How do I tell him to go away and leave me alone without being mean?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>I met this kid at school this year--he plays string bass and I'm in the band, so we'd both practice in the music room after school daily. We'd talk a little bit, but mostly, "How's your day?", "Your solo is sounding better", etc. </p>

<p>Somehow he managed to be friends with my friends. I have no idea how that happened. (I don't find this as creepy/stalker because I don't really see my friends at school. We don't have many classes together and I don't like eating in the cafeteria like they do.)</p>

<p>Well, end of the year comes along and I signed his yearbook. Force of habitt with my close friends I put my number and email address. No one here generally calls/emails, except this kid. He's called me several times. He then made a facebook, found/added me and won't stop emailing me. I feel bad not responding, but I just want to tell him to GO AWAY! (Thank goodness he doesn't know there's IM on facebook.) </p>

<p>He's a nice enough person, I just want him to back off. He's not a close friend and I find his persistance annoying and slightly creepy. How do I tell him just to leave me alone without coming flat out and saying it?</p>

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<p>Just tell him that he’s being creepy and should bugger off.</p>

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<p>Oh, just as an add in, I’m his only “friend” on facebook. He hasn’t added anyone else! </p>

<p>^I would but being my friend’s friend I don’t want to be a total jerk.</p>

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<p>Sounds like a weirdo.</p>

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<p>Make up random disgusting details about yourself in order to try to creep him out.</p>

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<p>Why would you put down your number and email address? That’s just leading him on.</p>

<p>Idiot.</p>

<p>Just try and distance yourself or just hang out with him. It couldn’t be that bad if you say hes friends with your friends.</p>

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<p>Oh, and everytime I log on to facebook he’s on! All the time. It’s like he never leaves. Yet again, thank goodness he doesn’t realize it has IM, but still.</p>

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<p>being serious, this is what i did when i had the problem:
slowly cut off conversing with the guy. it takes a while, about a monthish but eventually, if the guy has any common sense he learns that he needs to back off.
jokingly be mean.
do other things which would make the situation change, but don’t be too abrupt.
don’t send mixed signals. eg. if he offers to bake you an apple pie, resist the urge, seriously.
if you think he might continue messaging you on facebook because he sees that you’re active on it because you send messages to your friends and stuff, then change your settings.</p>

<p>i’d add more if i didn’t have such a horrible memory. you just have to give it some time. and it is the summer, so there’s less contact, unless he’s stalking you at your house or something. :]</p>

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<p>~similar to something from bash.org</p>

<p>say this to him:</p>

<p>“There’s this guy who’s really annoying because he keeps trying to contact me even though he’s not a close friend of mine. What should I say to him to make him back off?”</p>

<p>he says: just tell him <something></something></p>

<p>then you say the <something> to him</something></p>

<p>ex: 1: There’s this really annoying guy who keeps im-ing me. How do I tell him to go away without hurting his feelings?
2: Just tell him you have a boyfriend and then they should meet.
1: You should meet my boyfriend Mike. He’s a great guy.</p>

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<p>block him on fb.</p>

<p>that’s what i did to this stalker of mine.</p>

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<p>I hinted quite heavily that I wasn’t straight (not too hard, because I’m bi already) and made out with a friend of mine in front of him.</p>

<p>A bit extreme, I now realize.</p>

<p>But yes, you should pretend you have a boyfriend and you’re really into him :] Also, defriend him on facebook if it persists.</p>

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<p>just ask him wth he wants in school the next day.</p>

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<p>I know you don’t want to be mean, but being nice just sends the wrong message to some people, and some people are horrible at taking hints. Just tell him straight-up, that he needs to leave you alone.</p>

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<p>unfriend him. He probably wouldn’t know what happened and would get really confused. Maybe it wouldn’t stop him, but it might be fun anyway, and it could keep him at bay for awhile.</p>

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<p>Reply back in Latin. I’m sure you’re capable enough :]
haha. Just wait it out. He’ll find something better to do in a month or so…</p>

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<p>I think I like the Latin idea best.</p>

<p>Ha, I think I’ll figure out a way to combine all of these ideas. Now, just to find my fake boyfriend. So many options, but I want someone burly…</p>

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<p>//(Thank goodness he doesn’t know there’s IM on facebook.)//</p>

<p>Lol, what?</p>

<p>There are burly men at the gym. They are very fine.</p>

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<p>He doesn’t realize you can chat right there on facebook–he thinks you can only send a message. </p>

<p>I’d rather choose a guy I know, but the gym might be good enough.</p>

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<p>//He doesn’t realize you can chat right there on facebook–he thinks you can only send a message.//</p>

<p>He ain’t very bright then. I’d suggest not breeding with him, such genes should not be propagated.</p>

<p>Umm, as for ideas, try the male gym lockers at your school. Just walk in, you’d get props for that.</p>

<p>Or the most burly teacher you know.</p>

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<p>Ah, not so bad of an idea. </p>

<p>Or, I could get someone I know to “threaten” him. I had a friend get him to do that before. It was hillarious. She never heard from him again.</p>

<p>And no, not very bright.</p>