<p>Entering college this year. Some of my own friends use to call me boring (: I don't drink, not on FB, don't go to parties, and I don't seem to get half the stuff they are talking bout.<br>
But in college they say u ought to find people who share ur interests. Of course you gotta open yourself to new activities that are interesting too, and I don't mean the party scene. But maybe club sports, drama club, get a part time job, etc.</p>
<p>Why do you think you're mature..?</p>
<p>^^ because he already sees that he doesn't need to have alochol and get completely drunk to make friends or have "great" social life. You don't need to party every night of the week to have a good time in college.</p>
<p>You can meet a lot of girls in art museums! Just start talking and commenting on the art. Take an art history course, and make sure you sit next to girls so you can chat before class. If you like to hang out and talk, start doing it someplace visible on campus. Wave to all the girls you know who walk by. </p>
<p>You know those guys yelling "whooooo"? They aren't long-time relationship material for most girls -- at least, not until they sober up and start acting like men. Girls -- women -- prefer guys who share their interests, who can converse, who know how to be romantic.</p>
<p>Part of being mature is being comfortable and aware of both where you are in your life and your subsequent decisions. From that, maturity also denotes that through that awareness one should be able to change one's course in life. Maturity is simply awareness which had the capacity to lead to happiness. Maturity is an elusive thing to obtain.</p>
<p>Staying in does not mean your are mature. Nor does going out make your less mature. Maturity comes somewhere in middle of extremity.</p>
<p>^EXACTLY!!! I feel like a lot of parents and students on CC are extremely judgmental of those who choose to drink and party on weekends. Most of my friends who do this typically are also deeply involved in extracurricular activities, are getting excellent grades and are generally extremely well-rounded people.</p>
<p>I consider myself somewhat of a binge drinker but I'm also a very intellectual person. Some of my varied interests include going to museums, travel, philosophical conversations, pro sports, college sports(college bball!!), history, drinking, reading, pick up sports, cards, all types of music, etc. I feel like I can relate to nearly ANY SORT of person in college and don't have to put down others or be judgmental as a result.</p>
<p>To the OP, I think you should strive to be a more well-rounded and social person.</p>
<p>Most people who call themselves mature tend to be very judgemental of people, they erect barriers between themselves and other people hence why they have problems socially. for ex, if you think someone is unintelligent or wild you'll never befriend them and even if you try your preconcieved notions will cloud your interaction.</p>
<p>And yes, I do realize the irony of this post.</p>
<p>I agree with evilasian.</p>
<p>You don't have to compromise who you are in order to have fun. But this does not mean that you shouldn't try new things. Do stuff that involves meeting new people or hanging out with others. You can go to the art museum with a group of people and turn around and go to some house party. You don't have to change who you are to have more fun.</p>
<p>The key is that you are just going to have to loosen up and be more social in general. There are several ways to do this, and yes drinking is one of them. I know a lot of people who are too shy to dance normally, but if they have a few drinks they have tons more fun at the club or a dance party.</p>
<p>I think I'm being misinterpreted when I say I'm mature. I'm no chauvinistic "holier than thou" kind of person. Rather, I have problems letting go and having fun because I always feel I have other responsibilities to take care of. It's really annoying to be partying Friday night and having a call from your parents reminding you to keep getting good grades. That's what I hate about my life, I wish I could just not care about anything and enjoy myself but I have too much baggage.</p>
<p>Until you learn to get over that stuff you are going to be stressed out. The whole "thats what I hate about my life" crap is actaully quite immature. Go out and learn to relax, meet some new people and try new things, stop worrying about your parents.</p>
<p>I think you're completely correct burgler. There's a lot of crap that's been going on in my life, and most of the times I can get by without it affecting me, but sometimes it all builds up and I crash. I guess that's the hard part about being a freshman in college.</p>
<p>I have a lot of aspects in my personality that I wish I did not have, but doesn't everybody?</p>
<p>^ No, only the insecure.</p>
<p>...or those who refuse to examine their lives...</p>
<p>take some acting classes, or speech courses. acting classes are really fun and everybody is just relaxed and so friendly, where they might not be in other classes or situations.</p>
<p>^I second 4321234. In any public speaking/acting classes the main objective of the class is to get you to <em>talk</em> to other people. It would also be a great starting point for you to make new friends.</p>
<p>I can't believe you're worried you're living an intellectual life. I can't believe you don't know how much respect people have towards your kind, and how little towards the drunk and boisterous type. This is just another case of the grass is always greener on the other side. I bet if you turn over to the other side you will regret it.</p>
<p>Yeah but respect doesn't mean anything if you don't have fun</p>
<p>^--- well, just lighten up then. it's one thing to have people respect you, and another to have people think you're so uptight. </p>
<p>i was born with a weird face too. lol. people always think i'm angry if i don't smile. but i'm like, what, gosh, i'm just trying to be neutral. i try to smile a bit more and tell a little joke and that can lighten the mood. just do something to lift your spirits. i talk more when i'm happier.</p>
<p>Just don't try to be someone you're not. Becoming a party animal just for the sake of girls and friends when that doesn't really interest you makes little sense.Unfortunately, introverted behavior is stigmatized in our culture.</p>
<p>Thing is, I don't think the OP will have fun being loud and drunk. He's probably just thinking he will. Like I said, a "grass is greener" case. He hasn't come to appreciate his current self.</p>