<p>Gil, I disagree.. it usually takes people a few years to realise it is really not that great.</p>
<p>Nobody is static, nobody never changes. Over the years, many people change in interests, idealogy, maturity, and so much other. Well this isn't to say there some people who still remain the same in many aspect many years later, but to say that you are not going to change is not right either. </p>
<p>The real trap of "maturity" is when a person start denying oneself of fun in the name of it. You know that person who always avoids having fun? Why do you think he does this? He in his mind thinks he is being mature by not having fun. There is a fine line between maturity and having fun. Listen to the Webster definition of maturity. Mature: having completed natural growth and development. Where in the hell does it say anything about having fun? Those people should stop using the excuse, “I’m too mature for that”. You are only making your life miserable. Being mature and having fun are two entirely separate issues, but for some reason in our society today, people link the two of them. </p>
<p>The funny thing is by what you said, it doens't you are mature at all. It show your interests, but doesn't say anything about your level of maturity as maturity is about being able to be responsible about one's own life (it doens't mean taking on more burden btw), capable of understanding other people, wisdom to see through situation, and able to keep a cool head in life. That's maturity, not a list of interests seen as higher culture or even pushing to get good grades (though understanding (note I said understanding and not just getting good grades by you parent's orders) why your parents push to get is maturity).</p>
<p>Now for the party life. In defense of it, there are actually plenty of good people who just happens to enjoy it. While if anyone ever do a study on it, I won't be surprised that the numbers shows that there is a disproportional of immature people in that life, you can find good people there too, surprisingly, many of them also enjoy the other side of art museums and books too. </p>
<p>Now have you gave it a try? Went out with a few and see you can find it any fun? If you didn't, you should, maybe you actually like it. There are some people I know who find it fun doing it once in a while. Then there are some who find it fun doing every Thursday, Friday, and Saturday, to be honest, I still can't understand why forgetting 3 nights in row for them is fun and surely not productive. Though its their life (and parent's money), spend it how they like it. </p>
<p>Of course, your real problem is not that you don't have fun or see them in a position better than you, but you want girls. Well, if you want a hook-up, then you should look into partying a bit as that's where you will get it. How you going to get into that will take more than this post. If not, then there are more than one way of finding a girl you like, like clubs and social circles.</p>
<p>I agree with the above. Maturity does not equal burden, and being a party-animal does not equal immaturity. Two completely different issues. Plus, what counts as "mature" in the psychological sense is pretty undebatable to begin with.</p>
<p>Thank you for that post Ant. I'd like to start off by saying that I never drank in high school. But I was never afraid to do crazy things like stealing trays from McDonald's and sliding down a nearby hill on them or going pool hopping at resort hotels nearby. I was probably one of the most involved and studious kids, but I made time every weekend to have fun with my friends. Drinking was just never a part of it because there was a very odd but strong stigma against it at our conservative school.</p>
<p>Where I go to school now, however, readily encourages excessive drinking. I'd say at least 75% of the school drinks on a regular basis, and 90+% drinks every now and again, at least. These parties are where I have had some of my best nights of the year, and pre-gaming clubs made dancing even more fun for the night. All this while I have participated in several clubs, a varsity sport, and keeping a high GPA in a tough major.</p>
<p>That being said, you are not in any way compromising maturity if you partake in these kinds of fun activities. You are also not compromising who you are if you drink, unless it is vehemently against your religion. I know plenty of people who fit the introverted, art museum type you seem to encompass who drink and go out every now and again. They can be some of the most fun people to hang around, especially since their presence is more rare than others and more appreciated.</p>
<p>You probably just aren't the fratty type. Try as you may to be more loud and obnoxious, you'll just end up feeling weird. </p>
<p>Then again, it is college, so go do some crazy things. Go to parties and binge drink. It's immature and you're bound to end up acting like a frat-tastic fool.</p>