<p>I live in a dorm room which I share with one other person and then have a common room which I share with two other suitemates. I started school this summer and had a really great roommate and one good suitemate (also one bad suitemate). I got along really well with my roommate and things were going well. Later in the summer my roommate and the good suitemate could no longer get along with the bad suitemate so they successfully moved to another room. I being the stupid person I am decided to just stay in my room for the rest of the summer since I didn't want to have to move all my stuff to another room. So basically I enjoyed a single room for a small portion of the summer. This fall though a new roommate was assigned to me and another roomate was assigned to the bad suitemate. Basically the problem is, is that all three of my roommates/suitemates hold these crazy parties every night our common room with tons of beer. I don't drink and I have early classes so I want to just sleep but they make so much noise that I just cannot sleep. It has gone on all week and its really getting on my nerves. Not to mention the alcohol is illegal and we risk getting kicked out of the dorms. Theyre not even smart enough to dispose of the used beer cans (they are sitting all over the common room floor). The cops came to our room the other day because the bad suitemate had yanked the smoke alarm off his wall so he could smoke! We all ended up getting chastized by the police even though he was solely responsible for this. What can I do? My RA won't be of any help since he often times drinks with the students. Thanks in advance.</p>
<p>Go to whoever's above the RA. You don't have to tell-all about the drinking, but if you just say they stay up later than you and make noise and it's inhibiting your quality of life and studies, they'll try to accomodate you.</p>
<p>Or , go ahead and tell the housing office about the drinking. The room/suitemates will hate you - so what? If you have had the police to your room and don't do anything, it almost makes you guilty by association.</p>
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Or , go ahead and tell the housing office about the drinking. The room/suitemates will hate you - so what? If you have had the police to your room and don't do anything, it almost makes you guilty by association.
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<p>No, don't be a narc.</p>
<p>^But at least give your roommates a chance to change, talk to them and say it's really a problem for you, and that if they don't stop you're going to go to the RD. The RA may still be of help; just because he drinks doesn't mean he won't help work out problems. You never said anything about actually telling your roommates that this is a problem for you. Do so, they could be just assuming that you're alright with it, and it would really suck to get turned in by the some kid who they never realized they were bothering.</p>
<p>So I'll sum up a situation for you that I had my first year in the dorms:</p>
<p>Basically I had a suitemate who was really the suitemate from hell. By sheer luck I got a room to myself (a lot of people payed for doubles but never got roommates). It started when one suitemate forced the other one to move, because he claimed he farted too much in his sleep...
A few months go by, and I don't exchange as much as a single word with this guy. I tried at first, but he would stright up ignore my very existance. Well finally with 3 months to go left in the year I get an email which basically was telling me that if I didn't shutup (I didn't even know I made that much noise!) he was going to come over there and physically make sure that I don't make any noise anymore.</p>
<p>So I decide that my RA is not going to be able to handle this and I went to the RD. The RD made him say that he is sorry, and then we talked about what we expected from each other. What did this accomplish? After this meeting this guy continued to talk about all the noise I was making. For the last three months in the dorms I would not raise my voice above a whisper, while the suitemate would go around slamming doors and banging on walls. Beyond all of this he would play loud music all day, and I do mean all day! Even when he was in class he would leave his music on. I would later discover that he had actually been making noise complaints (all in all I fund that he made several hundred complaints on me) on me for the loud music coming from his room. Finally I discovered him with his ear pressed up against my door spying on a conversation between me and my girlfriend. He even made the claim to the RA that when he puts his ear to my door he can hear me talking and that annoy's him. There is much more to this story, that would shock most of you, but that is the gist of it... Except for one part I discovered later. It seems that my RD was actually planning a vacation to Japan that year and was going to be staying with my suitemate. This suddenly explained to me why threats against me were taken so lightly, the RD didn't want to mess up his summer trip. Things ended up so bad, that for the final two weeks of the quarter, I feared for my safety in the room, and ended up having to stay with friends on the couch of another dorm. The RD's response was, "oh well you guys should talk and work it out."</p>
<p>So what is the moral of this long story? Don't completely depend upon the staff that is there to help you. I'm great friends with the RA from that year, but we both knew that this was above what another student could handle. The RD who was top in command didn't want to affect his summer plans and he ended up leaving me in a dangerous situation to preserve them. I had wanted to go to the police and actually file charges against this, but friends talked me out of it. Just remember that you need to take care of yourself, don't worry about being a "narc" if their actions are either putting you in danger or are going to get you in trouble. You're paying thousands of dollars for that dorm room, and because of that you get the right to make sure it is up to your expectations.</p>
<p>^jumbosox It's true, that would suck, but seriously if they're that daft that they don't realize their behavior is more-than-likely bothersome, they kind of deserve it.</p>
<p>Why don't you talk to your roommates first? If they don't respond go to whoever is head of the building.</p>
<p>Get some tail and make it with only 4 hours of sleep. Its been done; ever heard of communications majors?</p>
<p>It makes sense to talk to the roommates first. You just don't go straight to housing and rat them out about drinking. Firstly it's college and a lot of people drink and party. Secondly, you can and should just threaten your suitemates. Tell them that you will tell housing if they don't stop throwing parties without your consent. Maybe compromise and tell them to only have the parties on weekends. If they laugh in your face then you can take it to the next level.</p>
<p>Yeah I told them sort of lightly to stop making their noise and throwing their parties in the middle of the night and they obviously just ignored me so I'll take atomicfusion's advice and threaten them more seriously.</p>
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^jumbosox It's true, that would suck, but seriously if they're that daft that they don't realize their behavior is more-than-likely bothersome, they kind of deserve it.
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it's not bothering any of them, and their roommate, the TS, seems to never have made much of a deal out of it, so they're assuming, as many might, that it doesn't happen to be a problem. </p>
<p>Yeah, complain more seriously and threaten to turn them in if they're not accommodating. But don't spring something on them with no warning, that's not fair.
Also, you can't expect the place to become like a library; it's their room to and they have a right to have people over and use it for their enjoyment, to a certain extent. Have them turn the music down, clean up after themselves, etc. But part of college is learning to sleep through some noise from the next room over. I agree with atomicfusion, find a compromise. Put up with weekends, if you don't like it, spend it at a friend's.</p>
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Firstly it's college and a lot of people drink and party.
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<p>No wonder our society has gone to hell...</p>
<p>dont u just hate the people on the forums who think college is 100 percent education....u gotta live a little</p>
<p>well..report your ra to housing maybe. if you really want them to get in trouble, go out and get on a pay phone. call the police about a disturbance and loud noises at your room and wait for them to arrive and watch all the fun. you can't be charged b/c you weren't in the room.</p>
<p>Just ask to be moved...</p>
<p>You're lucky.. at least you have roommates that like to party. Join them and have a good time.</p>
<p>ah i live with two roomates who quote kickin it old skool all day and think that is the most profound and deeply moving movie ever. its not very fun and drives me crazy.</p>
<p>"dont u just hate the people on the forums who think college is 100 percent education....u gotta live a little"</p>
<p>thank you...</p>
<p>oh yeah, and the people who won't go to a school that is more than 20% black, less than 20% asian, accepts more than 50% of its students, and has less than 50% of its student body in the top 10% of the class. </p>
<p>(sorry for not answering your question)</p>
<p>Narc on them! If they wanted to drink in the dorms illegally, they should've been a little more discreet.</p>