<p>How about instead of acting like his boss or his parents you be his friend like a sister is supposed to. My eldest brother treated me the same way and i haven’t spoken with him in years. I suggest you reconsider the way you treat him, or you’ll end up losing an important person in your life.</p>
<p>^^^Agreed!</p>
<p>Op I know where you’re coming from…bt this thread is riddled with unsubstantiated opinions. I think there should be a difference between experience and opinion. Fact & fallacy. Granted not everyone is the same.</p>
<p>I entered a high school with the lowest marks, I mean it superlatively. I’m not seeking any tap on the shoulder or ‘yadda boy’s’…(as is customarily pressumed by cynics)…nope… consider this objectively: I managed to finish that high-school in the top 10% out off 180/190 students. My little brother started high-school 2013, when I call back home to clarify his grades I heard he got a D. Our dad died when he was 2, & mom when he was 5. Now roughly 6 years later this kid is joking with school in a country thts riddled with corruption & nepotism. He doesn’t have any safety net; no moat to protect him from his failures …he has me, his grandma & my sister, 2 years younger than I, & he is wholly dependent on us. If we tolerate those grades he’ll b relying on us his entire life. I sympathize with him, bt when our mom passed, it was my 1st year in high-school and that’s why I chose to step up. </p>
<p>It’s absurd, when people dismiss a bigger siblings guidance,…I myself wanted mentorship, bt it wasn’t forthcoming, so I’ve learnt to sought it from books, films etc. That’s why for the sake of his future I have compelled him to go to 7th grade/ Std 7. Who knows, I might get an aneurysm …then what if the kid has no idea of what it means to be self reliant? & show initiative? He’ll be leeching my sister(who stepped up & she’s in college) by playing the victim…& they’re in the same ship…better yet sinking ship.</p>
<p>All I can say is be your brother’s keeper. You know the ‘hows’ & ‘whys’…just compel him with the ‘hows’ & if he’s smart enough(he should be he’s ur bro ) he’ll come to understand the ‘whys’.</p>
<p>PS. I gave him an incentive…getting him a ps2/3/4 if he reads 2/3/4 books and summarize them on 2/3/4 sheets of paper (respectively )</p>
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<p>We didn’t. But you seem to be missing a critical fact: We’re PARENTS. You. Are. Not. Your. Brother’s. Parent. </p>
<p>It is not your job to motivate/goad your brother into becoming a mini-you. If you try, you will achieve nothing except alienating one of the most important people in your life. </p>
<p>How about just being a sibling to him? Spend time, play, go places, introduce him to the things you like, take an interest in what he likes. Be a buddy, not a judge or a nag. The best hope you have of influencing your brother is to make him like and admire you. </p>
<p>Hint: It would help if you lose this attitude:
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<p>Seems like your own self-esteem is awfully dependent on having straight A’s / good grades, and you can’t understand why your brother can like himself and be generally content if he’s “only” a B student.</p>
<p>OP, you need to calm down. Your brother will be fine on his own path. He’ll figure something out. Maybe he’ll find out later that you were right all along, and he’ll buckle down and start studying. Maybe he won’t, and he’ll do perfectly find doing his own thing. But stop assuming that because he’s a B student his entire life is going to be a disaster. If he’s going to start focusing more on school, then he’s going to have to do it on his own, not with you hovering over him. So back off.</p>
<p>If it makes you feel better, my brother was a B student in high school (with the occasional C too), and in college, he was a B/C student, was on academic probation during some quarters, took longer than four years to graduate, and graduated with a GPA <3.0, which are many of the things you seem to fear. And now, in his first job out of college, he makes more money than my parents (and more money than any of his siblings, including me who was a straight A student in high school and college).</p>
<p>So relax. Everyone has their own path. He will figure out his own. Just because it’s not your path, doesn’t mean he’s doomed.</p>
<p>MODERATOR’S NOTE:</p>
<p>I am closing this thread because the OP is a previously-banned poster.</p>