guess, just as a practical matter, I don’t know what a parent of a student from an entirely different school can do about his behavior at that institution. I mean, unless the daughter comes forward, nothing can even be done at the school she attends. So, it’s kind of just, “the serenity to accept the things you cannot change.” Unfortunately, we don’t have all that much influence even at the schools our kids attend which bill us. :rolleyes: </p>
<p>Needadvice: It is perfectly within the bounds of logic that the teacher would be attracted to your daughter BECAUSE she was a good english student, as a part of it. One could wish that he would show some professional restraint, but he didn’t, and she seems like she was old enough to handle the end of it, afterall.</p>
<p>Good news all around.</p>
<p>I’m sure that he starts every semester scanning his classes to see who his next “girlfriends” will be.</p>
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Yeah, it doesn’t sound like she used him for the grade. I believe you, needadvice!</p>
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<p>Ha, yeah I bet he does too! Agree! This guy needs to learn some professionalism…</p>
<p>I’m glad everything is working out. That is REALLY creepy. I’m just a teen, but if my future daughter ever came home and said she was involved with the professor… all hell would break loose</p>
<p>Oh I’m sure he’s scanning classrooms for his next victim. If these girls are looking at ratemyprofessor then they’re hoping to take his class. He’s also surrounded by female students since her class is almost 70% female.</p>
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<p>Her English class was 70% female? Is her university 70%ish female too??? Then he’s REALLY surrounded with the next victims</p>
<p>I wasn’t saying she purposefully sought him out to date to assure a good grade, but waiting til after the grade was in to end the relationship is smart. I would give her credit if she played him at his own game. Good for her!</p>
<p>The fact that this guy was so cocky, fails to see that he has done anything wrong and thinks the rules don’t apply to him is quite unsettling. What he is doing, assuming all the girls are over 18, may not be illegal, but it is highly, HIGHLY unethical and surely in violation of his contractual agreements with any school he teaches at. His reaction should have been one of total embarassment, apology and remorse. The lack of any of that is extremely disturbing. He is preying on these students. He is putting them in an exploitative relationship. He IS hurting them. even if he is too stupid, blind, ignorant or narcissistic to think so.</p>
<p>Her graduating class is 70% female! It was 60/40 the year before her but hers is 70/30. I just tried looking up the statistics for the class of 2015 but they’re not posted yet.</p>
<p>Oh, wow, her class is 70% female. I bet this prof really likes teaching at that school!!!</p>
<p>JYM- I couldn’t have said it any better! It was very disturbing! There are times I wish I didn’t confront him because it makes me think more about what he’s all about and what he’s capable of doing. He had the nerve to tell me he could see hatred in my eyes when I was talking to him and told me that he was a kind soul and doesn’t have any hatred in him! Oh okayyyyyy buddy!</p>
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Whoa. Rationalization at its worst!! Excuse the probably very bad analogy, but, IIRC, that sounds somewhat like what some of the religious pedophiles said. This guy is disturbed. He needs someone in authority to <strong>explain</strong> the rules to him. IMO, you would not be ruining his career. His extraordinarily bad judgement is ruining his OWN career… and possibly the emotional lives of many of his students.</p>
<p>For what it is worth, I think you handled it beautifully. I also think you have done all you can do with respect to both her school and the other schools where he teaches. Sooner or later he will break someone’s heart and she won’t hesitate to turn him in.</p>
<p>Part of the reason I am so irate about this guy is that if he had a professional license of some kind, engaging in a clearly ethical violation could cause him to lose that license. Or at the very least require therapy and supervision. There should be a consequence to what he has done, and waiting until he hurts more girls is difficult to condone.</p>
<p>I do really hope his career is ruined soon! He doesn’t belong in the classroom. </p>
<p>I googled his name and found a blog he wrote a few years ago. It took me a couple of hours to read everything he wrote. He wrote something about having a hard time getting accepted into a PhD program. I’m not familiar with what it takes to become a professor but he said his score wasn’t high enough. He did tell me he was going to Europe to write a book so I’m not sure if that means he’s still trying to get accepted into a program to become a professor or not. I sure hope he NEVER gets accepted!</p>
<p>Does he fancy himself a poet or something?</p>
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you are in a position to have is employers get him some help, and to stop the exploitation of young, trusting coeds</p>
<p>needadvice,</p>
<p>I am so glad that you were able to go to the school and give them the info that you have. Actually, as the parent of daughters, I thank you! That was absolutely the right thing to do. And I hope that in time, your daughter will be able to talk to her school as well.</p>
<p>needadvice,</p>
<p>So your daughter doesn’t really know about all this, right (about talking to him, he never told her)? So she’s still talking to you right? it’s all good with her?</p>